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Hello,

I had a short-lived BDSM-based online relationship a few years ago. My Domme insisted that I compliment her before every session we had. As you can imagine, this was a bit uncomfortable. The first two times I told her she was beautiful and kind. The third I told her she was perceptive, which she didn't seem to like very much. I would have said she was funny as well, but she wasn't, and I didn't want to lie.

I write because even now I cannot think of any other compliments I could have given her, considering the briefness of the relationship. Any ideas?

Thanks in advance.

In my opinion, that may not have been a very good idea. Considering the brevity of the relationship and the distance (online relationships are very difficult in the way that it's hard to create any strong connection), she could have waited until you knew her better, or at least meanwhile let you get to know her well so that you can always come up with new compliments.

At least, that's what I would have done. Dommes are not above having a personality and letting their submissive get to know that personality. We're all people here.

Unless, of course, she was okay with compliments on her physical attributes. In that case, I'm sure you could find a couple ;)

Anyhow, that's my two cents.

Yes, it was rather awkward, and I didn't think it was appropriate considering the state of the relationship; it seems you agree. It was one of the reasons I broke it off.

Thanks for replying!

shell wrote:
With that said though...personally I don't think it was right of Her to ask this. If a Domme asks that compliments be given, if She demands it, then She does not think very highly of Herself.

I agree with this completely.

Ok Chaps and chapesses
Spanner time.

Was she trying to elicit an effort from the slave?
Perhaps one of respect?
Well intentioned
Albeit flawed missive.

I have found too many just want you to read them a story.

In fact I have tried this just a copy and paste from else where.
An awful lot less work, and far fewer otyps's.
But as boring as hell for me.

Thinks but if I set up a WEB site then they can tease themselves and pay me.

The slaves/subbies justifiably want the "real time experience".

I find it annoying the frequent lack of feedback,
During a session.

The likes of M'Lady are lucky in having a following that she can choose from and so "Neglecting"?? (not sure of correct word )
the less active participants.

So if you wish a session please try and make it enjoyable to the Dom/me as well.

Don't ever think it is your right to be Dom/med.

Lastly if you want to see this in action.
Just read the replies from shell.

Les

shell wrote:
With that said though...personally I don't think it was right of Her to ask this. If a Domme asks that compliments be given, if She demands it, then She does not think very highly of Herself.
.

Agreed. Admiration and respect are not something that one can demand. You either elicit these responses in others or you don't, you can't force them, and if you do they won't be genuine so they become rather worthless in my opinion.

Dix.

les wrote:Lastly if you want to see this in action.
Just read the replies from shell.

Les

*blushing* thank you darlin *soft smile*

dix wrote:

shell wrote:
With that said though...personally I don't think it was right of Her to ask this. If a Domme asks that compliments be given, if She demands it, then She does not think very highly of Herself.
.

Agreed. Admiration and respect are not something that one can demand. You either elicit these responses in others or you don't, you can't force them, and if you do they won't be genuine so they become rather worthless in my opinion.

Dix.

*softy smiling* thank you Dix

Thank you all for the responses!