Chat Etiquette
Posted: Wed Jul 27, 2011 8:54 pm
Safe, Sane, Consensual.
Now there is a fine line between reality and fantasy that is not always to define.
And talking fantastically about doing impossible things is fine.
But I have received reports
of someone asking people to do REAL things that are dangerous, illegal, and/or deadly.
like self -bondage with NO way out.
Self bondage is fine but safety is very Important
permanent injury and/or death can result from improper bondage.
Just read "Gerald's Game" by Stephen King
so if anyone asks you to actually tie your self up in such a way that you can not release yourself
AND you have no one to call for help. this person is putting you at risk.
(1) do not follow such instructions
(2) I would appreciate, as a moderator you reporting such instructions to me because I believe this falls under
"Reckless Endangerment" as in fact an Illegal activity.
Next I have received reports of an individual giving out Dom/Domme Instructions and individuals getting caught up in those instruction BUT they felt they Never consented to the instructions.
now this is a VERY gray area. but if you EVER feel like consent has been violated
(1) Stop! tell the person so.
(2) they should stop giving you Instructions/assignments as quickly as they possibly can
(3) negotiate or talk to the person so no ones feeling are hurt
this can easily lead to a 'rape' scenario and has so many gray areas.... It is exceedingly based on how you FEELS so if it feels wrong. STOP!
that has always been the rule here NEVER do anything you do NOT want to or that feels "uncomfortable"
weather it be in a tease or in chat.
Though it maybe a good idea to talk this out with the other person.
if this does not work <block> is a good way to ignore them.
Now there is a fine line between reality and fantasy that is not always to define.
And talking fantastically about doing impossible things is fine.
But I have received reports
of someone asking people to do REAL things that are dangerous, illegal, and/or deadly.
like self -bondage with NO way out.
Self bondage is fine but safety is very Important
permanent injury and/or death can result from improper bondage.
Just read "Gerald's Game" by Stephen King
so if anyone asks you to actually tie your self up in such a way that you can not release yourself
AND you have no one to call for help. this person is putting you at risk.
(1) do not follow such instructions
(2) I would appreciate, as a moderator you reporting such instructions to me because I believe this falls under
"Reckless Endangerment" as in fact an Illegal activity.
Next I have received reports of an individual giving out Dom/Domme Instructions and individuals getting caught up in those instruction BUT they felt they Never consented to the instructions.
now this is a VERY gray area. but if you EVER feel like consent has been violated
(1) Stop! tell the person so.
(2) they should stop giving you Instructions/assignments as quickly as they possibly can
(3) negotiate or talk to the person so no ones feeling are hurt
this can easily lead to a 'rape' scenario and has so many gray areas.... It is exceedingly based on how you FEELS so if it feels wrong. STOP!
that has always been the rule here NEVER do anything you do NOT want to or that feels "uncomfortable"
weather it be in a tease or in chat.
Though it maybe a good idea to talk this out with the other person.
if this does not work <block> is a good way to ignore them.
