Hey guys. I've been wanting to challenge myself with some days of denial, and I just thought I'd create a topic for support and suggestions. I haven't really been able to abstain from cumming because of my love for edging. I usually start masturbating and edge a lot until I decide I should just cum, and I do this every day. I'm not exactly sure how long I've gone without an orgasm before. I guess I normally cum an average of 2-3 times a day. I'd like to try a week, but I'm not sure if I can make that. I would like to be able to edge, but I'm afraid if I edge during my denial period I'll end up cumming because that is my usual pattern. I also want to make it creative and fun somehow. I'll wait for some replies while I think on this some more. I really appreciate your replies!
I should also add that I do enjoy the idea of ruining and would be interested in some creative ways of ruining my orgasm. Perhaps some ruined orgasms mixed in with my denial... or something...
Trying some denial days instead of my usual edge a while/cum
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Re: Trying some denial days instead of my usual edge a while
You sound a lot like myself. I love edging, commanded masturbation, a bit of cbt etc et. But in general I have had a lot of problems with managing to refrain from orgasming - even if commanded not to.
My first experience being 100% true to a longer period of denial was while doing Decker's Jana series earlier this fall. What that taught me is that being true to a denial scheme is quite unique. It teaches you a LOT about yourself, how being teased/aroused without release really affects you over time, both from day 1 and how it feels different as the days go by. And not to mention how an orgasm, having been long anticipated and announced, feels after 30+ days of denial. No words to fully explain that. It almost competes with the first time I had sex. Really. Unique.
As far as the edging concern goes - that's all down to practice. Believe in yourself, practice and succeed. It's little worth to run through a period of denial if you can't risk being teased or aroused in fear of having accidents. I'm sure most people experienced within the real of tease and denial have had accidents of one form or another. Perfectly normal. Learn to know your limits and body as much as you can and keep practicing.
My first experience being 100% true to a longer period of denial was while doing Decker's Jana series earlier this fall. What that taught me is that being true to a denial scheme is quite unique. It teaches you a LOT about yourself, how being teased/aroused without release really affects you over time, both from day 1 and how it feels different as the days go by. And not to mention how an orgasm, having been long anticipated and announced, feels after 30+ days of denial. No words to fully explain that. It almost competes with the first time I had sex. Really. Unique.
As far as the edging concern goes - that's all down to practice. Believe in yourself, practice and succeed. It's little worth to run through a period of denial if you can't risk being teased or aroused in fear of having accidents. I'm sure most people experienced within the real of tease and denial have had accidents of one form or another. Perfectly normal. Learn to know your limits and body as much as you can and keep practicing.
Yes, I most certainly CAN do it again!
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Re: Trying some denial days instead of my usual edge a while
I find that it gets easier to edge without danger of cumming after i get a bit more sensitive, after a couple of days of denial my chance to screw up becomes less.
Decide to set urself a timer for teasing and stop after it and dont touch yourself after that. Most of my accidents come from playing with myself for too long and being unable to put myself to a stop.
Im currently using nezhul's denialmistress program which is quite fun and you can customise it to suit your needs. You could even have several options that ur "mistress" gives you when she denies you such as:
- no touching today
- edge x times
- play x minutes
- do a webtease
anything you want basically, since you can insert the text yourself. I highly recommend it.
Decide to set urself a timer for teasing and stop after it and dont touch yourself after that. Most of my accidents come from playing with myself for too long and being unable to put myself to a stop.
Im currently using nezhul's denialmistress program which is quite fun and you can customise it to suit your needs. You could even have several options that ur "mistress" gives you when she denies you such as:
- no touching today
- edge x times
- play x minutes
- do a webtease
anything you want basically, since you can insert the text yourself. I highly recommend it.
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Re: Trying some denial days instead of my usual edge a while
Do you have the link to denialmistress? I googled and didn't find it in the results.
What do you guys think of this idea? Until I'm able to last 5 days without cumming, I must ruin any orgasm that I have (maybe even drink it?). Still thinking...
I'm gonna try to make it through today with no cumming, I'll let you know how it goes.
What do you guys think of this idea? Until I'm able to last 5 days without cumming, I must ruin any orgasm that I have (maybe even drink it?). Still thinking...
I'm gonna try to make it through today with no cumming, I'll let you know how it goes.
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Re: Trying some denial days instead of my usual edge a while
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Re: Trying some denial days instead of my usual edge a while
Use what? I didn't think he was talking about a pay thing lolSexualChoc wrote:why pay money for a dom?
join us in chat
or use milo mail a Dom
what's mail a dom? on here?
I'm having a ridiculous day today, but it's all good.
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Re: Trying some denial days instead of my usual edge a while
I looked at the application and I'm not sure it is something I would want to use. I still haven't made it one day without cumming. I just need to commit myself, I feel so uninspired though lol.
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Re: Trying some denial days instead of my usual edge a while
the alternatives are:
- find a webtease that you like and follow it, one that involves orgasm denial.
- find a person to tell you when you should and shouldn't cum.
- find a random way to tell you. could be as simple as a coin toss.
- find a webtease that you like and follow it, one that involves orgasm denial.
- find a person to tell you when you should and shouldn't cum.
- find a random way to tell you. could be as simple as a coin toss.