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Tips on restraining myself?

Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 3:35 pm
by Martyr112
Girlfriend has banned me from pleasuring myself as a sort of game, you guys have any tips on how I can avoid the urge?
I figured this would be the place to go to :P

Re: Tips on restraining myself?

Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 4:24 pm
by 1azzu1
a chastity device.... think thats the only way...
dosent fight the urge but it keeps u from it :)

Re: Tips on restraining myself?

Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 8:49 pm
by belsub
One word: bromide :-D

Re: Tips on restraining myself?

Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 9:48 pm
by 1azzu1
bromide? what is that? and how does it work?

Re: Tips on restraining myself?

Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 12:32 am
by belsub
1azzu1 wrote:bromide? what is that? and how does it work?
It was a joke ;-)

As to potassium bromide putative effects, see http://www.newscientist.com/article/mg17423496.800 (bottom).

OT now, kind of :-p

You have a few options to "restrain yourself".
- The mechanical way: chastity devices of various kind.
- The chemical way: anaphrodisiacs and antiandrogens (possibly quite drastic, funny side effects and usually prescription only), booze (but may have the opposite effect), tobacco (if you would like to experience the thrill of cancer), and a few others.
- The mental way: hypnosis, meditation and exercising self control come to mind.

These are jokes too by the way ;-)

Still, there is actually a healthy, scientifically proven and non damaging way to naturally decrease your sex drive: SPORT, lots of it. Watch how the main character in "Secretary" copes with his issues ;-)

If you really believe that you have an issue, you should see someone and at the very least try to regain some balance in your life.

hth

Re: Tips on restraining myself?

Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 11:11 am
by janmb
For my part, the greatest aspect of this is actually having to mentally, voluntarily restrain yourself.

Using CBs and the like is the "easy" way out, allowing you to release the mental self-control. In many ways just as frustrating of course, but easier in terms of not having to control the mental aspect yourself.

So my best advise is to sit down, on your own, and think it through properly: Why do I want to do this? What is my goal? Choose a clear, quantifiable goal that lets you clearly know when you have reached it or not.

This makes it a lot easier to exercise the self-control you need.

Re: Tips on restraining myself?

Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 11:29 am
by Incubo
Well, if you serve Miss Jay as your sign suggests....then I would think all you'd need is for her to tell you no touching.

Or...do you really serve yourself?

Re: Tips on restraining myself?

Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 4:09 pm
by Little Miss Jay
Martyr112 wrote:Girlfriend has banned me from pleasuring myself as a sort of game, you guys have any tips on how I can avoid the urge?
I figured this would be the place to go to :P
Hello Martyr,

I wondered where you disappeared to ;-) I didn't know you had a girlfriend or is it a recent thing?

As for the no pleasuring, why not buy a chastity device?... Has she offered to you a reward if you manage not to pleasure yourself? I think you'd just make yourself manage not to touch if you really wanted to please her!

Little Miss Jay x

Re: Tips on restraining myself?

Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 8:04 pm
by Martyr112
Little Miss Jay wrote:
Martyr112 wrote:Girlfriend has banned me from pleasuring myself as a sort of game, you guys have any tips on how I can avoid the urge?
I figured this would be the place to go to :P
Hello Martyr,

I wondered where you disappeared to ;-) I didn't know you had a girlfriend or is it a recent thing?

As for the no pleasuring, why not buy a chastity device?... Has she offered to you a reward if you manage not to pleasure yourself? I think you'd just make yourself manage not to touch if you really wanted to please her!

Little Miss Jay x
It's recent :)
And I'm using willpower alone, and yes. I get rewarded. Hehe :D

Re: Tips on restraining myself?

Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 8:31 pm
by pkonto63
Chastity, It worked for me. Took a while to get the fitting right but it really works.

Re: Tips on restraining myself?

Posted: Mon Apr 05, 2010 9:24 am
by sillynick
Chastity definitely works, especially if you give your girlfriend the keys. That way She knows that you cannot let yourself out as and when you want. Congratulations by the way on finding a girlfriend that wants to explore this with you.

Re: Tips on restraining myself?

Posted: Mon Apr 05, 2010 9:33 am
by 1azzu1
yea your a lucky guy :)

alltho serving Miss Jay is a treat in itself...