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Hi everyone! I have been a lurker here for a while and just now made an account so that I can make a list of my favorite teases. That list is getting longer and longer!

As well as saying hello to all the great people here I also want to ask for some advice. I am a rather shy person and often put too much thought into how I want to do something. Anyway, I have reached a point in my life where I want to take my activities I do at the Milovana site and integrate it into my life. In the long term I would love, LOVE, to be an obedient pet for someone. But, I am really at the just the first step, so I am thinking short term. For now, I am asking for advice and ideas on how I can successfully create for myself daily, weekly, even monthly routines. I am trying to learn some of the software that is on the internet for this, having difficulty learning it, but I am trying. The goal is to have my food, exercise, grooming, sexual training, position training, toilet training...well as much as possible controlled by an "outside force", yes I know it will still be me technically but it is more the planned out routine that I need help with. I just do not know where to start. Can I be helped?

Thank You for reading this, I am in your debt.

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This is EXACTLY the kind of thing that Milovana can help with. I have a few ideas I'll share in a moment, but first I want to just point you to a couple posts that may help anyone on here from 1) Making redundant threads or requests, and 2) Point you in the right direction toward further explorations.

Firstly, check out Alison's very imformative post on Finding a Kinky Partner or Domme in real life:
Finding a Kinky Partner

Another good one is the OFFICIAL "I'M LOOKING FOR A DOMME, DOM OR SUB" THREAD where you can post or find posts of both dommes and subs that are actively seeking partners:
OFFICIAL "I'M LOOKING FOR A DOMME, DOM OR SUB" THREAD

Okay, so now onto self-training or DIY Domination

A couple things that I do is to find teases, and especially SERIES teases, that I can then schedule and implement into some kind of "plan." As you look through various teases on this site, you will quickly become overwhelmed by the amount of teases that you want to try but at a later date. While I have nothing against using the Milo Favorites, I'd suggest utilizing either your browser bookmarks or Evernote (what I use) to keep track of those teases for later. You can even give them your own categories or tags like "series" or "teases to do while in chastity" or whatever you like.

At some point, you will find the series or tease that totally hooks you and if you decide to commit to it, you can easily "save" that tease series by bookmarking the author's page. Then you just have to keep track of where you are currently in the series as you progress. For instance, while going through 30 Days with Jana, I bookmark each day and update that bookmark in Evernote as I complete each day. I can even keep notes like lock codes or assignments that I'm working on.

Along with the above, I suggest that you only ever do 1 or 2 teases at a time. I don't know about everyone else, but if I get to A.D.D. and start trying skip from tease to tease I just end up having an accident or getting overwhelmed.

That's my 2 cents. If you have any questions or want more info on anything I've said feel free to reply to the thread or PM me.

Thank you for responding! Your advice and pointers are greatly appreciated. I read the threads you mentioned and have since started the Month with Jana teases. I am not sure how I seemed to overlook them. Seems very appealing.

Again, thank you for taking the time to respond.

what an exciting and scary time for you. I think its not only smart but brave. Integrating your special desires into your already existing lifestyle is something we can all relate to. For some, like me, it has been the most liberating journey.

Some people have a hard time with total control- strict protocol, daily routines, etc while other thrive in hat dynamic. I personally prefer a strict regime with my subs/pets.

I love all the forums and you can learn a lot, get feed back and perhaps assignments. Nothing beats having a connection with someone but at the same time you may want to make sure youre truly ready. It would suck to finally meet the woman of your dreams and blow it the first few weeks. Women like us are hard to come by and there are so many fish in this sea.

Yes, it is a very exciting and scary time, but it is something I really want to do so I am not going to stop. I feel that I have gone too long with the desires I have and only letting myself indulge in them during masturbation. I am submissive and I want to feel my submission all the time, it is my right. :)

Thank you very much for your compliment. It was rather reassuring to have you associate such positive words to my actions. It is nice to know that there are people that think this is a great idea. I greatly appreciate it. I understand that total control is not for everyone, but I do feel that it is for me. And I intended to attempt to realign my mind in order for me to not think about turning around.

I will meet the woman of my dreams one day. But today I am focusing on this change. I need this strong foundation first. I have been working on my routine, and let me tell you, looking for material and ideas is not the easiest thing to do while denying yourself. Especially when most of the places I am getting them from are bondage stories, teases, pictures and video. LOL.

I think your approach is spot on. Building a solid emotional foundation is essential. This I know. Another thing that was helpful for me was networking with others in real time. Not for hook ups but all kinds of scene friends. They didn't have to be into the same thing as I am. We all have our own journey but we share the desire to be loved for who we are.

Keep us posted.

Josephine

Yes, networking is an important aspect in my opinion as well. As I am hoping that I can meet all kinds of new people that are willing to help guide me along with this. For example, I am looking to buy a chastity belt this week. And I am torn between two. The CB-6000 looks real nice in chrome, but I am afraid it may be a little small, since I am a little longer than average. So, I have also been looking at The Curve. I am keeping in mind that at some point down the road I am going to be spending a lot of time in it, so I would like to make the correct choice now. Does anyone have any suggestions?

For my exercise routine, I have discovered the Burbee. And yes, the Burbee is evil. Basically you stand with your feet shoulder width apart, squat down with your hands on the ground and kick your legs out into a pushup position, down one pushup then hop your legs back to the squat position and jump up as far as you can and land back in the standing position. It basically works everything and after 5 sets of "do as many as I can do," I can REALLY feel it. I do those and 100 butt lifts every other day.

I am now working on my diet and sleep. I eat well as it is, but whenever I want. I would like to create a weekly shopping list for myself that would bring me to two nutritious meals a day, perhaps one being smaller than the other. Still thinking about and researching that. As it is now, I sleep naked and am fully shaved. Though I have been sleeping in my bed, it is so damn comfortable. Hehehe.

Little by little I am adding things into my lifestyle that I really hope become second nature to me. I am always looking for new ideas and things to do to myself during the day, week, month, whatever. :) Any and all feedback and suggestions are very welcomed.

Ok ok ok. So, my grand plans have changed. Today is my fifth day of doing the one month with Jana teases and I am going to need to put some of my planning on hold. As I can not touch right now, and after holding ice to my denied balls, which I had never done before and was not aware of what it was going to do to the feeling down there, I am thinking I need to wait until I can at least touch again whilst looking for this stuff.

Jana also said that she is not into chastity belts all that much either, so I am not going to look to getting one until the series is completed. Perhaps I can get some other fun toys instead. \o/

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