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Suppose you meet a potential partner.
Before moving on to exchanging bodily fluids, how do you broach the subject of STDs?
Do you ask them to get tested (and also get tested yourself)?
Do you ask to see the results?

How do you go about this?

Indigo™ wrote:Hmm ... using a fake name usually works.

Failing that, use a condom.

Before a condom, there is the exchange of saliva.
Also, for cunnilingus what do you do?

I have often thought of this scenario, even though I am in life time commitments. I have a best friend that is HIV positive, so the discussion has been brought up between her and I.

First, there is only one STD that you can get from kissing and that's Syphilis. You can not get HIV through kissing, unless there was a bleeding sore on their lips or in their mouth and you had a open wound in your mouth as well.

A condom will keep each partner protected, although the idea of being oral with one of those on, even if it is flavored seems unpleasant to me.

Of course condom's don't protect female on female contact.

If I were to be in the situation like you mentioned....with a potential sexual partner, in today's society, I would not be looking for one night stands.
Therefore, if sexual interaction were to take place, beyond kissing and making out, I would straight out ask about the person's health - which honestly should be done anyway, if you are ready to move into a relationship that might be permanent.
I would suggest that we make a day of it, and go get tested together and then later read the results together. They have every bit as much right to know about me, as I do them.
The one thing that would have to go on blind faith is the conversation about how sexually active they have been up to this point, for the last couple of years. Some STD's gestation period can take months to produce positive on tests.

So much of moving forward into a sexual relationship has to do with trust and faith in the person you are choosing to spend time with.

shell wrote: So much of moving forward into a sexual relationship has to do with trust and faith in the person you are choosing to spend time with.

Its not just trust and faith in the partner, but trust and faith in the previous partners of the partner, and partners of the partners of the partner etc etc.

It seems moronic to me to not get tested, but women are often illogical and I was wondering how to go about it.

Good idea on the making a day thing, thanks.

Indigo™ wrote: Chances are - if you insist on tests, she's going to walk away - while it's a perfectly reasonable request, I think it just makes the person requesting look like a high-maintenance individual, and at worst, an asshole.

That is what I'm afraid of.

But my line of reasoning is as follows. If a guy doesnt ask for tests from the girl, then isnt the girl being a bit of a moron for agreeing to exchange body fluids with him? Because the girl cant be sure about the previous partners of the dude.

So, if a guy asks a girl for tests (and gives his tests), isnt the guy actually impying that he things the girl isnt a moron?
And if a guy doesnt ask, he is indirectly implying that the girl is mentally challenged?

Take your case, I dont know what happened, but if Anna didnt ask for tests, then isnt she implicitly trusting the a-hole who slept with your wife?

PS: There isnt any girl....yet.