Official "I'm Looking For A Domme, Dom or sub" Thread

[phips_berlin]

Simply put, among other kinks I enjoy orgasm control a lot. And while tease & denial can be a lot of fun, I believe that orgasms are the perfect tool for conditioning and training. I would like to find someone to explore that with, ideally as a sub but I also switch a bit.
Controlling the kind of porn, e.g. themes or censoring, and anal training are things that come to my mind atm.

[Lustkontrolleur]

It's hard to find the right one, but only if you try can it possibly work.

I am a 57 year old man from Germany and I am very interested in orgasm control.
So you are welcome to reply in German.

That's why I'm looking for a dominant lady who enjoys subjecting me to orgasm and wank control.
It is important to me:

No complete time management, I also need free time for other activities and must also be fit for work, for example. That's why it would be nice if nothing was planned after 10 pm on weekdays.
Other dates or times would have to be arranged as required.

Contact should be as direct as possible and preferably in person; I would prefer the lady to be present and directly supervise tasks and punishments.
However, this could also be done by camera.

No chastity, and no endless orgasm deny. I'm not interested in not being allowed to come at all.

But everything else would have to be clarified in person, so I'll leave it at that for now.
Thank you for reading and I would be delighted if a suitable lady could be found.

LG Lustkontrolleur

[GermanKinkyCouple]

KinkyGermanCouple(F30/M27) is looking for a mistress/master to train both of us.

After exploring our bdsm fantasys we learned that we are both more subby than dominant
So we are looking for a mistress to introduce us furthermore into the bdsm space.

We have a lot of toys, bondage equipment and even a chastity cage for him.

We are looking for given scenarios which could include how we interact, tease, edge, ruin, deny each other and also mixed up with some bondage.

We are not into scat, piss, blood, drugs and findom.

If you are interested, send us a message

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[Madfree3]

I am an older but fit male, looking for a DOM/ME, or SUBS of either sex for online control or being controlled. My kinks include CBT, nipple torture, hard spankings, edging, ruined orgasms, forced cum play and CEI, tease and longer term denial, blue balls and more. No permanent marks and no scat or pee. Willing to explore other new kinks/fetishes to please you or have you please me. PM me if you want to use me for your amusement or you want to be used/controlled. Looking for ongoing play or just one time fun whenever the mood strikes you .
I don't require face and anonymity is fully understood and respected. Love to provide photo proof or video proof of completed tasks and it's awesome if you do too but not essential.

[Master89]

Hello! Im a 34 years old submissive male looking for a long term online mistress/master. Im mostly interested in giving up controll over my pathetic little cock and balls, turning it into someone elses property. The dom would controll when and how i can masturbate from now on and my penis wouldnt be touched at all otherwise. I give my word on that. Keeping it frustrated with edging and light cbt would be ideal, even if the dicklett would never have a full orgasm again.

If you're interested in owning this little frustration toy, please dont hasitate and give me a poke~

Still desperate and looking~

[Madfree3]

I am an older but fit male, looking for a DOM/ME, or SUBS of either sex for online control or being controlled. My kinks include CBT, nipple torture, hard spankings, edging, ruined orgasms, forced cum play and CEI, tease and longer term denial, blue balls and more. No permanent marks and no scat or pee. Willing to explore other new kinks/fetishes to please you or have you please me. PM me if you want to use me for your amusement or you want to be used/controlled. Looking for ongoing play or just one time fun whenever the mood strikes you .
I don't require face and anonymity is fully understood and respected. Love to provide photo proof or video proof of completed tasks and it's awesome if you do too but not essential.

I made a few edits so I am reposting.
Hope to hear from you.

[Lilyth]

Hello. I am a submissive, looking for a Dom.

I am a newly discovered trans girl, not on hormones yet, nor am I out publicly yet. I am on the chubby side, but am working on slimming down. I am a nerd and a witch. I am currently in penis denial until the next new moon in April, anal only. Something I have set for myself as a test of my conviction, I failed last month.

I am looking for someone to control me however they wish, something long term. I am not just here for sexual gratification, but to truly be controlled. I don’t really have any limits and am open to many things. For kinks I enjoy Anal, CBT, Denial, Control, Humiliation, Orgasm Control, Chastity & others. I don’t like findom or blackmail. Other than that I am pretty open.

I am able to communicate on any platform you’d prefer. Open to pics, videos, etc. Ill likely hide my face until I feel more comfortable, but will provide anything else asked for. Tell me what you want, what you desire. I love giving pleasure to others.

Send me a message, I’d love to chat.

[Sexless Dummy]

Hmm. I'd expected a bit more reactions. Any suggestions for better online places to try...? Thanks!

What i am going to say will probably rub you the wrong way. Just know, i am not trying to single you out here, it's more of a general observation that i made in several places, including here.

If you noticed the over 100 pages of 99% fruitless attempts to find a dominant play partner, you would have found a strong indicator of what to expect from your request. You are one of hundreds. Hundreds of subs screaming for the attention of a handfull of dominants. It will always be like that, everywhere, not just here. It doesn't help either that most of you just post a list of stuff that indulges in your kinks. Expecting women to stay in line to play with you. That is not submissive. You are just looking for someone to help you get off. It would be smarter to patiently wait for the few requests of dominant women on here, see if what they want is something you can provide (even if it is not really your thing) and react to that. But always with the awareness in your mind that you will most likely be one of several guys trying to get her attention.

If that is not enough for you, then your only other option is to pay a professional for it. I am not saying what you try here would never work, but it's going to be almost always a fruitless attempt. That's just how it is

[Expert_Affect]

Im looking for a Dom.

I love anal play, Chastity Play, Feminization, Humiliation, Denial, Edging, Spanking, Moderate amount of pain, i love seeing my Dom Happy and fufill their fantasies if possible, i like getting pegged, Getting spit on beeing told what im allowed to fap to and what im not, i Currently have Purifi as a addon installed that can censor videos and pictures in real time.
i love the idea of beeing cucked dont know what else i could include here x.x

I dislike public exposure i dislike blodd knife play needle play scat, i dislike beeing denied a Orgasm for longer then a week.
if you need any more information look at my profile or message me :3

i really need a Mistress to turn me into a Sissy Loser

[Master89]

Hello! Im a 34 years old submissive male looking for a long term online mistress/master. Im mostly interested in giving up controll over my pathetic little cock and balls, turning it into someone elses property. The dom would controll when and how i can masturbate from now on and my penis wouldnt be touched at all otherwise. I give my word on that. Keeping it frustrated with edging and light cbt would be ideal, even if the dicklett would never have a full orgasm again.

If you're interested in owning this little frustration toy, please dont hasitate and give me a poke~

[Dona Pandora]

Hi, I'm Dona Pandora, the succubus queen and sperm collector, I'm here to drink your sperm using my erotic illusions with my voice in my hypnotizing videos s2

Here's my first Hypno JOI video that I made with my voice and editing, I hope you like it (and enjoy it) :9

https://www.redgifs.com/watch/constantl ... egraywhale

Well, I'm looking for someone who can feed me their precious sperm and make me powerful...

I'm wanting to create more videos in this style, including longer ones with roleplay, with different bosses, so help me with your feedback if possible so we can build a bigger and more immersive video xD

I really want to improve my videos, I'm also available to do a collaboration, so feel free to call me for a collab ;D

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[LillyRose]

Hello All!

I am Lilly 27 years old submissive transfemale from Germany.

I am looking for a Mistress to tease me and play with me. Preferably someone from Europe, because of similar timezone.

Toys: 5 Dildos(one glass and one vibrating one.), 3 different size buttplugs(one vibrating one), chastity cages, Hitachi, Anal hook, rope, gag, nipple clambs, handcuffs

Kinks: Humiliation/Degradation, Teasing and Edging, Orgasm control/Denial/ruined orgasm, Bondage, Anal, nippleplay, hypnosis, censors.

Limits: Public Play, Scat, vomit, heavy painplay, findom, Bodywriting

For further question or if interested just DM me!

[a1m1]

Hey everyone,

Pretty new to switching and I'm starting to enjoy the power and I want to practice with some new subs. I want to come up with some games and tasks to tease, deny, ruin and sometimes allow to cum...

Feel free to message me with your interests, likes and dislikes and if we click we can chat on Discord and go from there.
Nothing serious, just a bit of fun.

Hit me up and lets see where this can go!

[throwawayacct]

Hmm. I'd expected a bit more reactions. Any suggestions for better online places to try...? Thanks!

It doesn't help either that most of you just post a list of stuff that indulges in your kinks. Expecting women to stay in line to play with you. That is not submissive. You are just looking for someone to help you get off. I

THIS x1000. Seriously. 99.9% of men online who "want to be submissive" are doing exactly this. You see it all over discord, all over reddit, all over fetlife.

To those who post like that: You don't want to be dominated, you want an elaborate masturbation fantasy. A dom/domme is not a fetish dispenser or mechanical Fleshlight. If you haven't considered "what's in it for my Dom/Domme?" or your answer to that question is "my service/my loyalty/my presence" then
YOU
ARE
NOT
READY
TO
SUBMIT.

Your ego is still driving the bus, it's all about you and your needs and wants. You still think you have something special just by virtue of *being*. Yeah. It doesn't work that way. No wonder there are hundreds of you, whining away like you're owed something.

If you're not fully prepared to bring an equal measure to the table, and not a lame-assed thoughtless and uncreative "I'll do whatever you want", you'll always be sitting and waiting. "Whatever you want" is so fucking boring and bland - and again, it puts the onus on the dominant!

[dmas964]

First of all, I must say that I am a very shy person. So it took me a long time to gather the courage to write this message. I am a total beginner in the world of femdom. I have absolutely no experience face to face only fantasies. So you could say I'm looking for a Mistress, who will have the patience to introduce someone completely inexperienced and shy to the world of femdom.

My turn ons:
Chastity
Humiliation / Degredation
Petplay
Pain
Forced Bi
Cuckold

My turn offs:
Financial Dom
Medical
Bathroom control