Lady X thinks out loud...

[Human]

I mean, that they do not want spankings, or things like tying up thier balls and doing wicked things to those jewels.
They are okay with mild, very mild play...but not all that I would do, if they showed interest.

Time to get a subbie ?

[wanker]

Deny them orgasms for a week/month/ten times their norm and they will do anything you ask^^

Well....I found another way.......just get them...well Hubby1, anyway, really hard.....and start asking him to call Me, Mistress and....well.....*grin*..............things worked out pretty freaking great.....for the first time. *wicked smile* Can't wait to see what next time brings.

^____^

[Bindo]

Yes, it is.....now that will be $100.00 or 3 edges and a ruined orgasm please. *wicked smile*

And I disagree...it is important......even if you are finding ways to cope and find a way to put the fears and low self confidence behind you.......it's still a part of you...and always will be.....so it's important. *smile*

I agree, in all honesty. It's just that I haven't been able to figure out the exact origins... so far. I'm sure it's just the way I grew up, something went awry. There are all sorts of things, now that I think about it, that could have contributed.

In any case, I do think it's important - You're quite right. It's something I'm always thinking about, but getting to the bottom of it is slow work!

But, I really did open up there! Seems fair after learning so much about You on the other thread.


And after consideration I'll take the 3 edges and ruined orgasm! (Thanks!)
That's something I've never done - not properly - so it will be an interesting night...

[Lady X]

Time to get a subbie ?

*laughing* And I suppose you are offering yourself, right?

[Lady X]

I agree, in all honesty. It's just that I haven't been able to figure out the exact origins... so far. I'm sure it's just the way I grew up, something went awry. There are all sorts of things, now that I think about it, that could have contributed.

In any case, I do think it's important - You're quite right. It's something I'm always thinking about, but getting to the bottom of it is slow work!

But, I really did open up there! Seems fair after learning so much about You on the other thread.


And after consideration I'll take the 3 edges and ruined orgasm! (Thanks!)
That's something I've never done - not properly - so it will be an interesting night...

Yes you did open up and I'm glad you did. *gentle smile* It's always good to soul search and find out what makes ya tick.

you are most welcome and I hope you report back to Me about how the edges and r.o. went. *smile*

[Bindo]

It was... difficult! The edges I did with 15-20 minutes apart from one another - I thought that would be better than just rushing through. And that ruined orgasm... I've tried this before and always found the frustration too much and given myself a proper orgasm right after. Like staying the night without touching, if You remember! Never been able to do it, without being told.
First of all, it was hard to hit the point of orgasm and no further - it took me a while and some very slow, careful stroking to do that. I could feel myself getting so close and then not, because I was slightly too light in my touch. I didn't want to be too fast and not ruin it, You see! Felt like continued edging, but each time my excitement slipped downwards, I wasn't expecting it.

Anyway - it was incredibly difficult to be still for the next few hours! But still I was - for the first few minutes I sat on my hands and squirmed around, trying to feel a sensation that way And I was hard for so long afterwards. Getting to sleep just after that was also not easy! Seems funny now!

[Lady X]

It was... difficult! The edges I did with 15-20 minutes apart from one another - I thought that would be better than just rushing through. And that ruined orgasm... I've tried this before and always found the frustration too much and given myself a proper orgasm right after. Like staying the night without touching, if You remember! Never been able to do it, without being told.
First of all, it was hard to hit the point of orgasm and no further - it took me a while and some very slow, careful stroking to do that. I could feel myself getting so close and then not, because I was slightly too light in my touch. I didn't want to be too fast and not ruin it, You see! Felt like continued edging, but each time my excitement slipped downwards, I wasn't expecting it.

Anyway - it was incredibly difficult to be still for the next few hours! But still I was - for the first few minutes I sat on my hands and squirmed around, trying to feel a sensation that way And I was hard for so long afterwards. Getting to sleep just after that was also not easy! Seems funny now!

Good boy!!! I am very proud of you! *bright smile* I know that was difficult. your reward.....stroke it, enjoy it....cum...cum hard! *smiling*

Thank you for sharing it in such detail.......I enjoyed reading about it.....I could almost feel your torture. *wicked smile*

[Bindo]

Thank You, Lady X!

It was my pleasure. (Kinda.)

[kneeforu]

Fascinating questions Lady X.

I think about this all the time. Actually, I love to watch and study people in general, but it always comes back to this subject.

I travel a lot for work, so some of my airport fun is to listen to people waiting for airplanes and try to determine their line of work, or why they are traveling.

Regarding their sexual preferences, fantasies, etc.... I think about the people I work with and try to figure out if any of them might have the same fantasies. For a woman to be dominate, I think they would have to be intelligent to scheme and connive the fantasy scenarios, so first thing I do is apply who around me is smart enough to be creative in their sexual lives. Then I apply general sexiness, who likes to be sexy without trying to be sexy. Its very subtle but important. Those who try too hard immediately are thrown out. I think there might be one or two around here who would be "one of us".

Great thread!

[kinkydomina]

I enjoy watching a series called Nip & Tuck.
One of the episodes describes how Julia, Sean's wife, who is separated from him, goes to a bar in order to pick up some guy for meaningless sex. They hook up, go to his room, get horny... and he points to something he had in a suitcase (they dont show, but I am pretty sure that was a strapon dildo), suggesting that she uses it on him.
She freaks and calls him a pervert, things get bad.
Now, if that occured to me, I'd have such a good time using the strapon!

[Lady X]

Fascinating questions Lady X.

I think about this all the time. Actually, I love to watch and study people in general, but it always comes back to this subject.

I travel a lot for work, so some of my airport fun is to listen to people waiting for airplanes and try to determine their line of work, or why they are traveling.

Regarding their sexual preferences, fantasies, etc.... I think about the people I work with and try to figure out if any of them might have the same fantasies. For a woman to be dominate, I think they would have to be intelligent to scheme and connive the fantasy scenarios, so first thing I do is apply who around me is smart enough to be creative in their sexual lives. Then I apply general sexiness, who likes to be sexy without trying to be sexy. Its very subtle but important. Those who try too hard immediately are thrown out. I think there might be one or two around here who would be "one of us".

Great thread!

I love the way you watch people. It would be fun to sit at the airport and talk to you about what you are thinking and seeing with different people. *smile*

[Lady X]

I enjoy watching a series called Nip & Tuck.
One of the episodes describes how Julia, Sean's wife, who is separated from him, goes to a bar in order to pick up some guy for meaningless sex. They hook up, go to his room, get horny... and he points to something he had in a suitcase (they dont show, but I am pretty sure that was a strapon dildo), suggesting that she uses it on him.
She freaks and calls him a pervert, things get bad.
Now, if that occured to me, I'd have such a good time using the strapon!

I never have watched Nip and Tuck. But I know what you are talking about. The same sort of thing happened on a show called Bones. The shows title was Death in the Shadow.
"The team investigates a decomposed body that was discovered in the woods with bound arms and missing feet. Things get kinky when Booth and Brennan are led to a lodge that's used as an S&M retreat for "jockeys" and their "horses". "

They made fun of it, almost to the point that I got mad. It sucks when people's lifestyle choices or kinks or made fun of...making the person feel as if they are perverts.

[kinkydomina]

Yes, they are depicted as perverts, but showing these aspects proves that the phenomenon is far from rare. Would we want it to become mainstream?...

[Lady X]

Yes, they are depicted as perverts, but showing these aspects proves that the phenomenon is far from rare. Would we want it to become mainstream?...

I don't know about mainstream, but I would like differences to be accepted more easily.

[Bindo]

I agree very much with Indigo.

"The team investigates a decomposed body that was discovered in the woods with bound arms and missing feet. Things get kinky when Booth and Brennan are led to a lodge that's used as an S&M retreat for "jockeys" and their "horses". "

They made fun of it, almost to the point that I got mad. It sucks when people's lifestyle choices or kinks or made fun of...making the person feel as if they are perverts.

And I hate this. I guess S&M is an easy target for comedy writers, or fiction writers who need a joke. I've almost never seen BDSM depicted realistically. And it's so, so often for laughs. I guess we laugh defensively when we're confronted by something very strange to us. Or indeed when we're trying to hide something