New inexpeienced Dom needs suggestions from some vets.

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New inexpeienced Dom needs suggestions from some vets.

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Hi to all the people out there in Milovana land.

I am a male dom who just recently started to play with a female sub. We live several hundred miles away so I can only interact with via phone and web. So that rules out anything physical I can do with her.

I am new to most of this lifestyle and highly inexperienced. So my question is, what are some good games we can play, or activities that we can do. Please feel free to offer any advice or war stories you may have.

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Re: New inexpeienced Dom needs suggestions from some vets.

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Well first I would like to say welcome to Milo. As far as suggestions for play, try to do the things you would normally do to your sub but online. Orgasm control is one thing that I know works well online. Also always establish safewords no matter the how easy the predicament may be. If you are looking for things to do to your sub you could always check the chat rooms. We do play games with our subs in there at times, but don't expect it 24/7 we pretty much could be talking about anything.

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Re: New inexpeienced Dom needs suggestions from some vets.

Post by les »


Welcome to Milovana
I wish you both lots of fun.

  • Start slowly

  • Talk about limits
               What you will, willnot and might do

  • I use "Safeword" as the safeword as it is never forgotten or used by mistake

  • There must be rewards as well as punishments

  • Regular reports are good as it helps gauge the responses

Have frequent chats that are about but outside the Dom and sub ideas
then you will both learn from each other.

Finally If it is not fun find out why.

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Re: New inexpeienced Dom needs suggestions from some vets.

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Humiliation play can translate well through web if they have cam. Also daily chore type things work well if you can't always get on at the same time. Journals where they can post how it made them feel or went work well for that. Hard to be more specific without knowing the person.
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