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ok recently, while webcamming with a mistress i told her that i did not want to be her sub. she then went on to tell me that i better be her sub or she would tell all my friends about what i am into and then sent a video of me fingering myself and performing sexual acts for her. she found me through facebook and is threatening me to perform for her or she will send the video to my friends. any advice on what to do?

ask to meet up with her, then when you're with her wipe her hard drive... hopefully she'll have lots of important information on there that you can delete too - bitch!

Thinks
Kill the face book account NOW

Do any of your "real" friends know of the "Face book" account you are using with this "Domme"
If not Ignore her.
Do any of the vids show your face?
if not Ignore her.
If you give in a slippery slope ensues.

For future reference for all
Create separate identities for the different lives you wish to live,
I have several and my full name has never ever been put on to any web site or email.
Complete with separate email addresses

Never reveal details of your real ID anywhere on the internet.
Including your ISP email address.

Use LastPass to keep track of passwords and Identities.
This will work off a pen drive, along with FireFox portable.
so all details are not on your PC.

Lesub

The vid does show my face so I made my facebook completely private but she took the video without me knowing. So she could already have a few of my friends names written down so even if I do block her she can go back and search for other people. She knows what hs I went to too so that is why it is a very difficult situation. I don't think she will do anything but if she does I would want to kill myself (I would not actually do it and I do have a backup story) but still it sucks. I deleted all my accounts. An she searched me on facebook and somehow found me. She only had my first name and my state. So idk how she did it

Do you know her name? If not, do you know her email address? If so you SHOULD be able to track (with a bit of savvy) down her real name/personal information. At that point you could probably blackmail her back (threaten exposure, etc.). I wouldn't normally condone this, but if she REALLY is blackmailing you....then it may be best to end it decisively. And if you both have dirt on each other you can effectively neutralize her threat.

That said, it sounds like she is being a bit childish about the whole thing, so I'd say that this "blackmail" is just a ploy to get you to stay. (I.E. she thinks that by indulging a "blackmail fantasy" (Even though in this case it's crossed over into reality) she can get your subbie juices flowing and you'll stay with her.)

That or, you know, tell her that you've been recording every interaction you've both had and blackmail carries a sentence of 3+ years in jail as well as a significant "emotional damages" claim.

Why not try to bargain with Her? Certainly She has a price. Ask Her what it is She wants, negotiate, and ask for agreed terms in writing. What is Her goal? Prob to get $$ from you. Pay up to get out is how I've been seeing this game. Usually they're not really interested in you and your destruction, but aren't afraid to move in that direction if they feel they must. They usually just want money.

? If not, do you know her email address? If so you SHOULD be able to track (with a bit of savvy) down her real name/personal information.

Uhm.. not really. Except that she would have used her realname to register the mail addy..

If she has a website you may have luck with internic though.

~green~

This is a tricky situation, If you have any information about her identity then what she is threatening to do is in and of itself illegal whether or not she would do through with it and as such you could make it clear that you would pursue legal action against her if she did.

If as is more likely you don't have any personal information on her you could attempt to go along with her demands but try to be cunning and deceptive towards the end of having her get bored with you and the effort that would go into ruining certain elements of your life would not be one worth pursuing (if it is only online that you have contact simply increasing the time when you would appear to be offline to her might achieve this)

Or you could simply embark upon a dengerous yet captivating journey of sexual discovery and removal of boundries where fear of what you might have to do and the unknown only end up sexually stimulating you more.

The last one would take more courage than I have and I'd be inclined to take option 2 :P

I see a few careless posts encouraging you to continue playing with her and I have to warn you that if you did so your pretty much ruining your life. Whatever you do shutdown your facebook as its unlikely she would have bothered writing down your friends names.

Google her email and see what you can find on her, Search her email on facebook etc.

and do what heathcliff said and threaten legal action (this may turn nasty however).

green wrote:

? If not, do you know her email address? If so you SHOULD be able to track (with a bit of savvy) down her real name/personal information.

Uhm.. not really. Except that she would have used her realname to register the mail addy..

If she has a website you may have luck with internic though.

~green~

In theory no, but most people aren't that secure in there information. Social engineering can get you along way actually. The odds are that someone who is immature enough to blackmail someone in this manner isn't smart enough to use multiple emails. All it takes is one name on a message board or social networking site...

I'd say talk to Indigo about it. Perhaps He has a solution.
http://www.milovana.com/forum/memberlis ... ile&u=4578

First thing it should go without saying but do NOT I repeat do NOT give her any more info or things to use against you. Trust me I know from experience what seems like a huge deal now can seem so minute down the road. Just read my story "The first Day" in the stories area. I could have saved myself alot of grief if I had just gotten out in the beginning but I just kept getting in deeper and deeper.
Even if she does expose the videp to your friends now although yes it would not be fun you can still move on with your life. I on the other hand now live about 2000 miles away from home.

Blackmail is a felony, call a lawyer and ask them for the proper measures you should take immediately. You will have to admit to them the actual situation, which will be embarrassing I'm sure but, they will probably be able to assist you in resolving this. I would also recommend collecting any evidence you can to prove she is blackmailing you. By doing so, you can at least take the bitch for what she's worth if she does in fact expose you.

BB__Bad_Boy wrote:First thing it should go without saying but do NOT I repeat do NOT give her any more info or things to use against you. Trust me I know from experience what seems like a huge deal now can seem so minute down the road. Just read my story "The first Day" in the stories area. I could have saved myself alot of grief if I had just gotten out in the beginning but I just kept getting in deeper and deeper.
Even if she does expose the videp to your friends now although yes it would not be fun you can still move on with your life. I on the other hand now live about 2000 miles away from home.

Wow, I didnt know that !.

Please finish your story, I'm really interested in how it went out.

People could use your story as a warning, just so they would know how far certain people would go. I think that the persons who'd read your story would always think twice before they acted in that certain manner.

Oh, and also I loved your style of writing your experiences down ;).. I would highly appreciate a sequel.

~green