new girl with a question

[Nezhul]

I think to tese him - that meens your relationship goes further, and he'll probably want something more, like dating or some kind of relationship. Well, that's as for me. I don't think you'll let any person, even friend, to tease you sexually. And if you do, you'll wait something more from them.

Bescides, as I mentioned, he may be into teasing any way from "just a bit" to "long time denial", so after a tease he may want to fuck you or cum in any other way.

Hope it'll turn out good for all of you.

[Nadine]

Take him to dinner as friends, in a fine restaurant. And then in the middle of the main course, after a glass of wine, bring up the conversation and TALK TO HIM. You're obviously interested in this topic, so show him that. Ask the questions you want to know, lead the conversation.

But you won't resolve this by snooping around.

[janmb]

Well, as long as you are not more shocked about your findings than for you to actually keep thinking about going into some of it, I'd say you guys definitely have some talking to do

But as others have mentioned - give it some calm and thorough thought on your own first - among the kinks he's into, what could you imagine yourself a: Enjoying, b: accepting, c: Have a real issue with....

Hopefully they will all be "a"'s or "b"s, but considering that question is probably a good step for you to make and sort out for yourself before moving into conversations with him about it.... Never the less tho, be open to the idea that his kinks and interests may have a somewhat different meaning/extent than your current perception might be, and therefore your acceptance levels or own interests may also be subject to change once you start talking to him about it.

Or of course... there's the completely different option of not talking about it initially at all, but carefully start working some of the kinks into your life - if you are sexually active that is (doesn't really sound like it, but not want to pry either)

[Timshel]

You all realize the cat may be out of the bag already anyway?

I mean if he comes to the site and reads the forums, and sees his situation in this thread.... Not all horny guys are stupid...

You can always tease him and see how he reacts... but it's best to prepare yourself for him to respond in attempts to be sexual. Long time male/female relationships where your not boyfriend/girlfriend can be nice, but unless the both of you are in committed relationships with others the sex question always comes up, and such... It's a mine field but the rewards can be great as well...

I've babbled enough..