"It was during this time when I got used to the idea of completely controlling his sex life. I was working on my Ph.D. during those early days, and sometimes I had to put my foot down and tell him:"
"'Sorry, dear, I need my sleep, so we can't make love now!'"
"When I'd do this he became intensely frustrated, like a kid whose candy has been taken away. But he also felt strangely turned on by this behavior from me, and he wondered about his submissive feelings."
"It didn't help that we would always start out in bed with a lot of kissing... and only after it had continued a long time and he was feeling loving, submissive, and ready to burst would I say, 'Oh, dear, look at the time!' This set of circumstances would always make him feel extremely frustrated."
"But when we were in bed, he was always willing to snuggle up with me, with his hand resting on one of my breasts. So although he was horny and frustrated, he felt privileged to be with me, and holding me, even if it made him so horny he couldn't fall asleep quickly."