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Hey everyone,

Wanted to get your thoughts. Pretty much my wife and I have been getting our feet wet with chastity play and tease and denial for a while. I haven't managed to stay locked up more than a week or two at the most. Its been a lot of fun and we've always been open with our sex life to all our friends. So to cut to the point one of my female friends has been really interested in chastity play. I've told her all about it and last night I asked her if she wanted to hold my extra key. (My wife has the other)

She did, and thought it would be fun to make a game out of it to see how long I can go without being unlocked. So I'm excited and pretty turned on by the thought of this. We decide that she would set a date that I would have to wait until before I won the game. If I asked to be let out before that date she would win. We decided she would email my wife the date so that she wouldn't be able to change the date.

This is where I'd like your thoughts as I think I'm in too deep. We were deciding what we would win and she shocked me by saying that if she won I would have to come visit her for a weekend to get my key back. She lives 4 hours away and we haven't seen each other in around 10 years.

I'm just a simple minding guy and couldn't think of anything that I could win to match hers without doing something my wife wouldn't like. Not that she would like me spending the weekend with an old friend... that happens to be female but yea. So I ask her to help me think of what I should win. She says that if i win I still have to come visit her to get my key back and she will masturbate in front of me all weekend and I could have the key back before I leave.

So the first thing I did was smile like an idiot, and shift my now fully erect package around. Then I agreed to the deal. I mean it was like she pulled a fantasy out of my head and told me it could come true.

So now here I am today with a better balance of blood flow to the top half of my body and I know instantly that my wife would not like this deal at all. The horny part of my brain says its going to be just like going to a strip club no big deal right? But the more realistic part of my brain knows that after a being locked up for the longest I've ever been locked up before and then being at a very hot females house all weekend while she masturbates in front of me is going to be insane.

So now I'm having second thoughts because It turned from a friendly game into something i don't feel comfortable telling my wife about. I always tell her whats going on but this time it feels like to much because I don't think I can trust myself to say no if my friend unlocked me at the right moment and came onto me. I don't want to cheat on my wife and even though my friend tells me she wont let me do anything I would regret. I'm not sure I trust her. I'm almost 100% sure I will need her to help me not do something stupid. I think that in this situation I wouldn't have the will to say no to her if she were to hand me the key and tell me to climb in bed.

I'm only a man. So what do I do? Live out this fantasy and trust 10 years of marriage to this chick not giving me a chance to fuck her or back out of the deal.

The vast majority of my being wants to go and live this out. I've never cheated on my wife or even thought about it but I've never been in a situation like this before.

Thanks for your advice and thoughts.

i'd explain the situation to your wife and how you weren't thinking and let your wife talk with her - either that or speak to your friends asap and let her know that you're not comfortable with the prizes that you two have suggested with regards to your wife's feelings.

Let us know how it goes!

well I would tell your wife about everything, and then ask her to join you when you go to get your key. who knows what could happen.

First tell your wife.

You say you don't keep anything from her so don't make this the start of a slippery slope.

Once you tell her you can work things out from there. Like BB__Bad_Boy said, your wife might like the idea of you being 'tested'. But you really need to tell her.

BB__Bad_Boy wrote:well I would tell your wife about everything, and then ask her to join you when you go to get your key. who knows what could happen.

That's actually something i've thought of even though it sounds crazy as hell. My wife and I have done things like this before but its always been with really close friends and its always been with other couples. Its might be the next best thing to going alone without telling her. Not going at all seems to be way down on my list of options. That's probably not good.

curiousSK wrote:i'd explain the situation to your wife and how you weren't thinking and let your wife talk with her - either that or speak to your friends asap and let her know that you're not comfortable with the prizes that you two have suggested with regards to your wife's feelings.

Let us know how it goes!

Thanks for the reply, I've already tried the 2nd part of your advice. When I told her I was worried that I would lose my higher reasoning ability in the heat of the moment and start begging her to unlock me so I could fuck her brains out... and that even though it may look like I really wanted to, I really don't want to do anything I wouldn't be able to tell my wife about. That's when she promised she wouldn't let me do anything I'd regret. I'm just not sure I trust her since I think its pretty obvious that shes really attracted to me since shes willing to do all this in the first place. I also don't know if I can trust myself.

I've been thinking about telling my wife all about it. I think if it was one of her friends, or even someone she knew a little better, that lived in the same town, and if it wasn't a spending the night thing. She may go for it.

Since its all of those things there's no way in hell she would let me go and for good reason. The thing that's holding me up from telling her about it is that I really want to go do it. It's like my deepest fantasy. At least it could be I can control myself and the friend keeps her word about not letting me do anything I regret. It could also turn into a crazy girl from my past coming back to ruin my marriage. I don't really be leave that but if something sounds to good to be true it normally is.

Thanks for the replies please keep them coming.

lockgrid wrote:First tell your wife.

You say you don't keep anything from her so don't make this the start of a slippery slope.

Once you tell her you can work things out from there. Like BB__Bad_Boy said, your wife might like the idea of you being 'tested'. But you really need to tell her.

Yea this seems like the smartest advice to take. I just don't think I'll be able to get her to go for it. You are right though it should be more important to me to tell her about it and see if there was anything I could do to make her more comfortable about it. instead of doing it behind her back and telling her afterwards.

Snot wrote:

lockgrid wrote:First tell your wife.

You say you don't keep anything from her so don't make this the start of a slippery slope.

Once you tell her you can work things out from there. Like BB__Bad_Boy said, your wife might like the idea of you being 'tested'. But you really need to tell her.

Yea this seems like the smartest advice to take. I just don't think I'll be able to get her to go for it. You are right though it should be more important to me to tell her about it and see if there was anything I could do to make her more comfortable about it. instead of doing it behind her back and telling her afterwards.

Yea telling her afterwards just won't work.

I would love to hear that you 'lost' and had to visit your female friend... even having your wife order you to her because she found out and was pissed... Then, after your friend has you bound helpless, your wife would walk in and they would both tease and torture you! They might keep you locked and start playing with each other! I'm pulling for you!

Well, it's that or else tell your friend about this site. I'm sure there are plenty of guys here looking for a keyholder!

Where do you live? Maybe I can sub in for you with your female friend.

Yes, make sure your wife knows by your mouth... because she might already know via your friends mouth... and she could be testing your honesty. You made the committment to your wife, gave her your word, now back it up and tell her what's really going on.

I was wondering about your comment

Snot wrote: We decided she would email my wife the date so that she wouldn't be able to change the date."

Your friend is going to tell your wife? Did I misunderstand? Sounds like your wife knows about the key and the bet, but not the set date and what the 'winner' gets. **Imagines your friend replacing the lock on your device & keeping all the keys. Your wife sure would be surprised should she try to unlock you!**

Yeah, I'm with dubble here in that I'm confused.
Does your wife know about this arrangement or not?

If she doesn't, then definately tell her all about it. She absolutely deserves to know.
Beyond that point, I'm sure if she has concerns she'll be more than happy to tell you about it.

As for preventing you from doing something stupid...I rather like the idea of having her go with you. At least this way, she will have an opportunity to stop anything she's not comfortable with.

At the very least, discuss this with her in your more clear state of mind. Maybe she's fine with it, maybe she isn't, but if you don't talk to her about it, there's no way to know. Be open and clear with her about your feelings on the matter and let her be the same. Then see where you stand.

Thanks for all the advice. Guess I'll go the smart route. As for sending my wife the email with my release date. That's all good. She likes helping me play chastity games. I'm not sure if I'll even bring it up to her. I'm having trouble thinking of a way to put it in a good light without leaving parts out. I'll let you all know if I decide to roll the dice. I might just tell fantasy girl what some acceptable options are that I could take home to the wife.

I might not get a real life epic fantasy like happens in our webteases but I don't have to get everything I want to be happy. Maybe we can get my wife in on some light stuff for a while and give the two of them time to figure out if the like each other.

Yea I think that's the way to go. The more I think about it trying to convince my wife to let me spend the weekend with another woman she doesn't even know would prob do just as much damage as doing it without telling her. So I'll tell fantasy chick we need to work something a little less amazing out to start off with.

Your friend ~could~ just send your wife the extra key.....removing temptation from BOTH of you...

But yes, any option that DOESN'T include your wife from the get-go is a very, very bad one.....

Nice plan!!!!!!

Wow why didn't I think of that... Well probably shouldnt look to deeply into that one. I really like this plan. I can tell my wife everything and not be able to cheat. Plus I'll beable to go though with the fantasy with the added challenge of getting wifey to let me out when I get home.

He'll yea thanks for all the help. Ill let you know how it goes.

hi Snot.. wanted to suggest this last night but couldn't log in.. maybe u could modify the pin on ur CB to accommodate 2 locks.. a key for each..

Wow, I don't think I'm ready for that. I mean this is the first time I've not had access to the 2nd key. I'm on day 3 and it's already driving me crazy. It seems like me having the extra key made it alot easier even if I didn't use it. Does sound like a good idea in theory and really hot but I still like getting off more often then not. I guess I'm a denial light weight but I'm happy with that.

I think the last time I was denied more than 3 days was back around Christmas when my wife and I played a 12 days of denial game. I really not used to not having the 2nd key. Im kinda suprized at how much not having it is flipin me out and making being locked up so much more intense.

I still haven't got around to asking fantasy girl for the key back... Or telling her I don't... Err That it's not... umm that she shouldn't masturbate in font me me. (cough)

On the plus side my wife knows I sent my key to a friend and has been all good with it. I'll get around to breaking the news to fantasy girl soon.

Thanks for the advice though it sounds like it would be really hot to need to get permission from two women to be unlocked and then keep one of them happy for 3 days while waiting on the other key to come in the mail. Maybe I'll give it a shot if I get more hardcore about being denied.

Just wanted to give you all an update. After telling my wife I sent my key off to a friend this past Friday she's been being really sweet/evil. Now that she knows she has the only key I'll have access to we've decided to have some fun with it.

She leaves for work before I wake up and since she knows how much trouble I have keeping the cage on though the agony of the morning wood shes going to start waking me up with a blow job every morning until I give up. No happy endings though only edging. In return I'll be teasing her and licking her to orgasms each afternoon while she edges me more.

In short I'll be getting two edging blow jobs per day one of which will be to the sound of my wife whimpering and moaning as she orgasms on my face. Followed by spending the rest of the night smelling her scent.

I'm really excited but I don't think there's any way in hell I'll beat my record of 14 days with all this going on. I've been getting so horny just thinking about whats going to happen over the past few days its driving me crazy. Once this stuff with my wife actually starts happening tomorrow... I think I'll go insane.