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How do I ask my new girlfriend to take charge of the relationship? I'm pretty sure she'd like to, but I don't want to chase her away.

Okay I have posted the same reply to similar questions
so you may skip this if you have read it before.

But it really works in real life.
Do NOT ask!
that's topping from the bottom.

Please her!
Do things she wants, and more!
be romantic!
Clean her house, car, pet, ...
if you are having sex please her (I suggest oral for her)
and don't orgasm.

On days you don't see her you can do a webtease (or two if you really like punishment)
however, deny yourself! Try to go the whole month without an orgasm.
Use your extra energy for her
write her poems, work harder to afford flowers or other things she likes.

Assume she IS your mistress
and listen to her every word as if they are commands.

Follow these instructions and she will probably ask you why you are doing all this
just explain that you like her in control.
Make a pact with yourself that you will NOT cum unless she specifically says you can.
So... if your having sex, no Orgasm for you (tantric syle)
If she asks you if you want an orgasm, resist! say, oh no I'm fine
ONLY IF she says that she wants you to have one
can you.
Try that for a while!
It works great for me!

I did sort of the same thing but wasn't that nice.

I would be nice to her and listen to what she said but every time we had sex and after I cummed I would start to be a sort of a jerk and not listen to her and start to boss her around.

When she asked why I change I told her cause I've cum and I'm not horny anymore. I explained to her that I'm more submissive when I'm horny. Fair enough on her own she started denying me orgasms. Not too extreme yet, but she let's me orgasm about 50% less then before. But she's getting more strict with every week.

She has asked me to clean her kitchen floor. I'm excited and scared. I don't want to be disrespected in this relationship, but I do want to please her.

She likes to be on top during sex. Does this itself mean anything?

masochist wrote:She has asked me to clean her kitchen floor. I'm excited and scared. I don't want to be disrespected in this relationship, but I do want to please her.

She likes to be on top during sex. Does this itself mean anything?

Most women have a much better chance of cumming when they are on top. A lot of men prefer it also (as my husband says, he loves just laying back and watching me do all the work!).

So on its own that doesn't necessarily mean anything, but combine it with washing her floor and it sounds like she's taking control!

Mistress D

I would add some advice about pushing too hard. It's good to work on developing your relationship, but it's also important to learn to enjoy what you have. If your girlfriend likes bossing you around, being on top, telling you to wait to cum until tomorrow morning, maybe giving the occasional spanking, don't throw that away because she doesn't want to lock you up for months at a time.

I did clean her kitchen floor.