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I'm pretty new to orgasm denial as I've said in the welcome thread and I've been thinking about it in my free time..

I was quite surprised when I read ace's blog a few days back. He said that rather than having an adverse effect on his life, orgasm denial actually made him a better person. He even quoted quite a number of statistics. Now, think logically, how can being submissive and allowing other people to control how and when you stroke your meat actually make you more courageous?

Rationally, it does not make sense to me. However, I am starting to believe it. I have not had an orgasm for the past 111 hours. During teasing and denial sessions or while following masturbating instructions, I admit that I'm in a trance and unable to think of anything but Her cock. I would just keep on thinking about the joy of being able to cum and throw all my other thoughts aside. However, here comes the irrational part. After all that stroking, when I step back into the real world, my mind is fresh as ever and I am able to think more clearly and speak more fluently. I am totally amazed by this and would love to carry on with my journey in orgasm denial.

What's everyone else's opinion on this?

I imagine it's different for everyone. Certainly I wouldn't want to say that submission and orgasm denial are going to work for everyone out there, I imagine a lot of people would hate every minute of it :)

But if it does work for someone, I don't think it's surprising if positive effects spill out into their everyday life. You're doing something that you enjoy (for some definitions of 'enjoy' anyways), perhaps there is an afterglow from teasing. Perhaps it is from exploring an aspect of your personality that you hadn't in the past, or didn't even know you had. Maybe it's as simple as enjoying the constant, subtle arousal of living in denial.

In your case nobody knows except yourself. Self discovery and introspection can be good things, but if you can't figure out why, don't let that keep you from enjoying the ride :)

(and for what it's worth, I also find the effects are mostly positive)

When i am denied i am not a better person. I am more bad at work because i thinking more about sex and sometimes i feeling uncomfortable when i go out with friends for example. I don't think it makes me better it just makes me desperate

But good to hear that it helps you guys. Maybe you should think about to become a priest, that would mean denial for life (just kidding)