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SensualEdge wrote: ↑Thu Sep 21, 2023 8:18 am
I know this is far from your average post on here, but I'm asexual, which means I lack sexual attraction and therefore sex, porn and related subjects in general disinterest me. However I like masturbation every once in a while. Asexuals in forums and reddit are kinda prude when it comes to talking about topics like these, so I thought I'd give it a try on here
It's hard for me to keep engaged with masturbation, my thoughts often drift off to everyday tasks, a movie I watched a few days back or whatever. Afterwards I feel like it was a good experience, but oftentimes not worth the hassle. I usually do it out of boredem or the occasional urge to just get off.
I'd like to explore more on masturbation in general and kinks to try out. My masturbation has been very vanilla since forever and it's getting a little boring. As said, porn and stuff like that doesn't turn me on. I usually watch softcore content like playboy-ish photos, instagram models, etc. I really enjoy Teases, Cock hero, PMVs and similar content, but that gets exhausting to do every time I masturbate. I also really enjoy edging too.
How do you reccon I could explore some more ground when it comes to masturbation, kinks and toys? I already tried stuff like fleshllights or the handy, which work great, but just like masturbation in general it seems to be more work than what it's worth. I fantasise about cum eating or chestity a lot lately. But when you're only getting off by yourself it's hard to follow through on such things.
I find your post really interesting as I wondered if I might be asexual some years ago. I have decided to not identify myself as asexual in the end, because I definitely lack sexual attraction to other people to the point I'm not interested in relationships, but I like to masturbate a lot and also think about such topics.
I definitely don't think that I fully understand your sexuality, so everything I write here, are experiences from my point of view and are not intended to offend you and might show that I haven't understood you correctly, but maybe they can give you new ideas.
Watching "regular" porn and masturbate to it feels boring to me and I can understand if thoughts start to wander off to other topics. What keeps me aroused are stories (just like in Cock Heroes, teases etc)! Have you tried reading erotic literature already apart from teases? How do you feel when reading them. If you want to try it out, then I would suggest that you choose a story that contains topics you have already wondered about, so chastity and/or cum eating seem to be perfect to me. If you start reading, I would also suggest, that you try to switch into the role of the person being in chastity. Also feel free to masturbate to this story if you feel like it.
If you find out that this increases your desire to masturbate, then the next step can be to imagine your own stories. I love to do this all the time. I don't write them down, I just think about them and masturbate to it. Sometimes I'm involved in these stories, sometimes not. If I watch regular porn, I build kind of a nice story around it for myself. This way I don't have to think about the characters or their appearance, because that's already been chosen by the video or image (images can work better with this approach).
To get into a new kink, I do it the following way: First I get exposed to it in any kind. This might be a tease, a video or maybe just a thought that crosses my mind. I then start to think about it more and if I find it interesting as a topic to masturbate to or not. If I decide that I like to masturbate to it, I do it. And I do it frequently until it gets kind of overwhelmingly and then, I try it out myself. This can take weeks or even months sometimes. For cum eating it took me I guess 2 months of regular masturbating to the thought and like 4 failed attempts to do it. After I've done it for the first time, I immediately decided to force myself to do it more often and that was the time I challenged myself to go through a full month were I would eat my cum after every orgasm. Since then I love to do it.
What helps in my opinion a lot - and this might be a problem for you - is to edge for a prolonged time before actually doing a kink for the first time. What I mean by prolonged is: multiple days of edging without cumming at all.
So, well, maybe this got you some ideas to carry on with your quest to explore kinks.
Augustulus
