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Hello Folks. I
ve been on thos siote for quite some time now but I think this is the first time ever I actually open a new topic. As the title says, I am planning on going all the way without any orgasm whatsoever in 2024. No chastity tho (well maybe mental chastity). The thing is, since I got no more Mistress for like 2 years now, I find it really hard to find the motivation to deny myself for...well....just me, without anyone controlling it. Maybe one of you got some experience and maybe some advice for self denial.

Hello,

A year is a very long time, especially if you are able to touch yourself.
What has been your longest experience in this field so far?

My longest run was 40 days. At the time I could have continued but decided to just change things up. I find erotic hypnosis very effective. If you're into edging lots while in chastity (to help you feel the chastity) priming yourself with some hypnosis can help deter you from finishing/prefer edging to continue. Also lots of "maybe I'll cum next time, perhaps tomorrow" kinds of self-talk while enjoying pleasure is fun.

If you've never done hypno at all, maybe baby steps would be effective. There are tists with beginner-level files but the classics are Nikki Fatale (can be found on torrent sites) or Kasha Shakti (the latter is great if you want to dive right into chastity and denial focused hypnosis). I also have found Shelle Rivers chastity focused files highly effective, she's good at kind of redirecting and sublimating your desire to orgasm. More recently popular and active hypnotists with lots of files focused on denial/chastity are Lilith Unleashed and Aurora.

Hello,

I really like your idea, but I would re-think the chastity part. As Lustkontrolleur mentioned, it is really hard to not touch your penis if you still have the choice to do so. If you are not into chastity then I would recommend to wrap something around your penis, so you are not masturbating yourself "accidentally". It's more like a reminder that you should not touch it rather than a real obstacle.


See you guys around,
Siren

Lustkontrolleur wrote: Fri Dec 15, 2023 4:28 am Hello,

A year is a very long time, especially if you are able to touch yourself.
What has been your longest experience in this field so far?

Well, my longest run so far was 6 Months with a chastity device involved. To me it's somehow pretty simple to stay denied while I am caged. It never really was a challenge. That's why I decided for myself that if chastity has to be involved I prefer mental chastity. Way more challenging.

SinfulSiren wrote: Fri Dec 15, 2023 8:47 am Hello,

I really like your idea, but I would re-think the chastity part. As Lustkontrolleur mentioned, it is really hard to not touch your penis if you still have the choice to do so. If you are not into chastity then I would recommend to wrap something around your penis, so you are not masturbating yourself "accidentally". It's more like a reminder that you should not touch it rather than a real obstacle.


See you guys around,
Siren

That's the thing, Mistress. It's not about not touching. Just cumming isn't planned. Just being caged never was a challenge for me for some reason. Und herzlich Willkommen

What do you usually do during denial periods to keep yourself from touching/cumming?
like when i go for denial i have to have a band or something on my wrist, and if i catch myself grinding on something i snap it a few times to keep my mind in check.
and also no cumming at all? i feel like that's going to lead to wet dreams, so something you can't really control.

SubbyVixen wrote: Fri Dec 15, 2023 12:33 pm What do you usually do during denial periods to keep yourself from touching/cumming?
like when i go for denial i have to have a band or something on my wrist, and if i catch myself grinding on something i snap it a few times to keep my mind in check.
and also no cumming at all? i feel like that's going to lead to wet dreams, so something you can't really control.

Let''s say not intentionally cumming. There will be touching, a lot of of it. Just planning on denying orgasms. So far, I didnÄt do any denial periods at all ever since I am not controlled any more. I didn't really see a point in denying myself without any reason. My kink is not the denial itself, it's the loss of control. The last time I did a denial period, it was with my Mistress and she had me caged and later on with a Mistress online, telling me what to do. Never did it all by myself, never even tried honestly.

well all i can say is, be cautious with it, since one stroke too many can be a very sticky situation hehe.
maybe keep a record of it in the forum or something add in some voting for some stuff, and let the community be your "mistress" for a while. it wouldn't be strict per say but, it'll atleast give you someone to report to to keep at it, same with rewards, make small milestones, to keep yourself on track.

very interesting, i've just stumbled across this topic and can only recommend trying a hypnotic chastity belt. it's been a while now, but if it's still relevant, it's best to try it right away. since you've already lived chastely several times and you seem to do it out of conviction, these are the best prerequisites for trying a hypnotic chastity cage. one artist i can highly recommend is Dark Freya. From my poinnt of view her chastiy hypno ist really really good - her voice is incredible and she understands what she is doing

how is your challenge going? Have you been able to make it this far without an Orgasm? I am curios as to how long you can go without one, while also teasing yourself. NNN is bad enough for me, I cant imagine doing it for 12 months.

Censor_Slut wrote: Tue Jul 09, 2024 7:44 pm how is your challenge going? Have you been able to make it this far without an Orgasm? I am curios as to how long you can go without one, while also teasing yourself. NNN is bad enough for me, I cant imagine doing it for 12 months.

It didn't really go that well. Eben thoi I got no troubles not touching at all for a while, it gets boring and demotivational pretty fast when you just do it on your own. Without a Mistress it's just pretty pointless, atleast for me. So I scrabbed this whole thing.

Hi Nemhauser,

why don't you go for nipple play (which you like :) as your only source of pleasure and deny your cock completely - kind of rewiring so that your pleasure center no shifts to your nipples only, making them the only area allowed to touch for fun?

Kisses!
Valery

Valery_JOI wrote: Mon Jul 29, 2024 2:11 pm Hi Nemhauser,

why don't you go for nipple play (which you like :) as your only source of pleasure and deny your cock completely - kind of rewiring so that your pleasure center no shifts to your nipples only, making them the only area allowed to touch for fun?

Kisses!
Valery

Same reason as why I can't deny myself. I am a submissive, weak, beta wanker. As long there is no one holding my hand, keeping me in my place and reminding me that I am not in control, that I am not making the decisions, it is easy to lose interest and motivation pretty fast.