First off, thank you eerie_ellie for raising the issue. I'm sure you are speaking for many other Milovanians who had the same experience but it takes a lot of compassion and fortitude to speak up and help us ignoramuses. I personally didn't realize this term had a derogatory connotation and am glad I learned something.
The question is what shall we do now?
Done. Very easy change.
Now on to the subject of moderating titles and tease descriptions.
Milovana is an adult site dealing with sexuality and many edgy topics, so almost all content on this site would be offensive or triggering to many people. The very premise of the site is that we want to explore the entire gamut of emotions. There are teases specifically designed to inflict pain - physically or verbally - and coarse language is used precisely because it triggers strong emotions.
So how do we allow authors to continue to push our boundaries while also minimizing harm from when these triggers misfire?
Unfortunately, I think whether a given use of an emotionally charged term is welcome, sexy humiliation or an unwelcome turn-off is largely contextual and subjective. There are some particularly egregious cases that we have acted upon in the past but other than that I haven't been able to devise a simple, objective set of rules that would work reasonably well for most cases. And erring on the side of caution isn't an option. Deleting or removing a tease is very disruptive and traumatizing for the authors who often invest huge amounts of work into making those teases.
Removing teases globally is a blunt tool that does not properly account for the huge diversity of individual experiences and perceptions in our community so it is best reserved for extreme circumstances. Instead, I prefer to address the issue at the root, i.e. reduce the usage of the term in the first place as well as empowering the community and individuals to curate their own experience as much as possible.
Here are some of the ideas I could come up with (and I welcome your feedback):
- We've already changed the tag (done)
- I'll add a feature to the roadmap which automatically replaces the old tag with the new one going forward.
- Let's encourage authors to voluntarily use the term "trans woman" in titles and descriptions going forward. This could be extended into a broader "Milovana Code of Conduct". I believe a majority of authors would follow such guidance.
- As a community, let's start downvoting teases which use the old term just as we would do with other offensive, teases. Low rated teases are automatically hidden by default.
- We could also add a feature which allows users to filter out teases based on terms that are turn-offs or come with negative connotations for them. This isn't a cure-all obviously and we would have to think about which, if any, terms are filtered by default but it could be another tool in the toolbox which may be more suited to a diverse set of perspectives.
- When a tease is clearly and obviously made solely to offend and there is no artistic value at all, we have been and will continue to delete it. However, to be clear, the bar for this is very high. Such a tease will in most cases already have a <2.0 rating.
- We could issue a recommendation that titles and descriptions should avoid controversial/offensive terms. The idea being that only people who are interested in a given fetish will start a tease so people who find those themes offensive won't be exposed to it.
- This is likely going to be a more controversial idea but just like Reddit only considers certain subreddits for their front page, we similarly could have a more curated front page while still allowing the full gamut of teases to appear in some subcategory.