My girlfriend just found my porn

[teazetoy2]

But it's not "ordinary" porn...

I gave her a flashdisc and it had 11 cruelgirlfriends vids on it.

She had a quick look but now she's gone out and is gonna be back at about 7.

What the fuck am I gonna do??

[teazetoy2]

Fuck it - flashdisc wiped. Better to deal with the consequences of deleting them against her wishes than deal with the consequences of her watching my pov humiliation porn.

[Snot]

I don't see the problem. I think it would be pretty hard for you to get her to act out any of your fantasies without showing her your porn.

I got my wife doing a lot kinky stuff just by showing her porn and letting her know I want her to act like the chick in this video tonight. Sounds like you don't really have an open relationship or either a kinky sex life wasn't something you've thought about having with her.

I'm sure it will work out.

[Salerio]

I think your model here needs revision. She knew it was porn. Once you delete it, she knows it's "porn sufficiently embarrassing/awful that you absolutely won't let her see it". In effect, you're telling her it's horrible stuff. And since there's lots of stuff worse than pov humiliation porn, it's not clear her opinion of you is better off in a world where you show her the stuff compared to the world where you delete it.

[Human]

teazetoy is royally fucked. No matter what he says, or shows her. she will wonder what it was that got deleted. For the rest of her life.

Teazetoy, get a new girlfriend.

[alchemi183]

I was in a 14 year marriage where I had to hide my porn (didn't work) and could never be open about what I wanted. Miserable.

I'm now in an eight year (so far) marriage where my wife doesn't mind me watching porn and occasionally watches with me while we have sex.

I can't begin to describe how much better it is now. It's not just porn...it goes way beyond that. It's an acceptance of who I am and loving me for me...not for what she wants me to be, but for what and who I am.

Teasetoy, I don't know you or your situation, so I'm not sure exactly how my experience applies, but life is miserable if you have to hide.

[Human]

I was in a 14 year marriage where I had to hide my porn (didn't work).

She found your stash?
What was her reaction?

[Griffyn]

life is miserable if you have to hide.

+1

If I suggested that your girlfriend wants you to mould yourself to what she wants her boyfriend to be, rather than in love with who you are, proverbial warts and all, does this sound about right?

The grass could be greener elsewhere...

[johnsmith3x]

Just relax. If she's worth keeping, she'll understand you have fantasies and desires, and if not you can find a new one. Do you really want a relationship where you can't be honest?

[Human]

+1

If I suggested that your girlfriend wants you to mould yourself to what she wants her boyfriend to be, rather than in love with who you are, proverbial warts and all, does this sound about right?

The grass could be greener elsewhere...

Life could be greener, or more worse elsewhere.
What if she is everything you want, except that you know she will never be
comfortable with certain fetishes. Is it fair to her to burden her with that side of you?
Or to leave her because you cannot disclose the fetishes?

[book_guy]

Is she so super-hot that she is the only female human on the planet who has a vagina that's worth having sex with? Or, is she a normal person?