How to make yourself stop before an accident happens

[Sett]

Closely related to THIS thread...

[Banquo]

I'm assuming from some of your other posts that you are on about edging successfully?

Well I think it is different for everyone, but for me I can feel the climax building like a pressure of something that is gonna blow. like the cork in a champagne bottle. Now it is a matter of finding the right stopping point where you will be as close to that climax as possible yet also being able to stop that climax. It can be hard to get to begin with and takes a fair bit of practise. But with a little determination you can do it.

This link may help you

Banquo

[Sett]

Well i think i have relatively good grasp of edging itself, though i'm not always able to detect it in time. That's not quite the issue however.

What i'm asking for is some way to determine when and how to say to myself that enough is enough, that i have to stop edging, masturbating, everything and go do something else. Also i'm trying to do this when as horny as possible. This however makes me go on (just one more good edge....) and on (that one wasn't really good) and on (good one, let's hold it for a second). Until i screw up.

Going with slower stimulation is safer, but as time passes and i become less responsive, more stimulation is needed to reach the edge (obviously) and it's therefore easier to slip off...

Basically: how do i know when it is best to stop edging and go just enjoy the consequences?

[Banquo]

Well that is somewhat harder for me to say. For me I would happily go on and do hundreds of edges in a day, in fact once I did over 1000. However if you are doing a certain task or have a dominant watching over you. When they tell you to stop, you stop, and if the task doesn't permit any more edges, you stop.

This can be incredibly frustrating, and can lead to a lot of begging *chuckles* but at the same time it is just so delicious to be so denied and so horny *mmmmm*

*regains composure*

If you are still interested in doing the Summer of Abstinence game then this will only allow you a maximum of 8 edges per day. Though on sunny days you may touch as much as you like *chuckles* you could always limit yourself to only doing the edges that are specifically requested by the task. it would be good practise, and would perhaps help to keep your urges under control enough for you to experience the frustration you seem to desire.

Banquo

[Oda]

Yes... Banq is a crazy edger, but maybe i can help you a bit.

I can edge alot too, but i can tell when i need to stop by feeling how the point of edging changes slightly. What i mean is this... in the beginning it is pretty easy to edge. I feel the exact point and stop, but when i go on and on with some edges this point isn´t a point anymore. It gets more fluid and it´s hard to tell if i am already edging or not. So if i continue in that state, i need to push myself really, really close to cumming to get to the edge or to really feel it. The risk to slip over in that moment is very high so i normally take a break in that state. After awhile i can return to edging, because it is a point again.

Not sure if that helps, but i thought it could help.

Peace

[Sett]

If you are still interested in doing the Summer of Abstinence game then this will only allow you a maximum of 8 edges per day. Though on sunny days you may touch as much as you like *chuckles* you could always limit yourself to only doing the edges that are specifically requested by the task. it would be good practise, and would perhaps help to keep your urges under control enough for you to experience the frustration you seem to desire.

Hmmmmm..... I'm positive the one-edge-one-hour would kill me in under a week but i certainly will put some more thoughts into this (or this general direction anyways)

Yes... Banq is a crazy edger, but maybe i can help you a bit.

I can edge alot too, but i can tell when i need to stop by feeling how the point of edging changes slightly. What i mean is this... in the beginning it is pretty easy to edge. I feel the exact point and stop, but when i go on and on with some edges this point isn´t a point anymore. It gets more fluid and it´s hard to tell if i am already edging or not. So if i continue in that state, i need to push myself really, really close to cumming to get to the edge or to really feel it. The risk to slip over in that moment is very high so i normally take a break in that state. After awhile i can return to edging, because it is a point again.

Not sure if that helps, but i thought it could help.

Peace

Yea, i guess i know what you mean... Now if only i could stop myself right there

Thank you guys

[fearghas]

Well, I don't know if this will be of any help, but I have some thoughts I could ramble about.

First, I agree totally with Oda about repeated edgings causing the actual "point of the edge" to become less obvious. It's almost like it becomes a range instead of a point, or like you don't see it coming until you're right on top of it like a roadside sign that's too small. Or, if you think of arousal as a 1 to 10 scale, with ten being the ragged edge, suddenly you skip 8 and 9, after repeated edges.

As far as accident avoidance goes, I say go slooooooww. Don't do hard fast strokes to the edge. If you edge and let yourself come down a bit, take your time on the ramp back up. You're edging, what's the hurry? Enjoy the trip, and you'll see the destination before you get there. Also, I don't know what you normally do, but I'd say spend some time focusing on riding the edge, rather than racking up as many as possible. This is dangerous, yes, but when I started holding edges for as long as I could, I really learned a lot about my body, the different stages of an orgasm's final approach, and what I could do to stop it.

Now, if I read correctly what you had in your other topic, it seems like you enjoy edging more than orgasm, and wish to just keep doing that, but those pesky orgasms keep getting in the way because, even if you ruin it, it's a while until you can get back to the edging because of the refractory period. That right? I would ask if you've ever tried something that goes by different names, I call it milking and it's different from a ruined orgasm. It goes back to riding the edge, really. Sometimes, I like to keep myself right at the very edge for as long as I can. I'm talking I'm worked up to the point that one fingertip just barely touching the underside of my cock, not even moving(okay, I may be shaking a bit, but the point is I'm giving as light a touch as possible and moving as little as possible), is keeping me there and slowly pulling me ever closer to going over. I can pull the finger away at what I have learned is JUST in time, wait just a few seconds while my body moves back from the edge a couple centimeters, then put the finger back. Eventually, I'll stop all contact and instead of slowing down, the my body seems to continue ever so slowly towards orgasm, and I will dribble out a full load's worth of cum, as much as six seconds after all contact has ceased. I'm talking about the razor thin middle ground between orgasm and not orgasm; literally, if there was a fan in the room the air moving would've been enough to push me from "milking" to ruined orgasm. But, what I'm talking about isn't a ruined orgasm. There are no muscle spasms whatever; and when I said it dribbles out, I mean dribbles, with no air time whatever, it just seeps out, but there's a lot of it, takes forever. But, if I aproach everything slowly enough, get the timing just right, breathe slow and keep relaxed, resist the urge to grab hold and "rescue" the orgasm, and then wait long enough before touching again, no orgasm of any form actualy occurs. It is very frustrating, but refractory doesn't come into play, I can continue edging, feeling somewhat "reset", if you will, but still feeling denied.

However, you also said something about stopping the edging and just enjoying the consequences. I assume you are talking about blue balls. In my experience, the milking will prevent, or at least greatly reduce the blue balls, so give and take.

Also, you say you want to stop before you have an accident, as the main goal here. Seems like you want to go at least somewhat long term - as in days without orgasm, rather than just having the longest session possible and cumming at the end (tease & delay, as it were). During an edge session, one will have an edge and sort of think, whoa that was damn close, I don't think I'll be able to resist next time cause I just got so damn close. You may not want to hear yourself say this, but you will, so commit yourself before you begin to ending it all when you hear that little voice. If you need to, start by deciding exactly what you are going to do before you begin, based on number of edges or time, and then hold yourself to it when you get there, even if you feel like you could do more. Obviously, a Mistress is the best way to enforce this, but as you do not seem to have one, maybe some accountability could help. Maybe post here or somewhere else what you plan to do and pledge to update as to success or failure.

Ultimately, though, there is absolutely nothing anyone can say to make you not have an "accident". This all comes down to willpower. End of story. I get the sense you are at least a somewhat experienced edger, possibly very experienced. The fact is, you know where the edge is, you know the difference between on it and over it. If you don't wanna cum, then don't. Cowboy up and put your pants on for a while when you have that edge that you know deep down is one or two edges away from an accident. Just do it.

[Sett]

Thank fearghas,

very useful post.

What you describe in the third paragraph is basically what i usually try to do when i know i screwed up, but it seldom works, and even if it does, it still relieves the pressure, which i'd like to keep for a while...

Problem with "navigation" based on close ones is that for me they are pretty much random (as opposed to getting closer and closer with consecutive edges). Maybe i'm really just going too fast.

As for mistress my GF is quite shy and i actually have HER denied, so for now i'm just happy to have that. Having some other girl to look after me is out of question in monogamous relationship, and i don't think i could follow orders from someone i don't know. Well, actually i'm really bad at following orders in general
So that leaves you folks.

[fearghas]

Well, actually i'm really bad at following orders in general

HA! Well, at least you are honest!

good luck!

[mbop]

Usually when a man ejaculates it's because his cock head was stimulated too much.

If you think you're close, stop touching the tip. It's the most sensitive point, so even minor movements at the edge when you're not under complete control can send you over.

It's still possible, but you probably won't cum and you can still edge while focusing on the shaft. Of course guys always want more glans stimulation because it feels good to them, but that will lead to accidents sooner or later unless you're made of stone.