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Hi all,
Like many I'm a long-time lurker but never joined up. Hopefully now I have done I'll post more.

Anyway, I'm a switch, although sometimes I might be enjoying one 60/40 more than the other.

I've been going out with my current girlfriend for a couple of months now and it turns out she's quite similar. She isn't as researched in the scene as I am, because she thought it was a bit weird for a long time.

Anyway, as she's also a switch - although without using those words - it has been great for both of us. We've both had sessions where either one of us has completely taken control. Because I've been reading about BDSM and been a viewer/reader of milovana for about 3 years now, I am more comfortable in control than she is. One thing I've noticed is in a session where I'm being more domme, she remembers things I will do - such as not letting her come until I say so, and has done similar with me.

I'm going to propose a day each soon, instead of just during sex, where one of us is completely in control and I will likely offer to go first.

Now, I know what I would like if I was having the day spent being dominated, but because she's inexperienced in this she doesn't - as such - know everything she likes. We're very communicative, but she wouldn't know things tyo say she wanted/limits/etc.

So, my question is, given a full day, maybe going out and about for a little bit as well, what things would you suggest I could make her do.?

Cheers in advance, and happy to finally be a member here.

make Her do?
hmmm.

first what has she tried before?
you talked about limits but didn't say what they were....

It is a VERY good idea to start small and simple
nothing complicated
when entering into a relationship
I mean you would like to do this more than Once? I would hope
If you do to Much right away it is very, VERY easy to scare her away.

I would ask her to tell you what she hopes for
mind you it will be simple and probably small
but that way you know what to work from

Example:
(1) I would like to wear something relieving she says
(Overboard) you have her go in a mini skirt with no panties and a skimpy top and walk into a very public place like a bar.. (NO, don't do it!) <she will leave you fast!>
Do have her wear a LONG dress without panties and a modest top figure out a way to touch her at some point under the table during a romantic meal...

Anyway I hope that helps
feel free to milovana mail me if you have more questions

I am married and my wife sometimes doms
as well as experience tormenting/playing with a lady.

Take her someplace nice, she is well dressed. After a bit, she must go to the Ladies room and return
and hand you her panties. Take subtle advantage of this, touch her softly while she tries to eat.
Best done with love and romance, nibble her ears, hold hand, kiss her softly and
slyly caress her under the table.

I am in a very similar situation with my girlfriend, and I will be eagerly reading this thread for any wicked ideas people have to offer. For my contribution, on one memorable occasion, while we were out together, I wrote a long note to her, and then handed it to her neatly folded, telling her not to read it until she got home. Then I found an excuse to dawdle a little longer, telling her I would follow her home soon (We were only a short walk from the house). When she got home, she opened the note and found a set of instructions from me to her, telling her to be wearing a particular sexy outfit and collar, with her vibrator inside her and set down low, kneeling on the floor, head bowed, waiting for me when I returned.
I made my leisurely way back home, and walking in on her bowed down, trembling slightly and waiting for me was one of the hottest things I've seen.

For other ideas, my GF knows that she likes being told things to do, so sometimes if I'm dragging things out over an evening, I'll take time to do activities that I might normally do, such as browsing the internet, but make sure to do them with her always in a subserviant position or at my beck and call. I might tell her to fetch me something (Probably on her hands and knees, so it takes her longer), and then have her kneel at my feet upon returning until I give her something else to do, sometimes playing with her idly as she sits there, sometimes getting her to use her mouth or hands on me. I always have her doing something, so she doesn't get bored, but it often feels as if it's incidental rather than the focus of my efforts, which she gets off on. Maybe you could work her up first, and then find something else for you to do while you're toying gently with her, sending her to fetch things, using her for your pleasure, etc. Obviously doing that for too long might bore one of you or make her think you truly weren't paying attention to her, but it might make for a fun change of pace if she's used to your sessions being focussed and intense.

Obviously, I only relate my own experiences, and trust you to be able to use your own judgement as to whether or not they're relatable to your own.