Coping with denial and not touching

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Coping with denial and not touching

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So I think I saw something awhile back titled "Coping with denial" had a search and looked through some pages but couldn't find it, probably just because I'm tired.

Anyways, my mistress has lately been teasing me relentlessly and forcing me to watch 30minutes of woman/women on guy strap-on videos per day, in addition to a slideshow of pictures of her and any other tasks she has me do or videos she sends me.
Due to timezones and commitments, we can only usually cam on weekends, so throughout the week I am suffering and I'm struggling so bad not to touch. I get hard at the slightest erotic picture or thought and precum oozes out like crazy, after 30minutes of strap-on porn I have a pool of precum on my stomach. I don't even get the satisfaction of touching my cock to readjust or go to the toilet.

Anyways onto the point, I got distracted.
I need some tips to help me deal with not touching and to deal with the denial. It's just so hard. I have to bite my hands or squeeze my legs with my hands, it's so bad. My mind goes mental with thoughts and ideas and it's so hard to distract myself.

I'd love to hear some tips on how to deal with it or stories from people, or people's own ways to deal with not touching and/or being denied.

Thankyou again!
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Re: Coping with denial and not touching

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It is a question of will power



I have recommended something that works for some people
(that means there is a chnce this won't work.. but it's worth a try)
IF you allowed to wear underwear...
you choose just one pair.. to be your chastity set
and act like, think like you are in a chastity belt
you only take it off at the sides you sit on toilet
I am Locked up
can help a lot mentally

however you doi still need to do daily teasing..
following mistress' instructions

just suggesting something you can do.. while at work or lounging around house.
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Re: Coping with denial and not touching

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If I were you, I would start reading alot. Buy good magazines or good books. When I say "good," I mean what you like. Just fill your time with hobbies. I know dommes/mistresses like to keep you aroused at all times so you think of them constantly, but they probably don't think of you constantly.... Most of the time thinking of each other, in my opion, is healthy, but all the time, well then, you have to just accept it. But we should all have a little time to ourselves without thought of our controller. Buy a good book, is my advice. Hope it helps. Don't think about it, just accept it, and life is much happier. Let her control your orgasm, and thoughts, but keep a section of your brain for yourself. Stay sane....Hope it works out.
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Thankyou both for the help, I'll keep it in mind :)
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reservoir wrote:So I think I saw something awhile back titled "Coping with denial" had a search and looked through some pages but couldn't find it, probably just because I'm tired.

Anyways, my mistress has lately been teasing me relentlessly and forcing me to watch 30minutes of woman/women on guy strap-on videos per day, in addition to a slideshow of pictures of her and any other tasks she has me do or videos she sends me.
Due to timezones and commitments, we can only usually cam on weekends, so throughout the week I am suffering and I'm struggling so bad not to touch. I get hard at the slightest erotic picture or thought and precum oozes out like crazy, after 30minutes of strap-on porn I have a pool of precum on my stomach. I don't even get the satisfaction of touching my cock to readjust or go to the toilet.

Anyways onto the point, I got distracted.
I need some tips to help me deal with not touching and to deal with the denial. It's just so hard. I have to bite my hands or squeeze my legs with my hands, it's so bad. My mind goes mental with thoughts and ideas and it's so hard to distract myself.

I'd love to hear some tips on how to deal with it or stories from people, or people's own ways to deal with not touching and/or being denied.

Thankyou again!
My main advice is to revel in the torment of it all *bites lip* It sounds like your Mistress has got you pretty wound up and horny. You could beg her for a chastity belt I suppose, which would mean you wouldnt be able to touch at all. But then who knows how long you will be locked up for

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Re: Coping with denial and not touching

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So I pleased my mistress with some tasks and she awarded me 100 strokes. I know this doesn't sound like much but I was looking forward to them. So she gave me permission to watch some porn other than strap-on porn and do these as a reward. Started them to facesitting porn. Then on my 43rd stroke I hit the edge, I stopped but it seems I went over it as ropes of cum just came out in a ruined orgasm :/

Turns out I'm not very good at this denial thing :p I've got a lot to learn!
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