A question for the masses!

[Fataski]

I have been lurking for many months and posted a couple times. I often see this forum abused as an attempt to find a Mistress online. I was quite curious about getting a Mistress for a couple months, and came to the realization that it was best kept as a fantasy. So as a fantasy element, this site is perfect for me because there are hundreds of Mistresses just waiting for me to do their bidding.

I was just wondering how many people here in the forums have an online or real life Mistress, and how many just like the idea as fantasy?

[blondetaurus]

I have an rl Mistress.....
I guess for some it can be just a fantasy, but if you want to ask yourself whether or not you would want a Mistress, whether online or rl, try this question.

Do you want someone to tell you how to get off (Orgasm) ? Or do you get off because you are following someones orders and making them amused?

Perhaps that wasnt phrased perfectly, but for anyone who is wondering whether it is a fantasy to them or not, that could be the key question they need to ask themselves. Is it about them, or is it about them channeled through another person. Is it that you need that persons control and to make them amused, pleased, happy, or is it that you just want a kinky way to jack off.

I feel what I have said could be contreversial and I apologise in advance, but this is how I see it.

For myself, I need someone in control and to amuse and please, because that is what gives me a real feel good buzz. The orgasm doesnt have to be a part of that.

I should also note that I have tried vanilla relationships for years. I stopped around the age of 20, because I was bored of them, and now I see the D/s relationship as the only relationship for me.

Hope this helps
-blondetaurus

[Fataski]

Actually that makes a lot of sense. It's something I fantasize about, but not something I want on an everyday basis. I assume the d/s relationship isn't just sexual, but an actual bond between two people, correct? That's always the impression I got from it.

I had an online Mistress for a couple of weeks, it was fun, but not something I'd want in any permanent sense.

[rbtheservant]

My wife is my Mistress, but it isn't a 24/7 thing. In fact, it is more the special occasion than the norm when it comes to our relations. For me it is a both, another diversion to "vanilla" sex and I love to serve and please my wife. IF I wasn't getting the occasional "Domme Session" at home, I can tell you that I would have to seek a professional. In other words I am naturally a submissive and have a true "need" to serve. For me it is more than just a fantasy, though I fantasize a lot about many being submissive. Only you know what works best for you.

[all2true]

My wife is my Mistress, but it isn't a 24/7 thing. In fact, it is more the special occasion than the norm when it comes to our relations. For me it is a both, another diversion to "vanilla" sex and I love to serve and please my wife. IF I wasn't getting the occasional "Domme Session" at home, I can tell you that I would have to seek a professional. In other words I am naturally a submissive and have a true "need" to serve. For me it is more than just a fantasy, though I fantasize a lot about many being submissive. Only you know what works best for you.

I also have a wonderful wife
who is aware of my submissive side
and this web site
she has viewed my teases
and several of my posts

[denialslave2007]

sorry ive been away for awhile but i think i would deffinatly love to have a full time mistress and teased and denied at her whim!!!!!

[potveg]

I'm not usually moved to comment, but I just had to for this one.
My personal experience is that I'd sort of fantasised that I'd like an online Miss for a long time, but never did anything proactive about it.
Then one day, whilst in the chat room on this site, not for a minute thinking about finding a Miss, I got chatting to a chatter. She and I and a couple of others were just chatting, but before I logged off the Miss asked for my yahoo messenger id, which I gave.
A few days later she contacted me and for a few weeks she played with me a bit, on and off. Nothing too serious, as we never seemed to be online at the same time for long.
I can tell you that very quickly, my every waking moment was spent longing to be online and to be at her beck and call, but it hasn't lasted. As quickly as it started, it's over and I've not heard from her or seen her online for weeks, and it's killing me. I would do anything to hear from her again.
So, as they say "Be careful what you wish for!"

PS. Miss, if you read this, please forgive me for whatever it was that I did wrong and talk to me again.

[Marke]

What can I say?

It works for me.

It is true however about the need for time - both online and real life.

It is also very obsessive I find. Constantly checking email.

For me it has also helped me cope with the stresses of my relationship with my wife and instead of getting annoyed and angry I now just get turned on and frustrated (in a nice way).

The eventual orgasms are much better and the connectedness and closeness is very nice and comforting.

I am lucky in having met some very nice compatible partners. I imagine it could take a while to find the right person and what is right for me won't be the same for someone else.

[profit princess]

in whatever you choose to do, I wish you the best of luck and hope everything works out.