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...For an individual to like certain "submissive" activities, but not be a submissive?

Any thoughts one this?

dix.

often people tend to see thing as either/or

either I am submissive or I am not.

When it comes to sexuality though things are very much on a sliding scale
For instance How Homosexual are you
can you say hey i see that there are handsom men in this GQ magazine
to You know I bet my girlfriend has a crush on this guy
to I think I like his musles
to gosh he has a nice ass
to My I would just tike to pump that lushious ass

Same way with subby
No one can be subbmissive all the time
How would you do anything for yourself?
If you are able to pick out the clothes you are wearing for you day you have made a command desion
even if you allow somone else to decide what you wear you still have made a desion
Subbies can actually have more power in relationships because they can chose what they want and what they don't want

Now for the gray areas
maybe you have been subby all week and are denied an orgasm for days
but because you are denied you body hormones are changing
and now you are fantasing about fucking a girl/guy who is tied up just so you can cum.

I have found the longer the denial the more Dom I get,, oddly enough. I really think it has to do with brain chmestry in guys Your body craves release your brain say okay why am I not getting it
maybe if I kick in more aggressive hormones he will help the body.

I have no proof of this other than expierence
but I would say that even the most submissive person should have a few days where they at least fantazie about beint the "top" person of DOm.

Why not? Me and my girlfriend are the example. She likes being tied occasionally, and some things like light spanking. I pretty much like a dominant teasing handjob/blowjob.
But I wouldn't call any of us submissive. Submission is the urge to give up control. But just playing every once in a while with this or that kink doesn't make you submissive.

It's that every man and women have hes/her submissive and dominant limits, that pop out depending on a mood or situation. But it doesn't make you submissive or dominant. Both of those words are for when those limits are exceeding ones of an ordinary person. Like when you really CRAVE to be pushed and denyed some freedoms. Or, on the contrary, you really want to always be in charge, stepping over the needs of your couple some times.

that's what I think

Very true. There are no true absolutes in life. (Baring the absolute certainty that you'll eventually die.)

The thing is, although I like certain activities which are generally classed as submissive, I just don't feel the desire to submit to someone. I don't feel the need to make them happy by serving them. Nor do I gain happiness from the act of serving them.

dix.

So what's your problem? Just have fun. Even if you like to, say, lick women's shues, you don't have to be really submissive to play like that. You just find a kinky girl who would have no problem with thet, and won't be demanding something more to it and that's all.

I guess you're right. Maybe I'm just looking too deeply into this whole thing.

(On another note, woo 3000 posts. )

dix.

dix wrote: (On another note, woo 3000 posts. )

dix.

Well done dix on posts,

I enjoy both sides of the coin as there are advantages I can enjoy in each facet,
Further more I find that I learn to be a better player which ever side I play.


Les

I have a thought that rules what I do and how I do it.

"Live life and all that it has to offer."

I suggest you do the same, dix......don't worry about the rights and wrongs.....just enjoy the heck out of all it offers you. *warm smile*

Wow, Indigo is back 0_o I thought you had left... It looked like for long.

Indigo wrote: I think Shell's got it right ...
Indy

*giggle* I love the way that looks, just had to post it again. *giggling even more*