Orgasm Control Program

[CruelNatalie]

Ok so we are building a website for male chastity control. You’ll be able to register, for free and then not only track your orgasms but generate assignments, punishments and rewards. This site will be totally free unless you need to enlist to a more monitored program. Are you excited? I know I am!

But I need your help. I need to create assignments, punishments and rewards based on levels. If you could, in the comments section below type the following;

Your top three motivations. In other words what three assignments could you do that would make your cock ROCK hard.
Three rewards that would encourage you enough to continue.
Three punishments that would “teach” you a lesson yet continue to keep you focused. They need to reprimand you yet encourage you to stay in erotic sub space. These need to be actual punishments.
Here is your motivation

If you give me a detailed list that I can use (feel free to do more than three) and I like your list I will give you a FREE copy of my audio Hypnosis Cock Control Audio . I am a fair woman and can be as generous as you are so please dig down into your creative juices. You can do it!

If you want to win the free audio you must do a complete list of all three. Be sure that when you create your comment to add your email which is only seen by me. The sooner I have these the sooner we will be able to create this wonderful program.

Let’s do it!

[SexualChoc]

I am willing to help

from hanging out in chat and teasing a Lot of people
What gets guys rock hard:
sexy nude pictures
Porn video
porn video And stroking
the reason for the three categories have to do with age, and familiarity with porn I would say a large percent an get rock hard just looking at a few pictures
a smaller number actually Need a video, pictures alone don't do it
and a few need to actually stroke to porn

Punishments:
the most common punishment is usually pain
slapping balls... the one that works , for those who Like pain, is a clamp/clothes pin on tongue

....next is humiliation: many actually like this so this only works for some
but crawling on all fours, eating food off the floor, even sitting while peeing
generally these are "minor"
real humiliation like: taking cold showers, no alcohol/smoking, Nude exercise are a bit more effective
but even these only work for a few

.....femme, or Feminization can also be a punishment usually on this site Most Like it and want it as part of a tease. I would say femme is more of a positive tease idea than negative only perhaps 20% or less would see it as a punishment.


Universal punishments (as far as I know no one likes these)
Stand in a corner nose to wall, slap your foot with a whip hard, drink hot sauce,
jumping jacks nude while singing a silly song, Ice on balls or in ass, being ignored.


Note I Do NOT, repeat NOT want a free hypnosis audio program if this is not enough information I can help you with even more specifics.

[FCK88]

1. Stroking to a beat/metronome, Dress up in female clothes and fuck yourself with a buttplug, Watch a porn clip but keep your hands away from your cock(or you could tie them up beforehand)

(Your top three motivations. In other words what three assignments could you do that would make your cock ROCK hard.)

2. Edging, Having a full orgasm, Having a ruined orgasm(when people have been denied a long time they would almost feel this as a reward, believe me!)

(Three rewards that would encourage you enough to continue.)

3. CBT, Spanking yourself with an item that REALLY makes you feel the pain, Being denied a full release for X couple of days(maybe X couple of weeks if you're really mean!)

(Three punishments that would “teach” you a lesson yet continue to keep you focused. They need to reprimand you yet encourage you to stay in erotic sub space. These need to be actual punishments.)

I hope you can use this for your program ;)

FCK88

P.S. my email is [email protected]

[skrote]

I love this concept. I am married, my wife supports my "kink" but she is not creative. It often is her enforcing a system I set up, something like this will make it possible to remove the creative burden from her, while letting rewards/punishments ect be a surprise for me.

So first, assignments.

1. Feminization/Public Humiliation: (based on an assignment I have done under my wife's direction) Go to a nail salon in a busy strip mall, or in a mall. Preferably one that has pedicure stations that can be seen from the window. Go in for a pedicure, including having your toes painted. This can be stacked with a requirement to try on a certain number of women's open toed shoes. Proof would be sending in receipts, and pictures. When I did this, I also had to buy some items from Victoria Secret, and had to carry around the bag to all the locations. It was quite the experience.

2. I have not done this, but read it in a forum once. The assignment would be to get one of the Clone-A-Willy kits: http://www.nitetimetoys.com/empire-labs. Make a clone of of you member. For the purpose of this assignment, the submissive would remain in chastity from the time the assignment was given, until the clone was made, and then once complete would have to cum using only the clone. Now... for added denial, you could say you get 1 minute per day denied, meaning if has been a week, you get 7 minutes to try to cum using your clone (prostate milking of course)

3. Edging assignment. Number 1 driver is being horny. I read this somewhere, can't remember where, and I'm sure I'm not getting it exact, but you will get the gist. The edging consist of rounds. 1 round can be up to 5 minutes. You can't just edge as much as fast as you can, you do so kneeling, and over a saucer. when you edge, you let go. You complete the round if you were so horny, that you can get a drop of precum to drip down to the saucer. Of course, at the end of your teasing session you lick up your mess. Now the evil part.. for each time you fail to get a drop.. ad a day, or a week, or whatever your increment is onto your denial period. For example, if you are assigned 10 rounds, and fail 7 times you would add an additional week to your chastity period. I'm not doing the original assignment justice, if someone knows which one I'm talking about please post a link.

Rewards: (I mention some of these based on it being your website)

1. number 1 reward, assigned a JOI video to watch with a chance to cum (really anything to have a chance to cum)

2. A denial "get out of jail free card" aka, get to cum without having to consume it.

3. A custom tease session

4. A half price phone session, or half off a custom assignment.

5. Random chance to Cum, This would require the person to give you their phone number, but let them know within the next 24 hours, they will get the text with the word "now" I guess you could do an email too. The rule though is, from the time stamp on the text/email, they have 5 minutes to get off. If you fail, then you have to wait. So if it is by email, one best have a smart phone. Please note, no reason for you to give your cell phone number. Most cell phone carriers allow you to send a text message from there website to any mobile carrier.


Punishments:

1. I personally HATE writing lines.. Either by hand, or Fond of Words, and I just discovered a new one called http://www.writeforme.org. You could actually have several non-public assignments ready to go, and just email the person. It gives you a report of how long it took them, number of mistakes, ect ect. I am often given these in German, and for multiple offences the number of lines goes way up, and there are ways to make it more evil within the program.. adding lines ect. Once, for every mistake I made, I then had to hand write 10 times... very evil... no fun.. I think you could easily have ma9any ready to go, and just put the link to it in a punishment assignment.

2. Electric fly swatter... http://www.amazon.com/Charcoal-Companio ... ly+swatter It is perfect for self inflicted punishments. Doesn't mater how hard, or light you swing, each touch packs the same jolt. For me, doing it on the bottom of my feet is the worst.

3. Writing assignments other than writing lines... essays on what I did wrong.. no fun, or just a random research project.

4. Nose to the wall holding a quarter or other object with hands cuffed behind the back (or tied) also no fun

5. This could be an assignment, or a punishment. Assignment would be to go somewhere and have them wax your legs and/or other areas, punishment would be that you have to do it to yourself.

6. remaining in chastity until a book (erotic/fem dom) is read, and a "book report" posted on the forum or your blog. Preferably bought through your amazon affiliate link (I assume you have one, if not you should, especially if people buy you things off your wish list, why not get a kick back from it)

7. (A good one for cumming without permission) Go to home depot, buy a rough patch of carpet. You can only cum by dry rubbing on the carpet. Not so bad? How about 3 or more in a row?


Now some ideas/suggestions for your site. From reading your blog and your posts, I love that you tailor programs for peoples needs, help them budget, ect ect. I think it would be great if the site had a list of commitments, chores, ect that could be implemented. For example, a food journal, budgeting. (day of denial for every dollar you spend over budget? or 10 calories over your meal plan.) Even chores listed throughout the week. Part of the program could be to do an evaluation on yourself each day. The results of which could prompt rewards, punishments, assignments, ect. Personally, I think that for that level of interaction, it should be a paid feature, plus this would weed out the "jerkers" from those who truly desire a D/s experience that is geared toward self improvement and betterment.

Hope you find this useful.

~Skrote

[goodman]

Thanks for the hard work to create this program. I am very interested to see what you come up with. Here are a few of my favorite things:

Assignments
Stimulation tests - stroking, edging, etc.
Private humiliation - humping, nakedness, kneeling, force feminization to semi public humiliation - lingerie under clothes, lip gloss
Chastity

Rewards
Orgasm - full, ruined
Edging - once, multiple times, holding, ladders, etc
Consuming porn - watch video, photos, stroking

Punishment
Denial - Chastity, no touch, no porn
Pain - spanking, slapping, clothes pins
Exercise

[uberbear01]

Your website idea sounds really cool and I wish You the best of luck with it! Here are my humble suggestions:

Assignments
Goddess Worship
Building a shrine
Humiliation revolving around foot worship and ass worship
Cuckolding (more mental than actual, personally speaking)


Rewards
Perhaps users could earn xbox style achievements for longer durations of denial?
Maybe some sort of personalised messages of encouragement? These could be automated for set periods and could land via email or PM? I dunno how feasible this is!
Ive always loved slightly cruel rewards as they stimulate the submissive in me, so perhaps something like edging or merely being able to stroke literally once or having to hump something?

Punishments
Writing lines, takes forever and is quite humbling.
Perhaps posting a proof image of a physical punishment like licking the floor clean, or toothbrushing the toilet
I hate clothespins so anything involving them is a definite punishment that soon loses its safe, kinky, fun side!
Maybe having to kneel and repeat a mantra for a set time?

I hope these help!

[CruelNatalie]

I am willing to help

from hanging out in chat and teasing a Lot of people
What gets guys rock hard:
sexy nude pictures
Porn video
porn video And stroking
the reason for the three categories have to do with age, and familiarity with porn I would say a large percent an get rock hard just looking at a few pictures
a smaller number actually Need a video, pictures alone don't do it
and a few need to actually stroke to porn

Punishments:
the most common punishment is usually pain
slapping balls... the one that works , for those who Like pain, is a clamp/clothes pin on tongue

....next is humiliation: many actually like this so this only works for some
but crawling on all fours, eating food off the floor, even sitting while peeing
generally these are "minor"
real humiliation like: taking cold showers, no alcohol/smoking, Nude exercise are a bit more effective
but even these only work for a few

.....femme, or Feminization can also be a punishment usually on this site Most Like it and want it as part of a tease. I would say femme is more of a positive tease idea than negative only perhaps 20% or less would see it as a punishment.


Universal punishments (as far as I know no one likes these)
Stand in a corner nose to wall, slap your foot with a whip hard, drink hot sauce,
jumping jacks nude while singing a silly song, Ice on balls or in ass, being ignored.


Note I Do NOT, repeat NOT want a free hypnosis audio program if this is not enough information I can help you with even more specifics.

hahhahaha ok I won't force you to take the audio. lol

But thank you. These are good. I want to put more details for assignments and punishments into tables that will go into a database to generate.

[CruelNatalie]

Your ideas are wonderful! I would love to have you and your wife join us. Would you be so kind to copy and paste this on my blog under comments for this post?

http://dominantmistressphonesex.com/201 ... w-website/

You and she can also subscribe to my blog (for updates) because it will be a stand a lone site just for this project. We love ideas from couples and giving you ideas. This project is going to be a lot of fun. Thank you so very much. I'd love to give you an audio if your wife allows it.

I love this concept. I am married, my wife supports my "kink" but she is not creative. It often is her enforcing a system I set up, something like this will make it possible to remove the creative burden from her, while letting rewards/punishments ect be a surprise for me.

So first, assignments.

1. Feminization/Public Humiliation: (based on an assignment I have done under my wife's direction) Go to a nail salon in a busy strip mall, or in a mall. Preferably one that has pedicure stations that can be seen from the window. Go in for a pedicure, including having your toes painted. This can be stacked with a requirement to try on a certain number of women's open toed shoes. Proof would be sending in receipts, and pictures. When I did this, I also had to buy some items from Victoria Secret, and had to carry around the bag to all the locations. It was quite the experience.

2. I have not done this, but read it in a forum once. The assignment would be to get one of the Clone-A-Willy kits: http://www.nitetimetoys.com/empire-labs. Make a clone of of you member. For the purpose of this assignment, the submissive would remain in chastity from the time the assignment was given, until the clone was made, and then once complete would have to cum using only the clone. Now... for added denial, you could say you get 1 minute per day denied, meaning if has been a week, you get 7 minutes to try to cum using your clone (prostate milking of course)

3. Edging assignment. Number 1 driver is being horny. I read this somewhere, can't remember where, and I'm sure I'm not getting it exact, but you will get the gist. The edging consist of rounds. 1 round can be up to 5 minutes. You can't just edge as much as fast as you can, you do so kneeling, and over a saucer. when you edge, you let go. You complete the round if you were so horny, that you can get a drop of precum to drip down to the saucer. Of course, at the end of your teasing session you lick up your mess. Now the evil part.. for each time you fail to get a drop.. ad a day, or a week, or whatever your increment is onto your denial period. For example, if you are assigned 10 rounds, and fail 7 times you would add an additional week to your chastity period. I'm not doing the original assignment justice, if someone knows which one I'm talking about please post a link.

Rewards: (I mention some of these based on it being your website)

1. number 1 reward, assigned a JOI video to watch with a chance to cum (really anything to have a chance to cum)

2. A denial "get out of jail free card" aka, get to cum without having to consume it.

3. A custom tease session

4. A half price phone session, or half off a custom assignment.

5. Random chance to Cum, This would require the person to give you their phone number, but let them know within the next 24 hours, they will get the text with the word "now" I guess you could do an email too. The rule though is, from the time stamp on the text/email, they have 5 minutes to get off. If you fail, then you have to wait. So if it is by email, one best have a smart phone. Please note, no reason for you to give your cell phone number. Most cell phone carriers allow you to send a text message from there website to any mobile carrier.


Punishments:

1. I personally HATE writing lines.. Either by hand, or Fond of Words, and I just discovered a new one called http://www.writeforme.org. You could actually have several non-public assignments ready to go, and just email the person. It gives you a report of how long it took them, number of mistakes, ect ect. I am often given these in German, and for multiple offences the number of lines goes way up, and there are ways to make it more evil within the program.. adding lines ect. Once, for every mistake I made, I then had to hand write 10 times... very evil... no fun.. I think you could easily have ma9any ready to go, and just put the link to it in a punishment assignment.

2. Electric fly swatter... http://www.amazon.com/Charcoal-Companio ... ly+swatter It is perfect for self inflicted punishments. Doesn't mater how hard, or light you swing, each touch packs the same jolt. For me, doing it on the bottom of my feet is the worst.

3. Writing assignments other than writing lines... essays on what I did wrong.. no fun, or just a random research project.

4. Nose to the wall holding a quarter or other object with hands cuffed behind the back (or tied) also no fun

5. This could be an assignment, or a punishment. Assignment would be to go somewhere and have them wax your legs and/or other areas, punishment would be that you have to do it to yourself.

6. remaining in chastity until a book (erotic/fem dom) is read, and a "book report" posted on the forum or your blog. Preferably bought through your amazon affiliate link (I assume you have one, if not you should, especially if people buy you things off your wish list, why not get a kick back from it)

7. (A good one for cumming without permission) Go to home depot, buy a rough patch of carpet. You can only cum by dry rubbing on the carpet. Not so bad? How about 3 or more in a row?


Now some ideas/suggestions for your site. From reading your blog and your posts, I love that you tailor programs for peoples needs, help them budget, ect ect. I think it would be great if the site had a list of commitments, chores, ect that could be implemented. For example, a food journal, budgeting. (day of denial for every dollar you spend over budget? or 10 calories over your meal plan.) Even chores listed throughout the week. Part of the program could be to do an evaluation on yourself each day. The results of which could prompt rewards, punishments, assignments, ect. Personally, I think that for that level of interaction, it should be a paid feature, plus this would weed out the "jerkers" from those who truly desire a D/s experience that is geared toward self improvement and betterment.

Hope you find this useful.

~Skrote

[kr3jk]

Motivations

• Answering intimate and humiliating questions is a great turn-on. Knowing that the answers will result in consequences down the road adds a dimension to it as well. Also, being told right from the get go that there will be no orgasm but I will still be teased is very arousing.
• Being made to watch humiliating porn while masturbating.
• Cleaning or doing other chores naked with various toys such as buttplug, clothespins etc.
• Being told to watch porn for a set amount of time with some goals set. E.g. watch porn for 30 min and edge 10 times during this time.

Rewards

• Any personal tasks from you such as free phone/skype call, custom audio etc.
• A long awaited orgasm is most likely the greatest reward to work for.
• I saw someone writing a "get out of jail free card" and this is a good idea. This could mean a free orgasm, a "get-out-of-a-punishment", or something like that to be used once.

Punishments

• Being made to wear a buttplug for a predetermined time. Or for instance being made to sleep with a buttplug in.
• Being denied a full orgasm after a period of denial in favor of a ruin orgasm.
• Numerical control such as attitude points or punishment points which would affect the chances of being allowed an orgasm or even masturbate. For instance, an infraction gives 10 points which has to be "worked off". Punishments can then be worth a number of points, such as 5 ball-slaps is 1 point etc.

[Xenophobe]

I'm not feeling terribly creative and I'm not into public humiliation kinds of things at all, so these might be a little unusual:

Punishment:

• Having to stare at one's self in the mirror naked
• Taking pictures of myself (selfies, clothed or naked - i hate doing it)
• Standing with my nose in the corner
• Losing screen time (i.e., no internet or tv)
• Forced reading of children's stories, young adult, M/m porn with perhaps quizzes
• Forced watching of cartoons with quizzes
• Sleep deprivation (having to wake up earlier than usual, or perhaps for an hour in the middle of the night to do some humiliating activity)
• Dietary control (e.g., restriction of yummy food, forced eating of spam or something bland, forced vegetarianism or veganism)
• Writing lines (someone already mentioned this, IMHO <50 lines can be erotic and exciting, but somewhere around 50 it becomes very tedious, I shudder to think of every have to write more than 100)
• Having to listen to the same song over and over (especially, something vapid like mylee cyrus)
• Humiliating writing assignments
• Having to select and describe other males that might be superior to me in some (or many) ways
• Ruined orgasm when it's not followed up by an actual orgasm (e.g., for days)
• Being forced to stroke to a very constrained subject matter (i.e., the same photo for days could get very tedious)

Many of the above could be turned around into rewards but here are some additional possibilities:

Rewards:

• Being able to continue using your orgasm control program (make it a privilege)
• Perhaps rank yourself against other subs in the program (a drop in rank could be a punishment also)
• Writing short (25-50) lines about my submission, chastity, or humiliation
• A personal note from you (this would be really special)
• Forced daily or occasional worship (e.g., maybe repeating a mantra about how beautiful you are and how lucky I am to serve you several times before eating, going to bed, or getting out of bed)
• Worship stroking to a picture of you
• Brief periods of chastity
• Easy (e.g., short) stroking assignments
• Knowing I'm a good sub (e.g., being told what a 'good sub' is so that I at least know for myself when I'm good)
• Being able to decide for myself if I'm allowed to cum (it's not the same as simply being 'allowed' to cum because in this case there's some notion that you might be happier if I didn't)

[dubble]

Wow! Cool! Can't wait to see it! Yes, very excited indeed!

Motivations:

Personally I love when the Domme gets off on what She does/orders (ordering me to kneel & lick Her boots in a public park, perhaps). If I know She is getting off on it, it makes me excited & hard, especially when She wants to see me humbled or in pain. Could be such a vast array of possibilities, but as long as She enjoys it (within discussed hard limits), it gets me hard. It is exciting to be pushed to/beyond my soft limits, sometimes, to try to please Her. Hearing & knowing She is hot & wet gets me rock hard! I want to push myself hard if I hear/know these things.

Being denied & told how/when/where I am allowed self-pleasure is another excitement. Things like being told, "you're not getting out of chastity for a very long time", make me want to explode on the spot. Makes me want to submit deeper & deeper, never to escape. A lot of it is in the mind & I love some of the mind games/control that a Domme can come up with.

Being pushed to some extreme things such as: if She asks how many edges I am willing to do for Her & my reply is 20, She can come back & say, "Oh no, 200". Or if locked in chastity, She might randomly increase my time from 3 weeks to 3 months, even as a reward for doing something well. Maybe it's the idea of Her enjoyment to see me suffer that gets me excited, Her liking of sadism, or just to make me a better trained sub.
I do, however, love assignments that involve bondage/self-bondage, pain, visual stimuli (latex, leather, boots, whips, tight inescapable bondage...), & humiliation.... pain mixed with pleasure.

Oral worship. Kissing, licking, rubbing, holding, touching, & nibbling on a woman's body gets me rock hard. Oh my!
Hope you can incorporate some of this into your program.

Rewards:
Maybe a competition for personal interaction or personal items from you or other Dommes (love a woman's worn, scented panties, for example, but different for everyone). Could be an online session, real chastity lock/key exchange, photos/vid, or a specific program for that individual. Of course an orgasm is a great reward & would make most of us probably want to continue. If I knew you were getting off on my obedience/assignments/suffering, then I would definitely want to continue. Even the chance to stroke, get hard, & edge is a reward after being locked up for awhile. A reward could be putting in larger 'poi' into a chastity device if I knew you were going to get off on my pain & have more pleasure/amusement/orgasms. A reward is being allowed to continue to obey & be of useful service.

Punishments:

Being banned/denied the use of your program, even for a month or two. Knowing the Domme is dissatisfied is punishment alone.

Being pushed through higher thresholds & tolerances (pain, humiliation, denial, even pleasure) can be both punishment & reward. Harsh caning/whipping/cropping/belting, even forced orgasms (for me anyway, like 4 or 5 in an hour! Yikes!)... both pain & pleasure can be punishments as long as they are past the pleasure stage (if that makes sense).

Longer chastity can make me do many things I normally might not do/try & can serve as punishment. It is something I both ache for & dread.

Post orgasm torture. This would teach me a lesson & keep me very focused!

Being denied porn & visuals of women or something else that the user really, really, enjoys regularly (can you make the program somewhat interactive so the user can enter in choices that are specific to him/her? Maybe have a large kinks checklist that new users have to go through, checking off things they love, things they don't like, things they will not ever do.... & integrate these into the program). Just a thought. But I am not a programmer so I do not know what's involved in something like this.

Thanks for reading & I am looking forward to the program!

[Nezhul]

too tired to post serious feedback, but here's a bit:

top three motivations (to make my cock hard)
- Stroking/edging
-watching porn (even w/o stroking)
- (in summer) - going for a walk. All the girls the eye falls on..... mmm~~
- if no walk avaliable, probably reading something good on the net.
- Oh, yea, I'm kinda a writer, and sometimes my imagination goes wild with my characters...

Three rewards that would encourage you enough to continue.
I'll assume we are talking about a real mistress, not a website. A website (robot) can't give much, except maybe some good words and lifting restrictions or allowing freedoms.
If we talk about a mistress:
1) Good feedback. How do I put it in words? It's like if I see that she's getting fun from this, interested in me - that will be good motivation and reward in itself. Maybe a little praise (maybe a lot!). Always good. If you see that on the other side someone is really into it - makes you wanna go on.
2) A treat. I'm talking about a present or something like that. I know it's silly and not exactly for the site, but that's what I think. I think that if a mistress is working with me, if I pay money for this, if I disclose my personality to her - it should be natural and normal for her to throw in some points of interest, some proove that it's all real and not just e-mails. It can be anything, from photo to a real thing. Even if it's a small thing and is very cheap. I, personally, would be glad if mistress made special photos for me (even if no face), or sent me something. How hard can it be to shoot a photo of your legs on high heels (for lovers), or your new sexy underwear lying on a bed? Or send in a postcard with a lipstick kiss on it? Or something more personal. Something like that, I'm thinking. It's a tease in itself too. Of course it's for the best guys only, but the prospect should be there. A live session in chat, messenger, or even voice and skype can be a treat. Of course it's not for everyone, but it should be clear that if you work hard it's there, the possibility.
3) Days off. Like not from denial, but from whatever chores there is. Or from some chores. Just days to relax, drink beer, and not think about anything.

Three punishments that would “teach” you a lesson yet continue to keep you focused.
1) signs of displeasure. If a mistress was chitty-chatty one day, then something I did wrong and she expresses displeasure - that'd be bad for me.
2) Adding denial days, adding chores or restrictions, limiting freedoms. Like if she forbids me to watch porn it'd be pretty bad. Or if she locks me into chastity, because I own it, but being denied doesn't mean I have to wear it, and I don't like wearing it.
3) A fee to the site? A small one, but still. For me it'd be really unpleasent.

and yea, I don't post my e-mails on forums, and if that meens I don't get a prize - it's cool. I did it just for fun.

[Xardas]

The premium part of your site will be tailored to the personal needs of the users, but I definitely think that even the free version should have some basic options in that regard. For example checkboxes to mark the sub's hard limits and general interests. I, for one, don't do feminization. Like at all. If any tease or anyone personally wants me to do that, I turn my back and walk away immediately. Yet for the most people around here, it is perfectly alright as a task or even as a reward. On the other hand, all those pain related tasks mentioned earlier wouldn't really be punishments in my case.

Case in point: I've done the Games of Pain recently and I was stupid enough to choose Doodle God in the second round. Now I had never played that before and I generally suck at memory games to begin with. Add regular distraction in the form of spanking to the picture and the result was that it took me over 2 friggin hours to finish the task. Add the fact that I rolled 4 (50 spanks in ever 2 minutes) and even after subtracting a good chunk of time that I've spent with the actual spanking, I still did around ~2 000 hits. All of them with full force and I have a relatively strong build, so let's just say that I tried to minimalise the amount time spent with sitting for the rest of the day. Still, did it excite me? Yes. Would I do it again? Absolutely.

With that being said, let me get to the actual point.

Assignments / motivations:

- Let's get the obvious out of the way first: stroking and porn. Both are no-brainers why.

- Naked workout. (Optional additions: doing it with tied up a tied up cock and balls; fixing a bullet-vibe on the head of the cock, or adding a vibrating cockring; wearing a buttplug while doing it, etc., you get the idea.) This might needs a little explanation why would this work for me, while doing cleaning or other chores would be more of the "meh, if you say so" category. No, not because I'm a body builder. I do have a strong build by nature, but I'm way too lazy to actually build upon that. It's because I do have a strong and wild imagination and I love to venture into the depths of it, creating stories, characters, building worlds in my mind (I'm kind of a writer). So, when I'm doing chores, I usually stop really paying attention to it and use the time to continue one of the tales I have in my head at the moment, while my body does the work. Whether I'm naked or not and doing it for you or because I have to take care of it anyway changes nothing in this regard.
Working out on the other hand requires attention. I have to keep count how many sit ups, push ups, weight lifts, etc have I done, have to coordinate my movements, watch my balance, etc. Not to mention after a while I will be all sweaty and my muscles will get sore, demanding my attention. All of that will make me focus my mind on the state of my body. The soreness, the sweatiness, the task at hand and of course, my state of arousal, especially when in denial. Adding any of those optional additions just strengthens this focus. It also helps, if I have to do all of this in front of a mirror. That makes me concious about how completely naked I am both mentally and physically.

- Giving targets and milestones to reach. Again, a personal thing, but I have a hard time focusing on anything. However, if I have a goal in mind to reach, and milestones that I have to pass, that helps a lot. And said milestones don't have to visible from the beginning, they can open up gradually. For me the prospect of "you have to do this list of ten things (with only the first two being visible, and the others opening up either with time or with the completion of an item on the list) to earn an orgasm from me" Is much, MUCH more exciting and arousing than the prospect of "you have a long way ahead of you before you are allowed to enjoy an orgasm", even if the time in denial and the tasks needed to be done are would be the same in both cases.

- This kind of links back to the first point, but still worth mentioning: stroking WITHOUT edging. Doing this for a longer period of time is more fitting under the punishments section, but doing it once in a while can get very arousing AND very frustrating. In denial I kind of substitute edges for orgasms. Getting to the edge has a promise of orgasm. I can see and feel how near the peak of my excitement is. And the knowledge that I cannot make good on that promise and cannot reach the peak makes it ever more thrilling. And it's kind of a mental satisfaction, that yes, I was close, I could go over, but I know better than to let my cock dictate and I could keep things under check. If I have to stroke a lot with the instruction, that I should stop before getting close to the edge and resume once I've calmed down a little, then this robs me from this possibility of mental satisfaction. On the other hand, I have to be extra careful and have to watch out for my arousal even more, so that I can avoid getting close to edge and this makes stroking more intense, so as a one time assignment, this works.

- Again, completely personal, and it's obvious from the posts above, that quite a lot of people would disagree, but mixing in pain with the pleasure is always seriously arousing for me. The simplest example is probably ordering the sub to use his off hand to stroke, and his main hand to spank himself at the same speed. So 1 spank = 1 stroke, preferably at the same time.

- Tying up one's own cock and balls in general. Seeing my manhood getting stiffer, harder and a bit larger than normally is pretty arousing on its own right AND seeing my private parts in bondage also helps me to get into a more submissive mood. Win-win situation really.

- Luck based stuff. I just love those "roll a dice to see what your luck has in store for you" kind of teases, so I'd welcome stuff like that in a denial period as well.

Rewards:

- Again, getting the obvious out of the way first: orgasms of any shape or kind.

- Chill-out day card. The sub could use it to get a day free: no stroking, punishments, assignments or rewards would be in effect for that day.

- Double edged rewards. Say, a token that would alleviate one kind of punishment, but double all other. The catch is, that the system would randomly decide on what kind of punishment will be alleviated only when the token is activated.

- Lifting restrictions, decreasing the time in denial, giving lower prices on some desired premium functions, giving a task that incorporates the sub1s favourite kink, etc. The obvious ones.

- Personal contact. Skype, e-mails, a few encouraging words, anything.

- I know that this section is really short compared to the others and that most of the things (if not all) were said before, but really, the very existence of such a website and service is kind of a reward on its own right. And basically most of the rewards go back to three bases 1) removing restrictions, making the denial easier somewhat; 2) giving the sub the freedom of choice (chill-out day, double-edge rewards) or 3) giving something personal.

Punishments:

- Forbidding edging for a longer period of time (for 4-5 days at least), I've explained why already.

- Periodical stroking. Example: make the sub stroke X times (preferably a relatively low number, say under 100, but your mileage may vary) in every, let's say, two hours (night hours included) for 2-3 days (or longer, but this takes a toll on the body after a while, so shouldn't be longer than a week at most). Since it is possible that the sub has periods of times when he simply cannot do it (say, if he is a bus driver and has a 3 hours long ride, then he obviously cannot jerk off in the driver's seat), so there should be a solution included here. Say, for every period he skips, he has to add two period to the punishment time. Say that he would have to do this for three days with 50 strokes in every two hours. He skips 3 periods. That would mean that instead of 48 hours, his punishment would last for 60 hours. If you want to be REALLY cruel give a higher stroke/period ratio (say 300-500) AND throw in a ban on edging.
This might sound counter-intuitive. Giving out lots of strokes as a punishment? How would that even work? Well, the trick is: even in denial nobody is sexually aroused 24/7. Human body simply does not work that way. If your mind is preoccupied with something else, say working, doing the shopping, driving, etc, then your sexual needs are taking a back seat in your mind. What denial does however, is making you MUCH more susceptible to erotic ideas. A denied man will get aroused much faster and it takes him a longer time to calm down afterwards. A low number of strokes in every hour is not enough to get any real pleasure out of it, but sure as hell enough to force the man in question to keep his state of arousal and his desire for satisfaction constantly in mind, without any hope for release. And the fact that he either makes his punishment MUCH longer or has to screw up his sleeping cycle by waking up in every two hours at night, getting his hormones high by sexually arousing himself, then try to fall asleep again, just to be forced to wake up again very soon is really tiring and frustrating. And since he HAS to screw up his sleeping cycle if he wants the punishment to end anytime soon, it also leaves a toll on his mental and physical state. That's why I say that a week is already a huge stretch and this definitely shouldn't take any longer. Chances are that by the 3-4th day at most he will be a wreck: he will be too tired to really collect his thoughts and to force his mind away from sex, so all he will be able to think about for 24 hours per day, is his unsatisfied sexual desire and would do ANYTHING to end the punishment. And if you were cruel and gave him a higher stroke count while forbidding edging, then, if he doesn't want to spend the better part of the day stroking hopelessly with pauses to avoid edging, then he has to find a way to make stroking as unpleasant as possible, to get done with the periodical number as fast as possible. This could mean using ice or really cold water, self inflicted CBT, etc. Point is, that he has to come up with something on his own, without you "forcing" him, to punish himself even more by making the thing that's normally extremely pleasant as unpleasant as possible.

- Substituting pleasure for pain while constantly reminding the sub of this. So instead of simply making him hit his balls, say 50 times, also add that what could he be doing instead of this punishment. Make him constantly concious about this.

- For me humiliation of any kind. Say, making me say it out loud what have I done wrong, while keeping me in a kneeling position. Or writing humiliating stuff on myself with a permanent marker. Or anything that would involve public places, say giving me an order to take a 20 minute long walk with a plug in my ass or anything similar would be the worst.

- And then I have this idea that I've read somewhere, probably on these boards. So credit goes to whoever posted it, but I thought sharing it nonetheless. Make him grab a simple grid paper, then make him colour every second square, one by one, completely black with a pencil. Not just scribbling a few lines, no, meticulously colour them black. And he has to stroke once after every coloured square. Additional punishments should be in order for screwing up the order.

As an afternote, I should probably add that I'm a weird kind of beast. I have a dominant mindset most of the time, but I am serious masochist at the same time. Normally I have a very strong sense of pride and am very stubborn, so I'm not submitting myself to anyone. Denial completely changes that though: after a few days submissive tasks and teases start to have an appeal, after a weak I'm pretty susceptible for submissive stuff in general and after about two weeks I'd do anything within my hard limits gladly and submit myself almost completely. I'm a weird kind of switch that way. A longer period would probably make me expand on my hard limits somewhat (feminization, for one example), but I haven't ever tried that and quite honestly I'm kind of afraid trying it as of now.

Well, that's about it. I would welcome that MP3 file if you deem this post worthy of it, but I really don't want spambots to find my mail, so I'd prefer sending you a PM with it. That's of course only if you find my post sufficiently helpful.

[CruelNatalie]

I'm loving all of these. I'm pretty busy putting it together. The site will be free but there is a level that you can pay for that is more intense for those who need more monitoring.

[SexualChoc]

I'm loving all of these. I'm pretty busy putting it together. The site will be free but there is a level that you can pay for that is more intense for those who need more monitoring.

should I read that..
as MUST pay for???

obviously true monitoring would cost
but is there an intense... not monitored level?