I think there is a difference between edging and edging.
Let me elaborate, to me it seems there are 2 types of edging:
- first, you can edge, like, it is no longer just stroking, it feels better, and you are on a straight path to cumming, but it just still needs a bit more, like if you were to stroke a tad bit faster you would cum, or just adding an extra stroke in the next second, some call this edging
- second, you are literally a couple of strokes away from cumming, like you are doing 1 stroke in 2 seconds or so and there is no way, to keep stroking at the same speed otherwise you would be cumming. I think this is what should be called edging. let's call these proper edges.
I think teases/some joi videos that require you to do 20+ edges are asking for the first one since they sometimes ask you to keep the same pace that brought you to the edge, I think that is impossible with proper edges.
Or you are at a point when you can cum without orgasm or orgasm without cumming with or without stimulation and let's face it that is not an easy thing to do.
So it seems to me you are doing the latter:
huhjpg wrote: Sat May 31, 2025 8:11 pm
Like I get less horny and go semi after the first edge and have to build myself all the way up again takes like 5mins and I need decent stimulation a lot of these teases just have like one pic they expect you to edge yourself to, I just end up losing interest or just not following along.
It happened to me as well, it is more like a ruined dry orgasm than an edge at that point.
(you go semi-hard and you need a lot of build-up)
It happened to me as well a couple of times.
It can happen any time, I mean, there was a time, when I did the same with the first edge and there was a time when it was like the 12th or so.
It seemed to me I was doing the same edge as before, but I guess I was just too horny, so the last stroke was just too much and I took one stroke further than I should have.
I did not cum, it was not pleasurable in any way, but the biological function of starting the refractory period (would have) triggered.
Also, it seems if I go fast and try to edge too close there is a higher chance it will happen to me, so now I tend to do the last couple of strokes just a tad bit slower, where I feel I still have proper control.
Be patient and try to do a couple of strokes less than you feel you could do and let's call that a proper edge.
I find it more often than not, that I'm climbing down from an edge even if it felt, I could have done better, so...
Also cumming/ruining when you just wanted to edge feels way worse than "missing" an edge and ruins the fun altogether.
Plus, if the tease does not time you, you can always just do another closer edge.