Thanks!
That helps, some.
from expierence it is really difficult to get a subby to be a dom
Especially when it's a lady.
Also, be careful what you wish for, you just might get it!
Still you say you are a big sub, so I think you should tell her.
You know her best, so I am giving you some options that you may think about.
Use what you know about her to talk to her.
If you are able to be honest enough to have 'online sex'
You probably have a relationship that can stand some questions.
Ideas:
(1) Explain the concept of denial to her, "I really appreciate you but maybe next time could you tell me to NOT cum" OR " I'd really like to wait a few days (weeks... months..) until my next orgasm.
(2) Ask her if she has ever been denied an orgasm as a subby and if she liked it.
(3) When you get to the point you really want to cum... DON"T ask to! see what happens... will she tell you to cum even if you don't ask? IF this works, try to Never ask again! see how often she let's you cum that way.
I think mentioning that you like this site would not hurt you, just don't Push her to show up
You coulld ask her to chat with you Here... "Hey I was thinking of chatting on a different chat server...a"
The ideas I posted are just a few, You know her best!
Use what you know, how she responds when you suggest something to create something that works a little better than just taking an idea and copinging it to her e-mail.
Also IF she does ever come to Milovana, you must know there will be guys (not me) who will ask her to Dom them as well!
My real Life wife and Mistress has actually registered for this site!
But still has not posted, I think partly because of the attention mistress' (or even Master's) get here.
Any woman on this site get's swarmed with requests to Dominate them, Ask Shell about this too
She is a subby who sometimes Dom's she may have some good suggestion I didn't think of
And is a fairly active memeber here,
http://www.milovana.com/forum/memberlis ... le&u=12606
The above is her profile, PLEASE be polite to her!
Several of us (including me) repect and appreciate her. Check out chat, she is on there often, I do NOT recomend PM'ing her, she responds well to questions in chat. ( You may ask her to PM her, though-in chat)
You might not be on the same time she is, if this is true, (that you can't chat with her) Send a short Pm to her profile Linking this forum and asking for her help without being pushy. I recomend chat contact though.
Luck!