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I'm curious from subs and doms alike.

I use to switch with a former gf of mine. And being on both ends of the leash, and the starter of this question, I'll share a bit;
From my dom experience;
I enjoyed having the sub beg. It amused me a bit when she would beg me not to do something, and I'd do it anyway. Once I had her begging for ten or fifteen minutes to convince me not to leave her tied with a vibrator resting next to her clit without a lot of pressure placed upon it. That drove her mad since she couldn't orgasm, it just kept feeding the fire. In the end I left her like that for ten minutes.

From my sub experience;
It is defiantly a sign of submission when you have to beg another to do something that normally you wouldn't give a second thought about. Like for example my gf had me beg her to loosen my corset, since my hands were bound in mittens. I begged and begged for a few minutes before she moved behind me and tightened the thing to a near unbearable level.


So in the end, I'm curious from doms and subs alike. What is your take on a sub begging?

well... thats a kinda hard topic to me...

i guess i kinda like begging... and kinda hate it too...
letting another person decide for me takes something from me
but also gives me a sence of securety and trust...

acually sounds weird to myself right now...
never had a real life dom... so never tried begging other then online...
but has learned so much about myself from this forum...
and tried alot of new things...

acually told someone about my "other" side... and didnt die
and she acually told me that she was also into some kinky things...
and that she have had a cruch on me for some time... looking forward to see where thats gonna lead us

so would like to take the opportunity to thank all the nice ppl on this forum

I acutally pretty enjoy begging :)

I think its from the love of enjoying the helplessness, but i do enjoy it :)


Anna

My experiense is pretty much like that 1azzu1 said...

I have only had online experience and I like to give away the control, but would like to try it IRL to some day

First experience was with a Mistress that taake more and more control...she wanted to know everything i did, and I decide that i couldnt live the life through the computer... She decide what to eat, when i could pee, what i could buy for the money...who I could talk to and so on

That learnd me a lot of me self, what is importent in life, i realised how much worth one of my friends are for me.. But under this expriment I couldnt talk to her... after a week she asked me though sms if I was a live... so I needed to explain that i tried something and told her everything... almoust...

Well I was alitle afraid that she would think that i was to Kinky... but she told me she had a kinky side to

Well I decide that never a online Mistress any more..then i found this forum and get caught again... But this form fits me better... I am free to visit my friends, have my normaly day life and so on..well I cant cum as i want, but...its a kind of nice feeling to have someone who controll the orgasm... They are so mouch more worth hen you are allowed to get them

Soon I gonna take it to next levl and lock me up in chastity and not hold the key self... Well I am singel, but you never know when you meet your love IRL and what happen if i meet her when I locked up
But i think that we find some soulution to that the day its happen

Begging - as a Domme, I enjoy hearing a submissive beg for things. I actually make it part of the play that I do...a lot! It gives Me a high, I suppose.

As shell, the submissive side of M/me.....she hasn't had to do a lot of begging, but the one or two times she has, she enjoyed it...

Begging is a HUGE turn on for me - so long as it is authentic.

I don't like men that beg at the drop of a hat. Or whine. I don't like whining, but I love whimpering. I lust for a man that knows the difference.

I also enjoy it much, much more if the man is ashamed, humiliated or degraded by his own begging.

Akasha

I've been putting off answering this for a few days because I really didn't have a good or explicative answer. After some thought on the subject, I still don't really.

I enjoy when a sub begs, but I really can't narrow it down as to "why."
However, I can say that it's not about humiliating or degrading them at all. That's not what I enjoy.
I suppose that it's more of a "power" thing to me. Hearing her beg me for something reinforces the idea that it's my choice. Whatever it is she's begging for, she obviously really wants it and it's entirely up to me whether or not she gets it. I like that.

I'll be honest, I usually give it to her. I like to make her happy and all, but not before she begs for it.
Personally, I find that if you sort of lure them into complacency a bit by giving them what they want most of the time, they are extra frustrated on the occasions where I refuse their request. It's sort of a mental game in that respect. They expect me to give in and let them have it, so they're a little more shocked when I don't and they beg all the harder for it the next time.

Just my take on it.
Not sure that's the whole story behind it, but I really can't put my finger on anything more specific.

Akasha wrote:I don't like whining, but I love whimpering. I lust for a man that knows the difference.

So, what do you consider to be the difference?

neloangelo1227 wrote: So, what do you consider to be the difference?

I'm not Akasha, but whining is complaining (think what a toddler does when he want's something) while whimpering is a less voluntary thing. (In my personal opinion.)

Whimpering is an expression of acceptence of a painful or unpleasant situation while Whining is an attempt to change the painful or unpleasant situation by complaint.

So it seems only natural, at least to me, that a Dom would enjoy the former and not the later...

As to the topic of Begging... I find it can be like Marshmellow fluff. In the right situation if used correctly it can be delicious both for the Sub and the Dom. In scenes where something is "forced" on the sub that they in fact do want be it a spanking or to wear panties, etc... the begging becomes a way for the sub to admit they do want this thing to happen.

To me begging is best when it is done to achieve something that the sub is normally uncomfortable in admitting they even want. That dark delicious secret.

I love begging (doing it and once or twice hearing it!) but only if it's genuine - I don't like just instantly begging on cue. Better if it has been 'won' by the Dom/me. The bottom should be 'reduced' to begging - when I am coerced into begging it's because I either feel helpless, or because I'm so crazy about the Domme I'm willing to do it.

Either way, begging happens becase the sub really, really wants something ;) And that feeling (and the inability to get it) is what's really sexy!

I ran across this commercial today and it reminded me of this thread.

When I hear the phrase "whimpering" THIS is what I think of. (It's Non-sexual and sfw actually)

Not the best copy, but it's the only one I could find online (the sound quality is a bit choppy.) It's the commercial bit at the end. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pqwUIzFpPDE

Anyone else feel the same?

When I think of whimpering, I think of that adorable high-pitched whining you get from puppies! xD In a sub it should be an expression of frustrated helplessness, and ideally involuntary!

But Bert there was also adorable, in his way