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Dear Milovana Users,

i am enjoying the milovana teases for some time now and love to do them. My only problem is that most of the time i can't really edge. I read some tips on the forum here whereas i should give my cock less stimulation and use lube. The problem is, that i don't seem to have the discipline when i'm in the middle of the tease to do that, as most give you fairly exact instruction on how to stroke.

Are there teases out there which specifically aim to train someone to edge and hold it? I think my discipline would be better if some tease would exactly apply to my case and even give me some sort of punishment if i fail.

I also enjoy anal if this helps somehow.

Thanks!
Zitrus

whats exactly your problem? You lack the willpower to stop yourself? Or no matter how you try to stop the orgasm, it still happens when you edge? It it's the first one, than all you need to do is your resolve. It comes with practice. Don't expect that your mind will take half an hour of edging easy right away. There's no way a newbie would do dozens of edges and not break.
If you are new to this, than every time you manage to stop and not cum is good. With practice it will become easy for you to do 20-30-50 edges during one session. Just don't give up and keep it up. Don't try something impossible right away - it will only discourage you. Start with 5 edges before you cum, and gradually grow the number up. When you feel comfortable with simple edging, you may try start holding it - not for long, just 5 or 10 seconds. Then gradually grow that time. Than don't cum at all that session - cum later in the evening. Than hold it till tomorrow, and so on. It all takes practice.

There's a one good edging tip: when you are on the edge and you feel that it's hard to hold it, you can slap cock (or clit) hard so it hurts. That activates some kind of natural body alarm mode and brings you away from edge. It's much easier than trying to hold it without touching. May not work for everybody tho but does for most of the ppl.

Probably the problem is that i have not the willpower not to come in one session. When beeing horny i can't get myself to just "zip up" and let myself cool down. I think it's a form of lack of patience when masturbating.

I can't really reach the "3 strokes till orgasm" thing. Either i stroke until i feel there is an orgasm on it's way and stop - which isn't really the _edge_ but something near it. If i really edge, my cock is just twitching and i'm getting myself to a ruined orgasm this way, squeezing my PC-muscle or pressing against the base of my cock seem to be the only option. Maybe this is because i can't get myself to edge when slowly masturbating. Slow strokes feel good and frustrating but i suppose i would have to do this a very long time to get myself to orgasm - maybe only with some denial time beforehand.

Everyone of us is different, but not every author thinks about it. For example you may find teases here where "slow stroking" will be defined as 2 strokes/sec.
Same with edging. Someone can edge so close, some cant. I'm the latter category. You should define your own understanding of edge - it is where you need really little way to go before cumming. As you practice, you'll be getting closer. Just don't look at those "3 strokes away" thing, because you will not be able to get that accuracy in the first place. so just edge and feel good.

There are some teases for learning how to edge and holding it XD
Try these:

http://www.milovana.com/webteases/showt ... 1761&p=1#t
http://www.milovana.com/webteases/showtease.php?id=5340

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Don't get hung up on other's definitions.

A single edge = stroke until stroking any more would make you ejaculate. No matter how close or not you think you are according to what others say, that is the point of edging for YOU

As for holding that's a lot harder and requires practice. The easiest way to learn is for most people to go slow, maybe just a finger or two, and don't be overly worked up. And start by practicing hovering a bit further away from the actual edge at first. That teaches you control without fear of accidents. You can always push yourself closer as you get better at it, but don't stress it.

I started when I was like 14, I noticed that orgasms came and went too fast, and I also just wanted to be good at sex, so I read up on kegels, started working them 20 flexes in every class every day and other times when I'd remember to. I also would get a nudie mag (old school I know) and edge to every lady in the mag before I'd let myself cum while looking at my favorite one. It was a growing/learning process like the development of any skill. So I didn't always make it very far, our get very close to the edge. I also used to have to press down hard on the underside of my cock just in front of my balls to stop the cum from coming out sometimes. The hard part was learning how to cum during sex after all the self mastery. I didn't cum during sex until the 4th time, and I still have never cum from oral. But the benefits are having orgasms without ejaculating, edging for hours, and shooting really hard and far, and cumming a lot more volume, average about 9 to 12 big spurts, especially after edging for a bit.

The key to any development is a series of achievable goals that work you closer to the final goal. So to start it might just be to masturbate until you feel like you will cum soon, then stop all contact, wait 30 seconds, then work again until you feel you will cum soon, then stop, wait again, then, let yourself cum. Each session make yourself go 2 times more before you cum. Reward yourself too. Masturbate and edge to a video or pics of stuff that you're not super into, them let yourself cum to your favorite stuff. Flex your kegels 5 times every time you pee, and every time you see a woman that turns you on on tv. Little games like that