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Mayb a little more forthcoming than i would usually be, changed quite abit since.

heh... reading this was like reading my own thoughts (alltho im 24 and not a student)

as to advice... try joining some fetish boards and look for wemon that shares your kinks...
that what im doing (no luck so far... think its becous i live in a small county)

enyway best of luck :)

Sucking your thumb? A lot of people do that when they're young. The instinct for a baby to suck on something stems from the need to breast feed, and if that isn't happening, it tends to be redirected to a thumb or pacifier. I'd say it's abnormal not to.

Strap-ons, feminization, forced bi, and transsexuals are very common fetishes. My opinion is that, although all four of those can seem very gay at first glance, they're not. Strap-ons are associated with penises because, well, they're rubber cocks, but they're essentially just like any other sex toy. Shying away from strap-ons is a bit like people not eating hot dogs or bananas, just more common because they're blatantly sexual.

I'm not quite so certain on feminization, but I know it's common. I suppose men are generally interested in it because of how the material feels or curiosity with women, sexual or not. It's also a submissive act, since women are historically the submissive gender, and the idea of gender equality is still working its way into our heads, subconsciously even if you consciously acknowledge it.

Forced bi tends to be an interest in domination/submission. The whole point of "forced" bi is that it's forced - you don't want to do it, but you're submitting to a dom's desire.

The attraction to transsexuals is an iffy one. In my case, I'm attracted to females and I just happen to like penises too, but when it gets to the rest of a guy, I lose interest. There's little difference between a pre-op transsexual (the more common fetish) and a woman wearing a squirting, very realistic strap-on. Hm. You know what, I'm done. At a certain point you're just beating a dead horse and coming off as trying to elaborately state that you're not gay. Next topic.

Now, enjoying all of those wonderfully kinky activities has no effect whatsoever on whether or not you can have a loving, beautiful relationship. Or a seething, bitter, abusive one. There's lots of human beings, men, women, and in between, that are varying shades of kinky and vanilla. Different strokes for different folks.

Ha, strokes. Couldn't resist.

Female superiority is just reparations for the centuries of abuse they had to take. Now they figured it out, and they're getting some vindication.

...Really, though, female superiority is a sexual thing to appeal to our kinks, just like the somewhat less discernible population of people that like to practice male domination. Neither gender is superior to the other outside of fantasy. Personally, I don't think the genders are equal, just different. There are things that men are undeniably better at, and things that women are undeniably better at. If I go into that topic any more, I'm going to accidentally offend someone. So I'll stop.

I hope my long-winded post answered someone's question.

I only mentioned thumb sucking as a basis for possibly having some influence of my sexual preferences as it has links to an oral fixation which I think I have as I smoke, always chew//suck on pens e.t.c and was mentioning it linked to a initial fetish for oral on girls.

My problem on the next is not that they are uncommon fetishes at all, more that they, to me, seem to have too powerful an influence over my sexuality to the point where I have, through too much association when aroused, changed somewhat what I am stimulated by. Also the idea that I don't want sex, or relationships to be primarily about simply about satisfying sexual kinks or aquired fetishes.

With transexuals it is mostly the feminity that I find arousing, coupled with the ease at which you can put yourself in their place. I do not have the urge to act "girlily" or dress in womans clothes or think I have self gender issues e.t.c simply contemplation seems to get me off and like I say it mostly seems to be something psychological based simply from repetition.

Tbh ideas of superiority and inferiority are difficult as they are held (mostly) as subjective, and as such purely on a biological level, the sexual dominant would very much be the superior, but anyway I mostly put that in as a stream of concious kind of pondering as to me the idea of subjugating yourself in that way, especially to the point where your will is removed as often seems the case in sub dom fetishes, is abhorrent, although often it is fantasy.

Also the beating a dead horse thing is a whole different sort of fetish :P

I'm not really trying to elaborately come across as not gay, it's not really an issue for me as I, other than a religious ubringing now abandoned, have no problem with homosexuality, it's more I find myself attracted to women for partnership both sexually and emotionally and so the dichotomy of that and my quite gay, or gay-like fetishes is abit problematic.