The Deck of Denial

[Oda]

Frist draw: club of 3
Second draw: spades of 10
Day: 2/10

Thank you Dr.D for your nice words :)

And Thank you Mistress Shell for this amazing picture... i am not sure how tod escribe it in englisch, but i would say, everytime i saw it it felt like a lightning would go trough my body. It really excites me and made me even hornier.

My first edge was right after i woke up in my bed. Still only could think about your feet Mistress and how could they would feel right now. I tried to calm down and save the other two edges for later, but that didn´t work. I saw you picture again and couldn´t help myself. i stroked again and edged 2 times, so i have now a full day to go on without another possibility on an edge...

Thank you Mistress for your nice words. I don´t doubt that i can make it trought the 10 days, but i feel already so horny and i can´t really get you out of my mind...

[shell]

I am going to get a bit long winded with this post, so I am going to put it in a spoiler, right from the get go. *smile*

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I have been thinking about what to share, and what not to. I am probably going to share more then most would, but that is my nature. I tend to look at it this way....my life experiences might aid someone else as they move through their life choices, so if I can help someone, it is my desire to do so.

The first time I began this game and drew the 2/9 cards, I had this strange uncomfortable feeling inside of me. I didn't have to deal with it, because life presented me with obstacles that made me have to cease the game putting it on a shelf until I started it again, last Tuesday.
Once again, from the moment I began, that uneasy feeling returned. My only error was made in the fact that I didn't talk to Master about it right away. Why? I suppose that I didn't really know why I was feeling what I was and kept trying to ignore the feeling, thinking that it was just nervousness about going longer then I had before.
Hind-site, and a lesson I learned is to share with Master, even if it is only to say, "I feel something odd, and I can't put my finger on it." That way he is aware and perhaps he would have had some insight that could have led me to the conclusion that I finally came to.

On Thursday evening, as I lay in bed, I talked to Papa, (my name for God) about this feeling. I know that probably freaks some of you out.....oh well.....we are best buddies and talk about everything. *smile*
Anyway, as I talked and listened, I realized what what going on and talked to Master about it, as soon as I saw him on Friday.

As some of you know, and the rest are fixin to find out, I have two husbands - the first, my "legal" husband, that I have been married to for 30 years. The second, we have been "non-legally" married for 13 years. Hubby 2 lives right next door to Hubby 1's house. I am not going to go into the dynamics of my lifestyle right now. But I will say that we all have an open, honest, no secrets, relationship.

Up to this point, I have only done T&D and things online that stay within the guidelines of Monday through Friday. There are times that some of the things that Master orders of me spills over to the weekend, but it has always incorporated the Hubby's in one way or the other.
When I brought this nine day denial up to them, I told them that "this is what I am doing". I didn't see what they felt about it.
Both men can get hard from watching me and hearing me...*blush* orgasm. The weekdays are so insane with work and life, that most of our interaction is done on the weekend. By moving forward with the nine day thing, I was depriving them of that pleasure.
I spoke to each Hubby about it, Friday morning, and neither were upset and were prepared to give me the nine days, but I could just tell that their desire was the intimacy of making love with the complete joys that it brings.

So, I made the decision that I would speak my safe word and end the challenge. I explained everything to Master. He, as always, was so understanding and we agreed that I would stay with the challenge, until one of the hubbies moved forward into sex this weekend. There was the slightest of possibilities that there might not have been intimacy, so if none took place, then I would just continue forward.
As soon as I spoke to Master about this, a calm took over my spirit and I knew that I had made the right decision. *soft smile*

Now, there was a twist that I simply MUST share. *grin* After my edges on Friday, that left a total of 10 edges left, that if I had to end the tease Friday evening, that I would not be able to do. So, I begged Master to let me attempt to have eight of them, knowing that I could do two of them, at the beginning of the intimacy with which ever Hubby I got involved with.
Now, keep in mind, the most edges I have ever done in one day was three. Eight seemed....like a long shot, that I would be able to do them, but I wanted to try.
I had to promise Master that I would be careful and do a body check after each one, to make sure that I was okay.

So, Friday afternoon I locked myself away in the bedroom and set out to do 8 edges at one time. HOLY BLEEP! I have fallen in love with edges! *giggling*
After about the first two, they were coming in just seconds after turning the Hitachi on. It totally rocked, and I loved it. *giggling smile*
I was so wet, horny, excited and needy afterwards, I was sure I would jump Hubby1's bones when he walked in the door. *laughing*
I think there is a strong possibility that the experience was one of my most favorite that Master has allowed me to have. *bright smile* THANK YOU MASTER!!!

I didn't get to jump Hubby1, like I thought I would because of outside world interferences.

Saturday morning, both men were busy with life and so I moved forward with my two edges, just in case.

Saturday afternoon....well.....Hubby1 jumped my bones, but with an unexpected twist. As he got into the shower, he told me to get busy on two edges. I was like...."COOL"!! *giggle*
I was almost to the first one, when he got out of the shower. He came and sat on the bed and begin to finger fuck me, while the Hitachi buzzed on my clit.
The edge was there, just like that!! I waited about 30 seconds and started the next one. Again, I got there really quickly. He was not only finger fucking me, but bending his fingers to push into my g-spot.
Then he surprised me and said that he was having fun and wasn't done yet. He had me do four more, I think....honestly the numbers are kinda fuzzy in my mind...*giggling*
Then he had me get on my knees and made me edge one more time.
Waiting only a few seconds, he slid his cock into me and fucked me silly. I quietly called out my safe word for "stop", to Master, ending the game, and then I came and came hard.
It was rather amusing, because my legs starting sliding, and I did this slow motion slide down to rest on my tummy. *giggling* What a wonderful experience!!!! *big smile*

****

So, my game has officially ended. I get to play this game again, when Master orders me to draw new cards. *smile*

We have discussed something so that I can stay within my five day limit, so that I do not feel that uneasy feeling again. I am going to share it here and then Master has agreed to add it to the rules, because it may help others that can not make it for long periods of time in denial, for what ever reason.

No matter what day of the week I start the game on, if I draw a number card, which with my luck, I probably will…*lol*..then I take the number and that’s how many edges. And then the second number card I draw, if it is any number higher then the amount of days that I have before the weekend, I would add that number, minus the days left, to the edging number and then I have to do that many edges for the remainder of the week.
So, for this last time it would have worked like this. I drew a two. I had four days left. I drew a nine. I would subtract four from nine, leaving five. I would add the five to the two and do seven edges for four days.

I think it's a great plan and am really pleased that Master is so generous to allow this of me, and others as well. *bright smile*

One thing, for sure that I found out in the past few days......I LOVE EDGES!!!!! *giggling*

[shell]

New page - re-posting of the rules....

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Take a deck of cards, including the jokers, and shuffle them. Then draw a card. After drawing your card, return it to the deck.

Aces = Edge twice and draw again.
King of Hearts = Edge once, while watching 30 minutes of your favorite porn.
King of Diamonds = Edge, and then watch 30 minutes to one hour of porn without touching your self.
King of Clubs = Edge, rest for thirty seconds, and then edge again. Do this until you have edged five times.
King of Spades = No touching your genitalia or nipples for two days, except to clean, but do so quickly.
Queen of Diamonds = Twenty minutes of spanking to your ass, or until it has a nice pinkish glow to it.
Queen of Clubs = Put on nipple clamps. Rotate them every ten minutes. Edge after each rotation, until you have edged five times.
Jack of Hearts = Edge with your favorite toy, or if you don't have any toys, edge using only your non-dominate hand.
Jack of Diamonds = Edge Use ice cubes on your nipples, or on the outside or inside of your genitalia or anus.
Jack of Clubs = Do any two teases at Milo, but do not cum.
Jack of Spades = Edge three times, in the shower or bathtub.
Number Cards = If you draw a 2 through 10, draw a second card, continuing to draw past face cards, until another number card comes up.
The first number card is how many edges you must do each day. The second number card is how many days you have to edge.
Jokers = This card doubles everything.
Queen of Spades = Get another deck of cards. Take the Queen of Hearts out of the new deck, and shuffle the two decks together.
When you have the two decks, if you draw a number card, now you have to draw four cards instead of two. The first two cards are added together and the third and forth cards are added together. The same instructions for numbers cards from above, apply.
The Joker instructions still apply. So, if you draw a joker, before that first number card, that would double it to 26 edges a day, for 36 days.
Set aside the cards you have drawn - they will get shuffled back in to the deck, if you draw the Queen of Spades again.
Only two decks should be used in this game.
Queen of Hearts = You get to cum any way you want, as long as you enjoy it.

Be safe!!

Edit: Here is a addendum to the number cards rule.
If you have limitations and can not, for what ever reason, do a long period of denial, then you may do the following.
If you draw a number card, that is how many edges you will do. The next card represents the days you have to do the edging. You can subtract the number of days that you can do the edging for, from the second card. What ever amount is left, add that to the number of edges, and do that many edges for the amount of time you will be doing them for.
Example: You can do the denial for the weekend - two days. You draw a 3 and a 8. Subtracting two from eight leaves six. Add the six to the first card and that gives you nine edges to do, in two days.

[shell]

Frist draw: club of 3
Second draw: spades of 10
Day: 2/10

Thank you Dr.D for your nice words :)

And Thank you Mistress Shell for this amazing picture... i am not sure how tod escribe it in englisch, but i would say, everytime i saw it it felt like a lightning would go trough my body. It really excites me and made me even hornier.

My first edge was right after i woke up in my bed. Still only could think about your feet Mistress and how could they would feel right now. I tried to calm down and save the other two edges for later, but that didn´t work. I saw you picture again and couldn´t help myself. i stroked again and edged 2 times, so i have now a full day to go on without another possibility on an edge...

Thank you Mistress for your nice words. I don´t doubt that i can make it trought the 10 days, but i feel already so horny and i can´t really get you out of my mind...

First, you are most welcome. *Smile*

Now.....before I say anything else.....no, no, no...you may not use the addendum to the numbers rule. *giggle* I am looking forward to watching you struggle with this. *Wicked smile*
Okay, okay...you can, if you have to....but, please don't have to. *giggle*

I'm so glad you liked the picture I left for you. I suppose I could leave you another one...maybe. *grin*

Okay......I am officially ordering you to do something, if you haven't started your edges already today...and if you have, then do this tomorrow.
I want you to space the edges out.....you must wait at least two hours between them. *wicked smile* Let's see just how intensely horny I can get you. *wicked smile* I want you to stay in a state of need, all day!!! *Wicked smile grows*

Okay, here is another picture to make you squirm a little more........ *wicked smile* Enjoy, sweet boy!!

[Oda]

First, you are most welcome. *Smile*

Now.....before I say anything else.....no, no, no...you may not use the addendum to the numbers rule. *giggle* I am looking forward to watching you struggle with this. *Wicked smile*
Okay, okay...you can, if you have to....but, please don't have to. *giggle*

I'm so glad you liked the picture I left for you. I suppose I could leave you another one...maybe. *grin*

Okay......I am officially ordering you to do something, if you haven't started your edges already today...and if you have, then do this tomorrow.
I want you to space the edges out.....you must wait at least two hours between them. *wicked smile* Let's see just how intensely horny I can get you. *wicked smile* I want you to stay in a state of need, all day!!! *Wicked smile grows*

Okay, here is another picture to make you squirm a little more........ *wicked smile* Enjoy, sweet boy!!

Don´t worry Mistress Shell... i don´t need to reduce my time in denial. I will stay in it for the whole 10 days, but with that task i will need to wait until tommorrow, because my last post was for the edges from today.

[Streetsweeper]

3 and 7 draw on 24/02/12

How annoying I did write up a post and thought I had submitted it, I guess I was wrong!

Quote from Miss Shell:

" I am soooo glad that you are giving it another try. *big smile*
I laughed so hard at you making sure the Queen was there!!!

Wow!!! Where did your luck go? Seven days.......goodness!!! Well I think you can do this!!!! Yes, yes, yes!!!! Control that cock for me.....make it do what you want. *big smile*

I am not going to give you an alternate task yet and here is why. If I do, I believe that it promotes failure. I want you to see yourself on March 1st, after waiting four hours past that third edge, cumming to your hearts content. *bright smile*
We will deal with alternates, only if we have to, okie dokie. Focus on success!!! Focus on me...*bright smile*

mmmmm I've completed the 3 edges now.

It's left the head of my cock coated in precum. I think this is going to be a long weekend....lol


*licks my lips at the thought of precum* A delicious long weekend. *grin*"

I'm glad to be giving it another try too :) Thanks for the encouragement!. I am going to try and take it one day at a time and see how far I can get. I definitely had to check for the queen, imagine playing this game without it? lol

Also thanks for the lube yesterday for one of my edges, that really did help :) I woke up this morning with my balls aching somewhat. When I felt them they did feel like they were aching and bulging from all this stimulation and no release lol I performed my first two edges this morning. Whilst edging for the 2nd time a whole lot of precum leaked out, as if to prove the point my balls were full of cum desperate to get out it. It felt so good Miss!! I've had to wait a while before attempting a 3rd and final edge as I was too worked up earlier. :)

p.s. I liked the last pic you posted for Oda, very sexy :)

[Banquo]

this pic reminded me of this thread

[7in]

Sorry to hear your real life got in the way Shell. Sounds like you found a good way to deal with it and had lots of fun

Update from yesterday and today.

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So, I started the game again yesterday. I drew a J of clubs. Checks rules. OK fun, two webteases. The first was the college intern. Which had two edges and a ruin, but I switched the ruin for an edge, which was a tough choice to make since the tease is telling me to do what I would rather do. Because of the no cumming rules of this game. The second I can't remember the name of. It was in ALL CAPS and was a part 2. I t had a cowgirl bartender and was quite well written very teasing and got me very turned on it ended with an edge. I am not sure what the line between an edge and a ruin is but I was definitely walking it. I learned how razor thin that line can be and I may have crossed it. This bothered me a bit for a while. What was that? Did it count? I decided not to worry about it. Because it was at the end of a cards' task and there is no rule for what to do between cards other than, have fun.

So, I drew again...6 AGAIN are you fucking kidding me draw again J of hearts. My only toy isn't really a toy and it's not for me. A left handed edge would have been fun but, not a number so skip. next Q of clubs glad I don't have to do that next Ace of diamonds I want to do that, but it would make things even more difficult and again NaN (Not a Number). Next J of clubs again NaN. Finally a number... a 9 FUCK noooo no no no. I won't. I can't. I quit... well I'll see how far I get and if I can beat the 3 days of 6 I drew and failed before. I set myself the goal of 5 I'd be really happy if I could get that far.

In the late evening a friend of mine I have played with IRL sent me a FaceBook chat telling me she is very horny and informs me her bf is gone. She has a open relationship so is still allowed to play. We often sext each other up. She prefers that I dom her. One of the reasons I am more sub on here much of the time.
So we chatted for a long time and things got quite intense and fun I did 2 edges during that.

Back in Milo chat me and Miss Jen were having fun with her new found latex fetish so that was another edge then Miss Jen was playing with either Dream or Jas, forget which and that was number 4. I also had a nice chat with tea about what she likes and that was an edge.

Now I was quite tired and started on my final edge just letting my mind wander I found myself thinking back to the time we played in chat and start fantasising about what it would be like in real life (lucky hubbies). I don't know if your avatar pic is you but that is what I was imagining. This led to a very close edge. It was so close I couldn't help but think how easy it would be to finish and did right after before I had calmed down.

I don't know why I did that. My need wasn't that great. It wasn't like there was a ton of pressure I was holding back or anything it was just right within my grasp and I took it without thinking. I failed on day one. I'm so embarrassed. I was very mad at myself. How could I do worse than last time? I went on a little rant about this on chat. People were supportive and that helped slightly. Albino kinda pissed me off though.

I had a very hard time getting to sleep and was feeling depressed. How could I fail so badly and I was worried about how I would tell you and what you would think. I was also thinking about other failures in my life and got very sad. I did eventually get to sleep. I felt much better in the morning.

I decided to take a break from this game for awhile. I think I'm going to challenge myself to 4 edges for 4 days. Unless you have a better idea...

[dr.d]

I decided to take a break from this game for awhile. I think I'm going to challenge myself to 4 edges for 4 days. Unless you have a better idea...

Good luck and enjoy both the eges and the break.


and thank you every one for your feed back , I am thinking that some parts of the game need to be re writen

[S.M.]

So, I still don't touch since I cum on day 3 of my game, umm, I think it was friday. Actually I don't feel very horny and that I need to touch, so I'm not sure if I should start again now or wait a few more days. I also hestitate if I should draw again, or try to complete the challenge from my previous draw (which is 3 edges for ten days). I'm afraid that I'll draw the task I know I won't be able to do (such as 10/10), while 3/10 seems pretty much in my possibilities. Any suggestions?

Shell: The decision you made was definetely hard. But I guess that you enjoyed the way your game ended. So many edges in one day! And the scene of you husband edging you while you expected release - mmmm - what a delightful orgasm you must have had afterwards :)
I want to thank you once again for your participation here and what you taught me and other about denial. It was a lot of fun to play along with you, and I'm sad that you won't be here during my next attempt. You gave me strength to last for three days, and I'm sure I'd last longer if only that unexpected accident didn't happen. I can safely say that you guided me into the sensual world of pleasures of orgasm denial, and I'll always be thankful for that!

7in: Don't worry! We all fail, but we do this to push our limits beyond what we know :) Give youself a little break (I did the same after I cum accidentaly). When you release yourself and all that tension is gone, you're not in the mood for playing. Kinky thoughts need some time to regenerate and come back ;)

Streetsweeper: I found that oil-based lubes (such as baby oil) work much better for long-term edging than any water-based (like durex play or your saliva). Thei moisturize the skin, and I felt suprisingly good down there when I woke up the next day while I'm usualy quite sore after edging. And because the oil itself is a bit too thick for me, I mix oil with water in the ratio 2:1 which makes it more slippery :)

dr.d: My suggestion is to remove the spanking part (not everyone accepts those things) and to reduce the task time and increase the intensity. I think that 5 days should be the maximum - because then you draw the cards more often. Most people here didn't make it to their second draw without cumming. But those are just my ideas, I think the idea of this game is great and we are all very thankful to you for running this :)

[shell]

Don´t worry Mistress Shell... i don´t need to reduce my time in denial. I will stay in it for the whole 10 days, but with that task i will need to wait until tommorrow, because my last post was for the edges from today.

I can't wait to see how you do today! *bright smile*

[shell]

3 and 7 draw on 24/02/12

How annoying I did write up a post and thought I had submitted it, I guess I was wrong!

I'm glad to be giving it another try too :) Thanks for the encouragement!. I am going to try and take it one day at a time and see how far I can get. I definitely had to check for the queen, imagine playing this game without it? lol

Also thanks for the lube yesterday for one of my edges, that really did help :) I woke up this morning with my balls aching somewhat. When I felt them they did feel like they were aching and bulging from all this stimulation and no release lol I performed my first two edges this morning. Whilst edging for the 2nd time a whole lot of precum leaked out, as if to prove the point my balls were full of cum desperate to get out it. It felt so good Miss!! I've had to wait a while before attempting a 3rd and final edge as I was too worked up earlier. :)

p.s. I liked the last pic you posted for Oda, very sexy :)

I'm glad to see you are still moving forward! *bright smile* You are most welcome for the "lube". *wicked smile* Always enjoy helping. *giggling*

So, how are you balls doing? Are they aching even more now? *wicked smile*

It was a great picture I posted for Oda, wasn't it.......I'm glad you enjoyed it. *smile*

[shell]

Spoiler: show

this pic reminded me of this thread

Awesome picture!!!!! *big smile*

[shell]

Spoiler: show

Sorry to hear your real life got in the way Shell. Sounds like you found a good way to deal with it and had lots of fun

Update from yesterday and today.
So, I started the game again yesterday. I drew a J of clubs. Checks rules. OK fun, two webteases. The first was the college intern. Which had two edges and a ruin, but I switched the ruin for an edge, which was a tough choice to make since the tease is telling me to do what I would rather do. Because of the no cumming rules of this game. The second I can't remember the name of. It was in ALL CAPS and was a part 2. I t had a cowgirl bartender and was quite well written very teasing and got me very turned on it ended with an edge. I am not sure what the line between an edge and a ruin is but I was definitely walking it. I learned how razor thin that line can be and I may have crossed it. This bothered me a bit for a while. What was that? Did it count? I decided not to worry about it. Because it was at the end of a cards' task and there is no rule for what to do between cards other than, have fun.

So, I drew again...6 AGAIN are you fucking kidding me draw again J of hearts. My only toy isn't really a toy and it's not for me. A left handed edge would have been fun but, not a number so skip. next Q of clubs glad I don't have to do that next Ace of diamonds I want to do that, but it would make things even more difficult and again NaN (Not a Number). Next J of clubs again NaN. Finally a number... a 9 FUCK noooo no no no. I won't. I can't. I quit... well I'll see how far I get and if I can beat the 3 days of 6 I drew and failed before. I set myself the goal of 5 I'd be really happy if I could get that far.

In the late evening a friend of mine I have played with IRL sent me a FaceBook chat telling me she is very horny and informs me her bf is gone. She has a open relationship so is still allowed to play. We often sext each other up. She prefers that I dom her. One of the reasons I am more sub on here much of the time.
So we chatted for a long time and things got quite intense and fun I did 2 edges during that.

Back in Milo chat me and Miss Jen were having fun with her new found latex fetish so that was another edge then Miss Jen was playing with either Dream or Jas, forget which and that was number 4. I also had a nice chat with tea about what she likes and that was an edge.

Now I was quite tired and started on my final edge just letting my mind wander I found myself thinking back to the time we played in chat and start fantasising about what it would be like in real life (lucky hubbies). I don't know if your avatar pic is you but that is what I was imagining. This led to a very close edge. It was so close I couldn't help but think how easy it would be to finish and did right after before I had calmed down.

I don't know why I did that. My need wasn't that great. It wasn't like there was a ton of pressure I was holding back or anything it was just right within my grasp and I took it without thinking. I failed on day one. I'm so embarrassed. I was very mad at myself. How could I do worse than last time? I went on a little rant about this on chat. People were supportive and that helped slightly. Albino kinda pissed me off though.

I had a very hard time getting to sleep and was feeling depressed. How could I fail so badly and I was worried about how I would tell you and what you would think. I was also thinking about other failures in my life and got very sad. I did eventually get to sleep. I felt much better in the morning.

I decided to take a break from this game for awhile. I think I'm going to challenge myself to 4 edges for 4 days. Unless you have a better idea...

My goodness......*wraps my arms around you and gives you a long warm hug*
I am so sorry that you were feeling so depressed last night. I hate it, that you were.

You told me, absolutely perfectly.....and am proud of you for doing so, and not just walking away without saying a word. Thank you for that. *soft smile*

***

Yes, I think a break for you is a good idea. I think your body just needs to experience fun without restrictions, that anyone but yourself place upon it.

It sounds like you got over stimulated through out your day and that probably led to your getting to that place where you simply went over that edge. It happens. At the moment, it seems, like..."what the heck..... I want, I need this....". Then afterwards the quilt and depression sinks in. It happens to many people.

I'm glad you talked about it with people and glad that for the most part you got encouragement.

As you move through those edges that you are talking about doing......focus on them.....focus on how they feel right at that moment of intensity....let that moment become your friend....sorta like the edge is the light and the orgasm is the dark......stay in the light, soak it up. *soft smile*

When you are ready......try again. Now with the new rule with the number cards, it will make it a little easier for many of us. *smile* When you try again.....set yourself for one day......and do all the edges on that one day. See how that goes. *grin* *shivers thinking about the intensity of that idea...and then moans*

[shell]

and thank you every one for your feed back , I am thinking that some parts of the game need to be re written

Master, if I may ask you for a favor, please. Now that the numbers cards have the addendum.....would you please wait for just a little bit, before you make changes. The addendum might be just enough to make it easier for people. *soft smile*

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dr.d: My suggestion is to remove the spanking part (not everyone accepts those things) and to reduce the task time and increase the intensity. I think that 5 days should be the maximum - because then you draw the cards more often. Most people here didn't make it to their second draw without cumming. But those are just my ideas, I think the idea of this game is great and we are all very thankful to you for running this :)

I am going to respectfully disagree with you. *gentle smile*
It is true that not everyone is into spanking. However, if you change one thing, simply because some may not be into it, then where do the changes stop? For example, everyone may not be into the ice play or nipple clamps. So, personally I think if you start making that many changes, then the totality of the game is compromised.
The number card addendum was necessary because two many people haven't been able to make the long denial periods of time. By giving people a choice to do it the regular way, such as Oda is doing, or the other way, which I will be doing, gives fair chances to everyone.
The same is true about the amount of days. Everyone is different.....and if five is your limit for denial, then use the addendum to make sure that you stay within your limits. *Smile*

I would say this.....if someone draws the spanking card.....which is a 1 in 54 (with the Jokers added) chance that it will be drawn, and they are not into spanking, then they can make some choices.
The first choice....stop. No one is forcing anyone to do any of this. *smile*
The second choice.....write a post that explains that you aren't into "that", so instead you will do such and such as a replacement for that. Master nor I would look at that as a negitive but a complete desire to please and do so within the parameters of your limits. *Smile*