Hi,
I've just come across your site, and i'm hoping someone can help. My boyfriend is really into the tease and denial games, but he doesn't really discuss with me what sort of games he wants to play. I really want to get involved, and tease him to the max, but I'm a little bit stuck for ideas. Can anybody suggest some games to play with him?
Thank You
R
Help: new games needed!
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Re: Help: new games needed!
Well your a dream come true for most guys that enjoy this stuff. But from a personal perspective I'd say show him this site (if he doesn't know about it already) and let him explore and do some of the webteases with him.
Instead of "flying solo" He'd have a girl right there to help him. There are a few intro teases for beginners so if I was you I'd just read some of those and just surprise him with some of your new found tricks one day and see what he thinks.
And btw welcome
Instead of "flying solo" He'd have a girl right there to help him. There are a few intro teases for beginners so if I was you I'd just read some of those and just surprise him with some of your new found tricks one day and see what he thinks.
And btw welcome
TDRULES
Re: Help: new games needed!
Thanks for that. The problem is that he knows all about the tease and denial. He often "plays" on his own whenever I go out. But whever i try and talk to him about it, he dosn't really tell me anything. I normally give him edges but would love a new game to try, but I just need ideas.
R.
R.
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Re: Help: new games needed!
Well I really am not 100% sure then. Kind of shot my idea out. Well I love the edging, maybe your being too nice about it get him a chastity belt and TELL him that he cannot play without you administering the session. Be the one in control, if he likes to be teased and denied then more in likely he will like you being in control. I know I would but every guy is different. Is he new to this or is it just something you recently found out about him?
TDRULES
Re: Help: new games needed!
No, I've always known that he liked to be teased, which works well because i love to tease him. :) I'd say my main concern is that he wants more, hence the reason i catch him on "tease and denial" sites.
I quite like the idea of a chasity belt though, especially if i lock him in one before i go out. ;) Can i ask you what your favourite game is?
I quite like the idea of a chasity belt though, especially if i lock him in one before i go out. ;) Can i ask you what your favourite game is?
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Re: Help: new games needed!
Hi Red,
Well, I'd suggest you do something that surprises him. Just break out of your regular routine a little bit where he least expects it. E.g. if you usually did let him cum, then once in a while don't. (And tell him that it is no longer up to him if he finishes...) If you're the one stroking him, let him do it instead. Take control over the situation. (Make him kneel naked before you, or tie him up.) Make this into an interrogation, to find out what he really does and likes. Since you know that he privately jacks off, that could be a good start, since he will feel guilty. Giving you the opportunity, to take things where you like them.
As for games, there are a few teases for couples on this site, maybe have a look into these for some ideas, or just do them together. So you'll be both not knowing whats to happen.
Greetings,
SBC
Well, I'd suggest you do something that surprises him. Just break out of your regular routine a little bit where he least expects it. E.g. if you usually did let him cum, then once in a while don't. (And tell him that it is no longer up to him if he finishes...) If you're the one stroking him, let him do it instead. Take control over the situation. (Make him kneel naked before you, or tie him up.) Make this into an interrogation, to find out what he really does and likes. Since you know that he privately jacks off, that could be a good start, since he will feel guilty. Giving you the opportunity, to take things where you like them.
As for games, there are a few teases for couples on this site, maybe have a look into these for some ideas, or just do them together. So you'll be both not knowing whats to happen.
Greetings,
SBC
Re: Help: new games needed!
Whoo, monster post ahoy! I'm going for the pulitzer!
I think one of the most exhilerating parts of having someone do t&d with you is the fact that you aren't entirely in control any more. Sure, you can tease yourself when you're alone, but sooner or later, a guy gets to that point, and it's different for everyone, but everyone has a point at which their willpower crumbles, and they either have to stop or cum. So really, as long as he's doing it to himself, he's not really teasing himself, at least not nearly as much as you can.
So, I'd recommend playing that up. Really sink home that you're in control. Try tying him up, and especially, blindfolding him. Then, when he can't see you (and you might want to add earplugs so he really can't tell what's going on), don't just go at him. Play with him for a minute, then take a minute off. If you really work him up into a frenzy, then go get a drink or something and come back, or work on him in short bursts, he'll have no idea what's coming next. It's one of the tricks people try to make themselves feel in control of a situation even if they're not: they try and anticipate. As long as you are doing what he expects, he'll feel perfectly content in the knowledge that he can predict your next move, and he's okay with that. It's safe. Once that's gone, he has no idea what's coming next, and that ought to really ramp up the intensity for him.
Of course, nothing works for everybody, and you won't get the best out of your sessions until he manages to tell you what he wants, but some other ideas are to experiment with various textures and fabrics, like silk and feathers, and to keep changing up whatever methods you're using on him. Again, I encourage you to mess with his expectations, so he never feels like he can anticipate your moves, which will in turn stave off feelings of boredom and repetition. Pay attention to what you do and how you do it next time you tease him: Do you start off slowly and work up to the edge gradualy and sensually, like foreplay, or do you whip him into a frenzy from the word go? Once you get him to the edge, do you make him leave himself alone and calm down, only to drive him berserk again, or do you try to set a new record for how long you can keep him there. Is there any predictable pattern to whether you let him cum at the end, perhaps based on how long it's last been? Do you ever mix teasing with regular sex?
If you haven't tried these, consider using randomizers, like dice, to determine various things, or seeing just how long he can handle the denial before he HAS to cum (the answer: probably longer than he thinks. If you haven't, try it and see. You may need to work up to longer periods of denial over time, but you could be amazed at how eager to please you he may become, and when it's over, his orgasm will probably be mind blowing.) One simple but excellent game that is one of my favorites is to get him to the edge, have him stroke himself, and tell him that he's not to cum until you tell him, but when you do, he only has a few seconds to do so. Ergo, he pretty much has to keep himself on the edge constantly, and he'll find walking that razor thin line between cumming before hand, or dropping too far away to make it in time, even worse when he's stroking himself; feeling like he ought to be in control (after all, it's his hand!), but he's not.
It is important, though, I think, to make clear that there should be some penalty for cumming prematurely, or that if he doesn't cum when you tell him, he doesn't get to. If, in the end, he feels like he can still cum any time he wants to, even if you don't let him, a lot of the exitement and anticipation will be gone. If he can't handle that, and wants to ensure he gets a "happy ending", then I'd recommend sticking with games where you directly control his orgasm. I'd say the two most likely reasons he likes t&d are either: the idea of having you in command, which might be something he has difficulty expressing, especially if he enjoys it as a fantasy, but not as a lifestyle, and is concerned that if he tells you, you might try and become a domineering bitch (no offense) in all aspects of your relationship (Then again, maybe that is his fantasy...which would also be difficult for him to express. Tread lightly, and make sure he understands you just want to learn more about him, not judge him on anything, and he ought to open up to you if he feels safe. If that fails, get him on the edge and ask again :)
Secondly, he might not be so interested in the domme/sub aspects, but simply enjoying the fact that t&d increases the pleasure of your orgasm. If this is the case, then get his permission at the beginning of the evening, and go to town. With you edging him, he can be taken so much farther than he could on his own, and he can be allowed to linger on the edge for so much longer than his self-control would allow. Try just setting aside an evening, and going to town for as long as you like, using as many different methods and items as you can think of, but mainly, just keeping him close to orgasm. By the time the night is through, he should be making some pretty interesting noises
Hope I've given you something to think about, and I wish you and your man all the best. If you're still loking for ideas, try looking around on the internet for t&d stories and video clips (or go through his history, if you're okay with that, and see what it is that he's found so interesting)...there's some very creative stuff out there. In the end, you're the fantasy of a lot of guys out there, and I'm sure you and your boyfriend will have some wonderful times.
Enjoy!
I think one of the most exhilerating parts of having someone do t&d with you is the fact that you aren't entirely in control any more. Sure, you can tease yourself when you're alone, but sooner or later, a guy gets to that point, and it's different for everyone, but everyone has a point at which their willpower crumbles, and they either have to stop or cum. So really, as long as he's doing it to himself, he's not really teasing himself, at least not nearly as much as you can.
So, I'd recommend playing that up. Really sink home that you're in control. Try tying him up, and especially, blindfolding him. Then, when he can't see you (and you might want to add earplugs so he really can't tell what's going on), don't just go at him. Play with him for a minute, then take a minute off. If you really work him up into a frenzy, then go get a drink or something and come back, or work on him in short bursts, he'll have no idea what's coming next. It's one of the tricks people try to make themselves feel in control of a situation even if they're not: they try and anticipate. As long as you are doing what he expects, he'll feel perfectly content in the knowledge that he can predict your next move, and he's okay with that. It's safe. Once that's gone, he has no idea what's coming next, and that ought to really ramp up the intensity for him.
Of course, nothing works for everybody, and you won't get the best out of your sessions until he manages to tell you what he wants, but some other ideas are to experiment with various textures and fabrics, like silk and feathers, and to keep changing up whatever methods you're using on him. Again, I encourage you to mess with his expectations, so he never feels like he can anticipate your moves, which will in turn stave off feelings of boredom and repetition. Pay attention to what you do and how you do it next time you tease him: Do you start off slowly and work up to the edge gradualy and sensually, like foreplay, or do you whip him into a frenzy from the word go? Once you get him to the edge, do you make him leave himself alone and calm down, only to drive him berserk again, or do you try to set a new record for how long you can keep him there. Is there any predictable pattern to whether you let him cum at the end, perhaps based on how long it's last been? Do you ever mix teasing with regular sex?
If you haven't tried these, consider using randomizers, like dice, to determine various things, or seeing just how long he can handle the denial before he HAS to cum (the answer: probably longer than he thinks. If you haven't, try it and see. You may need to work up to longer periods of denial over time, but you could be amazed at how eager to please you he may become, and when it's over, his orgasm will probably be mind blowing.) One simple but excellent game that is one of my favorites is to get him to the edge, have him stroke himself, and tell him that he's not to cum until you tell him, but when you do, he only has a few seconds to do so. Ergo, he pretty much has to keep himself on the edge constantly, and he'll find walking that razor thin line between cumming before hand, or dropping too far away to make it in time, even worse when he's stroking himself; feeling like he ought to be in control (after all, it's his hand!), but he's not.
It is important, though, I think, to make clear that there should be some penalty for cumming prematurely, or that if he doesn't cum when you tell him, he doesn't get to. If, in the end, he feels like he can still cum any time he wants to, even if you don't let him, a lot of the exitement and anticipation will be gone. If he can't handle that, and wants to ensure he gets a "happy ending", then I'd recommend sticking with games where you directly control his orgasm. I'd say the two most likely reasons he likes t&d are either: the idea of having you in command, which might be something he has difficulty expressing, especially if he enjoys it as a fantasy, but not as a lifestyle, and is concerned that if he tells you, you might try and become a domineering bitch (no offense) in all aspects of your relationship (Then again, maybe that is his fantasy...which would also be difficult for him to express. Tread lightly, and make sure he understands you just want to learn more about him, not judge him on anything, and he ought to open up to you if he feels safe. If that fails, get him on the edge and ask again :)
Secondly, he might not be so interested in the domme/sub aspects, but simply enjoying the fact that t&d increases the pleasure of your orgasm. If this is the case, then get his permission at the beginning of the evening, and go to town. With you edging him, he can be taken so much farther than he could on his own, and he can be allowed to linger on the edge for so much longer than his self-control would allow. Try just setting aside an evening, and going to town for as long as you like, using as many different methods and items as you can think of, but mainly, just keeping him close to orgasm. By the time the night is through, he should be making some pretty interesting noises
Hope I've given you something to think about, and I wish you and your man all the best. If you're still loking for ideas, try looking around on the internet for t&d stories and video clips (or go through his history, if you're okay with that, and see what it is that he's found so interesting)...there's some very creative stuff out there. In the end, you're the fantasy of a lot of guys out there, and I'm sure you and your boyfriend will have some wonderful times.
Enjoy!
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Re: Help: new games needed!
Playing games...
- Put him in a chastity device, and keep the key on a necklace. That is, if you don't mind him staring at your breasts.
- You can also give him a blowjob, or something as close as it get's, while he is in a chastity device. Prefably when you don't have the key with you, and he knows.
As for games without a chastity device...
- I recall the mirror game somewhere on this site. Handcuff your pet with one hand to the ceiling. With the help of his other hand, he should try to cover a mirror on the floor with precum, while you go out.
- Let him do 100 strokes at a medium speed every half a hour during the evening. After a period of denial, stroking feels very good, and 100 strokes are definitely not enough! Having to stop at that point is very frustrating.
- Let him wear a rope around his cock and balls.
- Let him watch his favourite porn for fifteen minutes, but with hands off.
As for the role-playing part...
- Give your pet a names like 'bear' or 'puppy' during your teasing games. After a while, you can use the same names once in a while in the company of friends or family. They won't know the meaning behind those names, but your pet will
- Put him in a chastity device, and keep the key on a necklace. That is, if you don't mind him staring at your breasts.
- You can also give him a blowjob, or something as close as it get's, while he is in a chastity device. Prefably when you don't have the key with you, and he knows.
As for games without a chastity device...
- I recall the mirror game somewhere on this site. Handcuff your pet with one hand to the ceiling. With the help of his other hand, he should try to cover a mirror on the floor with precum, while you go out.
- Let him do 100 strokes at a medium speed every half a hour during the evening. After a period of denial, stroking feels very good, and 100 strokes are definitely not enough! Having to stop at that point is very frustrating.
- Let him wear a rope around his cock and balls.
- Let him watch his favourite porn for fifteen minutes, but with hands off.
As for the role-playing part...
- Give your pet a names like 'bear' or 'puppy' during your teasing games. After a while, you can use the same names once in a while in the company of friends or family. They won't know the meaning behind those names, but your pet will
Re: Help: new games needed!
Hey all,
Thank you for the advice. You've given me some excellent ideas on keeping his frustration levels up. We'll just have to see if he's good enough to please me now. ;p
R
Thank you for the advice. You've given me some excellent ideas on keeping his frustration levels up. We'll just have to see if he's good enough to please me now. ;p
R
Re: Help: new games needed!
Thanks everyone!
I've had some very naughty ideas and gone and bought some interesting props! ;) If this fails, I'll just have to suprise him, and become a "virtual mistress" myself, and then we'll see how easy he gets it.
Red
I've had some very naughty ideas and gone and bought some interesting props! ;) If this fails, I'll just have to suprise him, and become a "virtual mistress" myself, and then we'll see how easy he gets it.
Red
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Re: Help: new games needed!
Well Then
Why don't you try
writting a tease together
And stroke him between pages
"soo hun, how many more strokes should we do for this page
or what do you think would you want to have your (body part) slapped?
or perhaps you enjoy the next page is some femine clothes
only after at least ten pages
should you begin to ask about wheather he thinks he should get to cum
or made to wait
The beauty of it is that you can override anything he picks
and see how he reacts
Things like 100 strokes, No I think you need to do 200
also check to see if he has an 'favorite' teases
I am glad you have joined our community
and am looking forward to any tease(s) you can add
Why don't you try
writting a tease together
And stroke him between pages
"soo hun, how many more strokes should we do for this page
or what do you think would you want to have your (body part) slapped?
or perhaps you enjoy the next page is some femine clothes
only after at least ten pages
should you begin to ask about wheather he thinks he should get to cum
or made to wait
The beauty of it is that you can override anything he picks
and see how he reacts
Things like 100 strokes, No I think you need to do 200
also check to see if he has an 'favorite' teases
I am glad you have joined our community
and am looking forward to any tease(s) you can add
to thine own self be true
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Re: Help: new games needed!
Hi Red,
I'm in a new relationship too and it's me who's into T&D whilst my lover is quite inexperienced and nervous about the whole thing....
If you are into oral pleasure you could encourage him to make love to you with his tongue, fingers, a vibrator or whatever and simply let your inhibitions go and enjoy yourself ... for me (and I assume all the guys here) the most erotic thing in the world is experiencing a lady orgasming. When you are satisfied I think you might simply want to roll over, have a warm cuddle and fall asleep in his arms.... if he loves you and really likes to be on the edge he will happily hold you as you sleep and relish the fact that he is holding a gorgeous girl asleep in his arms. After you have a night's sleep he will be more desparate for his own pleasure but you could no doubt encourage him to pleasure you again before you "realise" the time and jump up out of bed to face the day.
If your partner is keen for satisfaction you could go out an erand or go and meet a friend for lunch, asking him to do a simple chore or two round the house for which you would be VERY greatful, maybe even tell him what you would like to do when you get back.... it will seldom be good enough for your promise to be paid out...
If you get him to last a week or so between making love you could comment on the massive amount he loads out.... then pass hints if they are smaller subsequently.... psychologically he'll want to impress you and will voluntarilly avoid wanking etc in the hope that he can impress you.....
If you don't yet live together you could drop little comments about meeting up with friends for lunch, dinner etc and if you are adventurous and you're not too close, even mention friends staying over and having a "cuddle".
I've been thro' the scenario of a party when I couldn't be there.... and the fact that my "gf/friend/I don't know yet" openly admitted to all our friends that she slept with someone just because the other half of the double bed was the last soft surface in the house, when she woke up in his arms he was fast asleep, naked and well endowed while she still had a bra on and aparently passed out as soon as her head hit the pillow... did anything happen? I don't know!!!!! I don't want to ask. Try it ... I think it upped my attention to her....
Invite your girlfriends round and have full and frank discusions about boyfriends making sure you have a giggle about yours when he can hear.... you must know someone who would appreciate his attentions and encourage her to come round more, even a little sister, who can tease him too simply by knowing what makes him tick....
This post is getting too long, I'll prabably post again but for now... good luck to the both of you... and congratulations on what could be a fullfilling relationship.
I'm in a new relationship too and it's me who's into T&D whilst my lover is quite inexperienced and nervous about the whole thing....
If you are into oral pleasure you could encourage him to make love to you with his tongue, fingers, a vibrator or whatever and simply let your inhibitions go and enjoy yourself ... for me (and I assume all the guys here) the most erotic thing in the world is experiencing a lady orgasming. When you are satisfied I think you might simply want to roll over, have a warm cuddle and fall asleep in his arms.... if he loves you and really likes to be on the edge he will happily hold you as you sleep and relish the fact that he is holding a gorgeous girl asleep in his arms. After you have a night's sleep he will be more desparate for his own pleasure but you could no doubt encourage him to pleasure you again before you "realise" the time and jump up out of bed to face the day.
If your partner is keen for satisfaction you could go out an erand or go and meet a friend for lunch, asking him to do a simple chore or two round the house for which you would be VERY greatful, maybe even tell him what you would like to do when you get back.... it will seldom be good enough for your promise to be paid out...
If you get him to last a week or so between making love you could comment on the massive amount he loads out.... then pass hints if they are smaller subsequently.... psychologically he'll want to impress you and will voluntarilly avoid wanking etc in the hope that he can impress you.....
If you don't yet live together you could drop little comments about meeting up with friends for lunch, dinner etc and if you are adventurous and you're not too close, even mention friends staying over and having a "cuddle".
I've been thro' the scenario of a party when I couldn't be there.... and the fact that my "gf/friend/I don't know yet" openly admitted to all our friends that she slept with someone just because the other half of the double bed was the last soft surface in the house, when she woke up in his arms he was fast asleep, naked and well endowed while she still had a bra on and aparently passed out as soon as her head hit the pillow... did anything happen? I don't know!!!!! I don't want to ask. Try it ... I think it upped my attention to her....
Invite your girlfriends round and have full and frank discusions about boyfriends making sure you have a giggle about yours when he can hear.... you must know someone who would appreciate his attentions and encourage her to come round more, even a little sister, who can tease him too simply by knowing what makes him tick....
This post is getting too long, I'll prabably post again but for now... good luck to the both of you... and congratulations on what could be a fullfilling relationship.
Life is an adventure, enjoy it.
Re: Help: new games needed!
Hi again Red,
Just a brief one this time...
I once spent two weeks staying with my then girlfriend at her grandmothers house and we took granny everywhere we went so couldn't really kiss or cuddle never mind anything else....
We did sleep in the same room however, in separate single beds that creaked and groaned horribly so no chance of making love....
My girlfriend was a brilliant tease and after a brief kiss standing up would jump into her bed naked throwing the covers back and let me watch her quietly pleasure herself, the beds were just close enough that I could manouvre myself slowly and quietly to lick and suck either her outstretched hand or foot, whichever she decided.....
When she was satisfied she would look at me with her lustful eyes and luscious lips mouthing "thankyou" before switching the light out and pulling the covers over herself for a good nights sleep.
Knowing her Granny was through the wall I'd gently drag my covers over no matter what end of the bed my head was at and try to sleep... literally three or four strokes in the bed I was in seemed to create a resonant frequency in the bed so I couldn't do it....
Possibly the longest (and best) two weeks holliday I've had.
Just a brief one this time...
I once spent two weeks staying with my then girlfriend at her grandmothers house and we took granny everywhere we went so couldn't really kiss or cuddle never mind anything else....
We did sleep in the same room however, in separate single beds that creaked and groaned horribly so no chance of making love....
My girlfriend was a brilliant tease and after a brief kiss standing up would jump into her bed naked throwing the covers back and let me watch her quietly pleasure herself, the beds were just close enough that I could manouvre myself slowly and quietly to lick and suck either her outstretched hand or foot, whichever she decided.....
When she was satisfied she would look at me with her lustful eyes and luscious lips mouthing "thankyou" before switching the light out and pulling the covers over herself for a good nights sleep.
Knowing her Granny was through the wall I'd gently drag my covers over no matter what end of the bed my head was at and try to sleep... literally three or four strokes in the bed I was in seemed to create a resonant frequency in the bed so I couldn't do it....
Possibly the longest (and best) two weeks holliday I've had.
Life is an adventure, enjoy it.
Re: Help: new games needed!
Hi I'm new here---Red what happened??? Did you tryout the games the guys suggested?? Practice on us if you want to!!! 