littlepos wrote: I am curious as to what the problem is with cumming within 8 minutes?
Loaded subject actually. If nothing else is involved (touching, intimacy, foreplay, etc), then an 8 minute orgasm can be selfish unless both people are okay with it (hookers probably love that kind of quickie!
). Sometimes a quickie is GREAT and both people like that... just not all the time. Mixing it (sex) up is great! But it doesn't have to always be marathon sex either. For me I am always more concerned about HER pleasure. THAT in itself is more pleasureable than any orgasm I can ever have. But that's just me. I love to see, feel, smell, taste, and hear a woman orgasm! Be it from fingers, toys, orally, or by whatever means, a woman's orgasm is best to me, my greatest pleasure!
littlepos wrote:is it a performance issue, a kink, is it that once you have cum the sex is over?
From what i understand, it is not unusual for men between the ages of 14 and 30 to have an orgasm within 5-10 minutes of penetration.
Yes, it is common, but you can practice and get better, 'stay' longer. Everyone is different. It's about knowing yourself. I did this practice in marathon masturbation sessions, learning my body, each sign, every sensation, what I knew would push me over or keep me on edge, thoughts behind that, how to stop it... or at least delay it. Practice, practice, practice. Learn your body and understand what pushes you over the top. Nearly everyone can get better, stay longer. Much of it is also mental to me. A woman and her body is truly amazing. Add an amazing mind behind that and she's very orgasmic for me! But it's when I put HER pleasure before my own that I discovered I could last longer, wanting the best for her, wanting for her pleasure.
littlepos wrote:But, sex does not begin or end with intercourse.
So right you are! Good point. (Unless you are paying for it. YUKK! Never have, never will!)
littlepos wrote: I have never been able to last more than 10 minutes once inside a woman, and honestly none of the other men i have talked to about this have either. But, spending time on foreplay, intense, and even afterplay for her, will help male things better all around.
I'm not bragging here, but 10 minutes? I've lasted much longer. Much, much longer. Again, it's when you put another's pleasure above your own that you can find the inner strength to last... for her! Sure, IF I wanted to cum in 10 minutes or less I could. But the point is to GIVE pleasure and receive it from her in many ways. Discovering what ways is all the fun. It's not always about the 'orgasm'. Like you said, it's not always about intercourse. Explore. Communicate. Play different games. We're not all built to be porn stars though, so don't think you need to act like one.
littlepos wrote:and, you know, it only takes a few minutes to get hard again after an orgasm, if you are healthy and into the woman.
Again, we are all different. My orgasms are VERY intense and I'm extremely sensitive for 30-60 minutes afterwards. I can rarely get hard again in less time (Unless it's a ruined orgasm. Then I can get hard soon after). I am very healthy and I never 'played' with a woman I wasn't into. So... explore and discover yourself. Communicate. Knowing yourself could help you give pleasure to another and last longer. Do it for her.
). That way, if you do get close, you can just slow down. Deep breathing can also help back you off the edge, as can just stopping. Most girls really enjoy feeling a cock just deep inside of them, but I find that it doesn't do a whole lot for me if I'm just there without moving -- perhaps take your "breaks" by pushing deep inside of your wife and holding it there. She'll get stimulation still, but you won't, and will be able to cool down a bit before continuing.