"Every girl likes the idea of teasing a guy. And not just girls. I'd go so far as to say that everyone has the capacity to see the allure in it. They may just need some help getting there. Do you know anyone that doesn't like to feel desired sexually? That's exactly what teasing is, among other things." - Lindsey
I would have to agree.
Oh! Yeah, I probably should put something more substantial. I wouldn't imagine the teasing would be hard to get a girl to do. One look at women's fashion and it's a little obvious that women don't mind to tease. Adding on more specific fetishes, such as denial, orgasm control, that would be trickier. Ultimately, even if you get the girl to tease you, in an ideal situation you are out to make her feel good and she's out to make you feel good. Or you're out to feel good and she's out to feel good and happen to make each other feel good, thusly killing two birds with one bullet.
That said, the most important thing would probably be to remain open sexually (because that seems to be important to you), and to date someone who is open sexually.
In the meantime...
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Re: In the meantime...
Nice discussion...here's my two cents...
Some of things that people link to someone who is submissive I feel are often unfair and unwarented. Linking weak with submissive is one of them. I tend to think of submission in terms of serving or in some cases enduring. It is often the desire to see the other person happy by what it is that you can do for them. When people start talking about the ideas of inherant Superiority it makes me revolt. I don't look to submit to a woman because I'm weaker than her, I tend to look towards strong women because the confidence and expressed intelligence is a turn on. I suppose there is a tendancy to be the follower and often the sub is not the initiator but the one reacting so I can understand the awkwardness in initiating things. Although to sum it up, (cause I think I've been kinda birdwalking waround the subject), I tend to view giving up control as the braver of the two acts. I think it takes more courage to be tied up and at the mercy of her than it does to be the aggressor.
In a way asking a girl out is exposing your feelings for her, for her to do with what she wants.
Anyway I tend to look towards women who express both thier intelligence and are more of the touchy feely type. Then the best relationships, be them T&D or Vanilla, stem from Open comunicaion. Merely responding to her when she does tease or flirt tends to help nudge in that direction...
Some of things that people link to someone who is submissive I feel are often unfair and unwarented. Linking weak with submissive is one of them. I tend to think of submission in terms of serving or in some cases enduring. It is often the desire to see the other person happy by what it is that you can do for them. When people start talking about the ideas of inherant Superiority it makes me revolt. I don't look to submit to a woman because I'm weaker than her, I tend to look towards strong women because the confidence and expressed intelligence is a turn on. I suppose there is a tendancy to be the follower and often the sub is not the initiator but the one reacting so I can understand the awkwardness in initiating things. Although to sum it up, (cause I think I've been kinda birdwalking waround the subject), I tend to view giving up control as the braver of the two acts. I think it takes more courage to be tied up and at the mercy of her than it does to be the aggressor.
In a way asking a girl out is exposing your feelings for her, for her to do with what she wants.
Anyway I tend to look towards women who express both thier intelligence and are more of the touchy feely type. Then the best relationships, be them T&D or Vanilla, stem from Open comunicaion. Merely responding to her when she does tease or flirt tends to help nudge in that direction...