So I've been pretty much a lurker on here for the past few months. I have to say that the Milovana community is pretty much the best thing I've come across on the web since discovering my interest in bdsm and teasing. I know it sounds weird, but this site has been kind of a life changer!
A lot of that has to do with the fact that most GOOD teases, and the community that support the creation of them, are somewhat of an education for those of us that have not had regular exposure to a "real life" BDSM relationship or mistress. While I have been seeking (and do seek) fulfillment of my fantasies and fetishes in offline relationships, exposure to the teases, and getting creative (writing teases) with my fantasies is kind of a training ground until such time as I find a partner who is on the level. Anyway, all that said, I'm in the midst of writing my first tease, and it's going to focus specifically on held edges (aka riding the edge). This has thus far been a weakness of mine, and though there are a few teases (such as TSOD) that definitely make edging the focus, I almost always feel like I still need to find a tease that starts from scratch. So I decided to write that tease myself!
I would appreciate the community's feedback and ideas on a couple things as I get ready to release the first part of what will be a series:
- 1. For those of you that have mastered holding your edges, can you offer up some advice or suggestions on training exercises that I can build into the tease? I already know about the so-called "ladders." And that is one exercise that will be included. But I have not really found much else.
2. I'm doing some real research in prep for this, so any physiological or psychological references that you can point me to would be helpful as well (ex. articles on Tantric techniques, or teases that have edge training built in to them that I may have missed).
