Jumping right into it.. i am a long time lurker. Used to be obsessed with a lot of sissy/crossdress/feminization and although the urges or desire never really left .. life had gotten in the way and I took a bit of a hiatus. After having the alone time a few days ago, and an overwhelming urge to act on these desires that were left at bay. I had read up on "sissygasms" and attempted to achieve this as I had once or twice in the past. However I was at a loss when I didn't have many options for insertables and it was to late to go out anywhere for anything.. so I found a carrot in the fridge.. shaved it down and lubed it up with a condom. Eased into it and sat deeper and deeper on it. At first what was an exhilarating rush turned into an uncertainty but I didn't want it to stop. As much as it was pleasurable I felt a bit of.. discomfort. Not so much pain just a strange discomfort. That wasn't fully taking away from the pleasure side of things. Maybe I was just too deep I thought and backed off a bit.. And though I felt I was close. The discomfort was too distracting and got a bit worse. Not sure if I went too deep or something with it being quite large and solid. But after about 5-7 minutes roughly I started to notice my penis was actually numb almost all over.. I was thrown off and a bit shocked. I stopped. Rested and got off normally. Although it took some work cause the numbness was fading but I was going from erect to semi to soft and back around a few times. Now, since I have been noticing less control of the PC muscle and urinating. Not a huge difference but just less control. And less sensitivity when returning to pump my hand a few days later.
So I suppose I share this experience to ask if anyone may have gone through anything similar at all or have any advice. Could this be an injury to that muscle. If anyone has experienced any similarities have you returned to*normal* after a while regaining sensitivity and control. Maybe I just need to give myself more of a break/rest before any more fapping. Anyone all input/ feedback would be greatly appreciated.
Seeking advice on an anal experience
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From my experience, I think the carrot is pretty hard/solid, maybe you put excessive pressure on your prostate without noticing, it has happened to me and it was always just a matter of days to feel normal again. If the carrot was cold, that may also be a factor, the numbness makes sense - that 's the reason I avoid cold anal toys, the "damage" seems to creep in and when I notice it is done already. I wish you a full and swift recovery, hope you continue experimenting!
Re: Seeking advice on an anal experience
As someone with a lot of anal experience, both alone and with partners:
1. Deep breath, you're probably fine unless you experienced extreme pain or extreme sharp sensations during the play. With anal play, you will KNOW when you are not fine, you won't have any question about it (and with basic precautions like lube and safe toys you'll always be fine). When fucking yourself, you aren't just exercising muscles, you're exercising a very large, very powerful muscle. If you don't do it often, feeling numb or exhausted or weird or sore is pretty normal. It's also normal to have deferred (different body part/muscle than what you directly exercised) pain or sensation even for many days after any heavy exercise. It's also about half of all AMAB people to not get erect or who experience "numbness" by low penile bloodflow during anal play (I don't think a study has been done, this is just anecdotal talking to other people who are comfortable talking about these topics like at munches or parties lol).
2. Never ever put anything inside of you that isn't designed to go inside of you. Carrots are not only hard, they are often sharp and can have small fibers that can kinda splinter, and they can break. Really not ideal even with a condom on it. You have no reason to not own a dildo or other toy like a pure wand--nowadays decent quality insertables are both inexpensive and easily obtainable even on like Amazon. You'll have more fun, and it is safer. If you live alone, you have no reason to not buy one. If you have a partner, just tell them you like anal--it really isn't that uncommon even for straight cis men to like anal, the prostate has more nerve endings than everything in AFAB anatomy combined subtracting the clitoris. You'll have a lot more fun in life being honest with partners about the stuff you're into, whether or not they want to participate in it.
1. Deep breath, you're probably fine unless you experienced extreme pain or extreme sharp sensations during the play. With anal play, you will KNOW when you are not fine, you won't have any question about it (and with basic precautions like lube and safe toys you'll always be fine). When fucking yourself, you aren't just exercising muscles, you're exercising a very large, very powerful muscle. If you don't do it often, feeling numb or exhausted or weird or sore is pretty normal. It's also normal to have deferred (different body part/muscle than what you directly exercised) pain or sensation even for many days after any heavy exercise. It's also about half of all AMAB people to not get erect or who experience "numbness" by low penile bloodflow during anal play (I don't think a study has been done, this is just anecdotal talking to other people who are comfortable talking about these topics like at munches or parties lol).
2. Never ever put anything inside of you that isn't designed to go inside of you. Carrots are not only hard, they are often sharp and can have small fibers that can kinda splinter, and they can break. Really not ideal even with a condom on it. You have no reason to not own a dildo or other toy like a pure wand--nowadays decent quality insertables are both inexpensive and easily obtainable even on like Amazon. You'll have more fun, and it is safer. If you live alone, you have no reason to not buy one. If you have a partner, just tell them you like anal--it really isn't that uncommon even for straight cis men to like anal, the prostate has more nerve endings than everything in AFAB anatomy combined subtracting the clitoris. You'll have a lot more fun in life being honest with partners about the stuff you're into, whether or not they want to participate in it.
Re: Seeking advice on an anal experience
It certainly wad cold as I took it from the fridge.. not thinking about that fact as I have in the past used cucumbers with much better result... *shrugs and rubs head in shame* but thank you for sharing your words it definitely put some ease to my mind. And I have seemed to recover for the most part. Just still slight less control so I've been trying to exercise the muscle down there when I can.badjano wrote: Thu Aug 26, 2021 6:43 pm From my experience, I think the carrot is pretty hard/solid, maybe you put excessive pressure on your prostate without noticing, it has happened to me and it was always just a matter of days to feel normal again. If the carrot was cold, that may also be a factor, the numbness makes sense - that 's the reason I avoid cold anal toys, the "damage" seems to creep in and when I notice it is done already. I wish you a full and swift recovery, hope you continue experimenting!
Thank you for sharing your wise words as well. I am not aware of what amab stands for. But what you said definitely puts it into perspective. I may have had a slight sharp pain but again it was more of a strange discomfort that was somewhat familiar when I haven't done any play in a while. Needless to say I assumed I would definitely know like you said if something was really wrong. My issue wasn't so much lack of erectness during but more after the fact while attempting to play a ch a few days later . But it is slowly improving I believe and getting close to normal again.wqslave wrote: Sat Aug 28, 2021 12:30 am As someone with a lot of anal experience, both alone and with partners:
1. Deep breath, you're probably fine unless you experienced extreme pain or extreme sharp sensations during the play. With anal play, you will KNOW when you are not fine, you won't have any question about it (and with basic precautions like lube and safe toys you'll always be fine). When fucking yourself, you aren't just exercising muscles, you're exercising a very large, very powerful muscle. If you don't do it often, feeling numb or exhausted or weird or sore is pretty normal. It's also normal to have deferred (different body part/muscle than what you directly exercised) pain or sensation even for many days after any heavy exercise. It's also about half of all AMAB people to not get erect or who experience "numbness" by low penile bloodflow during anal play (I don't think a study has been done, this is just anecdotal talking to other people who are comfortable talking about these topics like at munches or parties lol).
2. Never ever put anything inside of you that isn't designed to go inside of you. Carrots are not only hard, they are often sharp and can have small fibers that can kinda splinter, and they can break. Really not ideal even with a condom on it. You have no reason to not own a dildo or other toy like a pure wand--nowadays decent quality insertables are both inexpensive and easily obtainable even on like Amazon. You'll have more fun, and it is safer. If you live alone, you have no reason to not buy one. If you have a partner, just tell them you like anal--it really isn't that uncommon even for straight cis men to like anal, the prostate has more nerve endings than everything in AFAB anatomy combined subtracting the clitoris. You'll have a lot more fun in life being honest with partners about the stuff you're into, whether or not they want to participate in it.
And for part to. Again great advice. I realize now how foolish it was of me to be so desperate and impatient. I was looking at toys online recently to but never pulled the trigger yet. The thing is my partner does know and like to enjoy anal play with me. However she has recently run into som health issues and hasn't had the same... drive as once did. Anyways. I will definitely now invest in a toy before the next time I consider a play session. Thank you both for your input !