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Hi everyone~

Im a new online mistress around here and i was curious about how other dominants feel, when they take controll of a subs orgasm?

To me, it doesnt feel like something mean or cruell. Rather, i feel like growing plants. With edging and teasing, i imagine cocks growing harder than they ever were before, dripping with shiny precum. A penis is most beautifull when its throbbing, covered in veins, needy for release. Same for the mind of my sub. With need clouding it constantly, he/she apriciates the slightest tease, the allowence to stroke, brief pleasure.

But im alittle affraid that i over-romanticize things. Thats why im curious about other dominants view. Id apriciate your input on the subject to help me grow into a better dom.

I think that is a very nice way of looking at orgasm control and while it is not always the way it is practiced I think it should be.

As a switch myself I have experienced both being denied an orgasm and allowing someone else to get as horny as they possibly can!

However I think it is quite rarely seen as something that brings the sub pleasure. Of course the sub does always derive some form of pleasure, otherwise they wouldn't enter into a dom/sub releationship, however orgasm denial is often used as a punishment or a means to an end aswell! Like making the sub do something they usually wouldn't want to/pushing their limits when thy are really desperate!

Personally the reason of a veiny buldging cock and amazing orgasms is why I practice orgasm denial aswell, but I have met a few doms in the past who just wanted to use it as a means of instilling power and making me follow along with whatever they demand, when I feel like though it might be difficult to find what a dom wants me to do should line up with my interests in the first place. I am not afraid of some experimentaition but don't wanna do it out of fear of denial while others might enjoy exactly that type of humiliation.

Anyway those are just my thougths on the topic as a master and as a sub, hope that gives you some good insight!

FootlongSub wrote: Sun May 16, 2021 8:09 pm However I think it is quite rarely seen as something that brings the sub pleasure. Of course the sub does always derive some form of pleasure, otherwise they wouldn't enter into a dom/sub releationship, however orgasm denial is often used as a punishment or a means to an end aswell! Like making the sub do something they usually wouldn't want to/pushing their limits when thy are really desperate!

I'd add something on top of that. I think edging and teasing is one of the things that actually brings the sub pleasure apart from the normal submitting kind of pleasure. Even though used as a punishment (denial (and/or edging)) it is much more than that for me. It really differs from like regular punishments like spanking or similar since it's not only a like thing you live through in the moment but also something you look forward to in the future. The anticipation of getting an orgasm eventually, of being freed from all that lust that build up. Also like the lust itself is something partly pleasurable I'd say.
While being edged you are always left wondering: How long are they gonna go? Will I make it or will I have to break my promise of not cuming without permission. Will I be punished? Do they want to eventually force me to break rules? Will I maybe be allowed to cum after the next edge? Will it be ruined?
That's what intrigues me both on the Dom and Sub end. It's also a very sensual thing to do. One of the few occasions you might naturally hear the (male) sub moan in pleasure or beg you to stop even though you aren't really inflicting regular pain. It's more comparable to tickling than like spanking or similar.

Thank you for responding. I see your points and will most likely utilize them in my shananigans. A mixture of all those things led me to an idea. I would share it but theres a chance my subs will read this and i dont want to spoil the fun

Thanks again for your input