How to cum faster?

tanqueray2 · Post by **tanqueray2** » Thu Nov 01, 2012 9:09 pm

Hello Milovanians, I've been practicing solo T&D, orgasm denial and edging for quite some time now. The problem is that I now have a girlfriend and I'm finding it very difficult to actually "release" I keep mentally getting right to the edge and then not being able to ejaculate.

What can I do to make it easier for me to cum during sex? I am going to cut out ALL porn and masturbation but what else can I do?

I assume I can't be the only one on this forum who has become a little too good at holding in the cum

troyan · Post by **troyan** » Thu Nov 01, 2012 9:15 pm

tanqueray2 wrote: I assume I can't be the only one on this forum who has become a little too good at holding in the cum

+1 :)

I really wouldn't know how to help, but nice to hear you have a gf thou:) Maybe try to think of something that you find "teasing" about sex... I would think of something like how much more intense she feels it, that would make me hot, or something similar lol:) You tried pc-muscle things? I have found about myself that stimulation is not everything. A lot is also about what you see, touch, think,.. for some works talking dirty during sex :P

crazyxxx · Post by **crazyxxx** » Thu Nov 01, 2012 9:48 pm

It will come with time. Also, let her know that you not cumming each and every time does not mean anything bad about you, her or your relation. Maybe tell her that you care so much about her cumming that you don't mind not cumming yourself :) Or that you like long and passionate sex instead of quick flicks :)

green · Post by **green** » Thu Nov 01, 2012 9:50 pm

I would say it depends heavily on the girl.

I've had a girlfriend where I almost came when I enterd her and another one where she could fuck me for hours and I wouldnt cum. And then another one who could almost controll as to when I would cum (: ...

It has alot to do with mind game and how sexually interested and interesting she is ;).

Just my 2 cents :D

good luck

Post by **SexualChoc** » Fri Nov 02, 2012 1:46 am

tanqueray2 wrote:Hello Milovanians, I've been practicing solo T&D, orgasm denial and edging for quite some time now. The problem is that I now have a girlfriend and I'm finding it very difficult to actually "release" I keep mentally getting right to the edge and then not being able to ejaculate.

What can I do to make it easier for me to cum during sex? I am going to cut out ALL porn and masturbation but what else can I do?

I assume I can't be the only one on this forum who has become a little too good at holding in the cum

it may sound.. stupid but as a suggestion..
but you can talk to a doctor..
no one is 100% sure there are no effects from long term denial
so consulting a professional Might be an option.

Hydrate well to increase your sperm count
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/fertil ... IONGROUP=2
here is a helpful list of other things to do and not do.
(mayo clinic is a reputable clinic)

next can you cum at ALL?
like can you stroke and cum? is this possible?

if you can not get yourself to cum, then the suggestion to see a doctor
moves to: you NEED to see a doctor!!

Nezhul · Post by **Nezhul** » Fri Nov 02, 2012 6:53 am

relax and you will cum. I believe your problem lies in tension.
What can you do? Nothing much. I don't think denial would be of much help here.

tanqueray2 · Post by **tanqueray2** » Fri Nov 02, 2012 9:36 am

Thanks for responses all, some good advice.

SexualChoc wrote: next can you cum at ALL?
like can you stroke and cum? is this possible?

if you can not get yourself to cum, then the suggestion to see a doctor
moves to: you NEED to see a doctor!!

I can cum on my own fine, thankfully!

In fact, I can stroke myself to cum onto her after we've had sex but it can take quite a bit of effort and sometimes I still can't manage it..

Plus I feel as if most women find the image of a man masturbating to be a turn-off?

Xaphran · Post by **Xaphran** » Fri Nov 02, 2012 1:15 pm

tanqueray2 wrote:Thanks for responses all, some good advice.

SexualChoc wrote: next can you cum at ALL?
like can you stroke and cum? is this possible?

if you can not get yourself to cum, then the suggestion to see a doctor
moves to: you NEED to see a doctor!!
I can cum on my own fine, thankfully!

In fact, I can stroke myself to cum onto her after we've had sex but it can take quite a bit of effort and sometimes I still can't manage it..

Plus I feel as if most women find the image of a man masturbating to be a turn-off?

As always, it depends on the woman. Most of my gfs loved to watch me masturbate. Doesn't mean yours does. Her turn off may possibly stem from thinking there's something wrong with her that you can't cum without your hand, or the simple separation of not finishing "together." Maybe. Or maybe she just doesn't like watching it, as you suggested.

Depending on what type of T&D you've been doing, have you tried having her command you to cum when the time is right? Or not to cum, if that's what makes it more difficult for you to hold back. Just a suggestion. Mind tricks can work wonders.

Also, I don't know if it's like this for everyone, but I notice that certain positions I could easily last for an hour or more, while others I can barely hold out 5 minutes. Find your "weakness."

Anyway, I'm no expert. Just my two cents, based on what little info I have. Good luck.

JustKrissy · Post by **JustKrissy** » Fri Nov 02, 2012 7:43 pm

tanqueray2 wrote:Plus I feel as if most women find the image of a man masturbating to be a turn-off?

Fact is that most women find men masturbating a bit boring.

Their own man though? Because of them? Hot as hell.

Go for it. (:

green · Post by **green** » Fri Nov 02, 2012 9:33 pm

denymepretty wrote:
tanqueray2 wrote:Plus I feel as if most women find the image of a man masturbating to be a turn-off?

Fact is that most women find men masturbating a bit boring.

Their own man though? Because of them? Hot as hell.

Go for it. (:

I figured that as well :D It a huge turn on for some

book_guy · Post by **book_guy** » Sat Nov 03, 2012 7:10 pm

Let me throw in, that there was once in my life a girlfriend who just could NOT really stimulate me "properly." I talked to her about it, opened up, asked her a thousand different nice ways to stroke me in this or that manner and please do not bite my balls or crush my dick with a bowling pin or whatever ... :P ... and in the long run, I got the feeling that she was just pissed off at me for not having "automatic" responses. I recall that early on in my sexual life, my orgasms were more difficult to arrive at, and then as I got more experienced, I was more able to choose my own responses when and if I wanted them. But with this one girl in question, she was just indoctrinated in the idea that if a girl spreads her legs and lives in North America, then the guy should just damn well be happy that he's getting ANYTHING at all and if he asks her to do MORE than that, well, heck no, he's not going to ruin HER manicure. And so eventually, after giving the truthful and sensitive communication a genuine attempt, and after really getting a commitment from her that she wanted to work on the improvement of the relationship, and after considering my options, I politely ...

broke up with her. What a bitch. But that may not be your problem. Just chiming in, as an alternative theory, that it IS a possibility.

jerkeast · Post by **jerkeast** » Sun Feb 10, 2013 1:14 am

have you tried wearing your g/f s panties. i have done this and when she saw me first she went mad but then she cooled down, now she turned a blind eye when she found her sisters panties in my pocket. i find this amazing and have tried my sisters,my friends g/f and i managed to snare my neighbours daughters panties off the clothes line and they all make me cum faster. if you try this go for black or white lace first if you can.

How to cum faster?

How to cum faster?

Re: How to cum faster?

Re: How to cum faster?

Re: How to cum faster?

Re: How to cum faster?

Re: How to cum faster?

Re: How to cum faster?

Re: How to cum faster?

Re: How to cum faster?

Re: How to cum faster?

Re: How to cum faster?

Re: How to cum faster?