Why are femdom videos so ugly ?

[peter42]

When I browse the Milovana pages, I see pictures of beautiful women, along with teasing and denial stories. So far, so good.

However, when I search for femdom videos, I find sites like xhamster.com or xvideos.com, and what is tagged there as "femdom" are mostly ugly women, shouting, beating, tantalizing men, who, by the way, don't seem to be aroused by that procedure.

So why are femdom videos so ugly ? Or is it just me, who feels disgusted ? Where can tease and denial videos be found ?

-- Peter

[psychodude7]

Some of the most arousing femdom shoots (for me) have been from Divine Bitches on Kink.com, Teasing-Video.com has quite a selection of tease and denial shoots as well. Quite a few shoots from these sights can be found on various tube sites as well, should you be *ahem* short on money

[janmb]

I agree that much of the femdom material is both ugly and often displays a too cheap version of the demeaning attitude... While I usually have no problem with swearing, talking down to people etc, I find much of that stuff in femdom videos to be poorly acted and generally just serves as a huge distraction.

There are some very good exceptions to this though...

You should probably search around some more - there are plenty stuff without ugly chicks or lame shouting out there - just hard to find in the forest of poor stuff.

Most of the kink.com stuff is good, particularly divine bitches, but there are bad examples there as well. Men in pain is also interesting.

[tdrules]

1st let me ask you this xhampster is a free tube site...what do you expect for free?

2nd try clips4sale.com

It is a pay per clip but the price isn't outrageous. Generally a $1 a minute...only time its really expensive is if its a Financial Domination video.

To get the "good stuff" you have to pay...just like anything else.

[Ohmega]

Niche market, which means little competition, which means they can get away with crap, because they know you don't have many options.

To get the "good stuff" you have to pay...just like anything else.

Yarr, my motley crew and I beg to differ!

[omgimapotato99]

That's right! There isn't much of good stuff what you can get for free. If you want the best stuff you will need to pay.

[Nezhul]

as long as I agree that membership sites (like the ones of kink.com or others) offer more quality and better looking girls, I would say that I DO find that Femdom videos are about 95% oriented not on the pleasure or experience of a sub, but on some sadistic satisfaction of a mistress. The content of nice but demanding women toying with guys to the point of satisfaction of BOTH is practically non-existent.

As I said in the other thread, it's really strange that in MALEdom BDSM videos there are pretty good choice of sites where master concentrates on his sub, filling her with sexual energy and putting her experience on top of his own. Yet in Femdom in most cases a guy is hurt, humiliated and then the video ends. As if it is the POINT of a femdom relationship.

Anyway, as this thread goes on, if anyone knows a site where girls act feminine (not shouting bitches) and both partners get their pleasure (sex, blowjob at least, etc), I'd be really obliged for the link.

[les]

There are several levels of "Femdom"

Humiliation.
Torture esp C&B
Bondage
Masturbation
Hand jobs
CFNM
Teasing.

Every bodies view of pure "Femdom" varies according to their kink.

So you need to refine your search in some of these genres.
Also search by a models name, as most stick to a particular style.

[peter42]

I would say that I DO find that Femdom videos are about 95% oriented not on the pleasure or experience of a sub, but on some sadistic satisfaction of a mistress.

This is exactly, what I meant. As anybody can see, the boy is not aroused and the girl is wondering, why she is doing this.

-- Peter

[book_guy]

There are several levels of "Femdom"

Humiliation.
Torture esp C&B
Bondage
Masturbation
Hand jobs
CFNM
Teasing.

Les: I think you've left out "instruction" and "encouragement." Shouldn't those sub-categories be part of the general "fem-dom" category? Maybe, maybe not ...

I'm personally very interested in scenes which offer a hot woman telling me what to do, in rather specific ("scientific"? is that the right word) detail, as long as what she tells me to do, is indeed something I would want to have done to me; but I'm not personally very interested in scenes which offer a hot woman telling me to do something which, otherwise, I would not do. Or, to put it all differently, I like it when a video-image of a hot gal can "take the lead," but I don't have any fantasies of "submitting" to that gal.

To me, this means I want "instruction" and "encouragement" videos, among others. Some people would put jack-off-instruction (for instance) in the fem-dom category; other people wouldn't. So I find it kind of difficult to search because sometimes the "dom" part of fem-dom simply implies that the female takes the lead, whereas at other times the "dom" implies that the female abuses, debases, humiliates, or inflicts pain onto, the male.

I wonder if there are better Google strategies to solve my conundrum. :)

[peter42]

That's right! There isn't much of good stuff what you can get for free. If you want the best stuff you will need to pay.

OK. And what is a good source for buying ?

[Nezhul]

Les, I think you are missing out quite a few things to femdom actually.
I don't know. For me ANY BDSM is not about abuse at all. I totally agree that humiliation or CBT may be someone's kink, and let those videos be (there is insex or torturegalaxy - and that's perfectly OK to have those for their audience). But why does 95% of femdom videos turn into a video about inadequate shouting bitches? I don't get it.
Also, why does it have to be masturbation or handjobs? I can't see ANY reason why mistress wouldn't give a blowjob or sex (even Anal) to a slave? I'v watched quite a few femdom videos and very often they explain it like "You are not worthy to fuck me". Lol, ok, remind me what is this all about then? Isn't it about enchancing a sexual act which is still (SUDDENLY!) should be sexual? I don't get kink.com videos where a girl tortures a man and then gets off with a vibrator... I mean, ARE YOU KIDDING ME? Where's sexual relationship in that?! I don't see a mistress and her sub there, I quite see some bitch that likes to masturbate after beating the shit out of some man. Isn't it ridiculous?
Why cant this be like in the Fuckingdungeon.com but the other way around? Why cant we have a tied up guy and a women who tortures him in different ways, but at the same time has oral or real sex in every damn scene? And then in the end letting him cum sometimes? I mean, why the hell not? Why the hell she can't keep a girly attitude to all this? Why does she have to insult him by talking shit constantly? You know? I don't.
Kink.com has 2 damn femdom sites. TWO! But I can't see the difference. All I see is guys beaten up and abused on each of them.

[les]

It seems that more often than not nowadays
"Femdom" refers to violent Female supremacy
Physical and/or mental.

As does BDSM to males.

[Nezhul]

I don't care what random people see behind this word. All I know is that it's horribly one-sided, while people's kinks are not. MaleDom videos support a good variety of interests, starting with real pain and voilence, ending up in lighter stuff. Femdom? It's more or less the same everywhere. There is ONE pattern that most of femdom videos incorporate and feature. All I say is that it's quite strange for me to see.

[book_guy]

Unfortunately, at least for purposes of Google, you DO need to care what concepts are seen behind a word by random people. In fact, that's EXACTLY how Google and many other search-engines operate! So, if one is searching the internet by means of one of those search-engines, and one is in quest of something related somehow to one of the words which we are discussing in this thread, then, one will benefit from knowing how the rest of the internet's users tend to use those words.

I brought up the fact that I felt Les had left out "instruction" and "encouragement" not in order to slam on Les (or on anyone else) who made a sally forth into trying to define the current usage of "femdom." I brought up the fact so that we could discuss the many different possible interpretations. For me, "instruction" and "encouragement" are enjoyable because they DIRECT me; for others, maybe so, maybe not, I don't care. It's up to other people, individually, to decide what they prefer. And, it's up to other people, as a group, to decide what Google's definitions will end up being. So, at least on this topic, I'm going to have to politely disagree with Nezhul, who seems rather bent out of shape over the fact that his personally preferred definitions aren't as well heeded, by the rest of the internet, as he thinks they ought to be. I wouldn't personally anticipate that I could exert such great influence on the throngs of total strangers who are busily redefining Google-points even as we speak ...

But (to end my mild irony, and thus agree in spirit with Nezhul's complaint) I am disappointed in how difficult it is getting for me to find what I would prefer to seek. If I try to look things up by "femdom" I only get "violent sado-masochistic femdom" and if I try to look things up by "instruction" or "encouragement" I only get "cum-eating instruction" or "humiliation and jerk-off-encouragement." So, on this other topic, I think Nezhul and I completely agree -- the internet is starting to get the words all wrong and they should fix that over at Google!