Edging Mastery w/ Gush+Funscripts+Denial
Posted: Sun Mar 16, 2025 1:48 pm
Hey everyone,
Wanted to share my experience with the Lovense Gush, Funscripts, and Edging that has resulted in a massive upgrade to my overall sex life. Some quick notes before starting, I'm not affiliated with Lovense or any of that nonsense. :) Also this is written for men, but I don't see why any of this couldn't be applied to the ladies.
I'm not even sure how to start, but I've discovered a new sexual routine that has blown all of my expectations out of the water... turned my previously goal-oriented approach on it's head, unlocked some crazy new abilities like becoming multi-orgasmic, and is something I can sustainably enjoy 7 days a week, 4 weeks a month... etc. You read that correctly: extreme sexual bliss for at least 1 hour, every day without detracting from my "real" sex life or otherwise interfere with work life, personal life, etc. These are bold statements that I would have looked at pretty skeptically 6 months ago, but here we are.
The core of it combines three different things:
1. A vibrator for your penis (Lovense Gush is my current go-to)
2. Funscripts to drive the same
3. Edging control, controlled Ruins and Orgasm Denial
Each of these are awesome by themselves. Together, it's nuts.
1: The Vibrator. If you're a dude and you've never used a vibrator, I'll understand. It's only been pretty recently that legitimately good vibrators designed for men have existed. If you take nothing else from this post, I'd encourage you to try it a few times. It just hits differently... whereas stroking has a very up-down centric feel to it, the vibrator is more of a "high-low" oscillation between rumbly and buzzy, both sensations feel amazing and put together it creates it's own type of "stroke". But unlike normal jerking where a lot of the sensation is on the "outside" of your cock, the vibrator is stimulating the whole banana at once, almost like the stimulation is coming from the inside out. I think that's probably similar to E-STIM, although I haven't tried that myself so can't really compare. While being quite different from stroking, it can still bring you to orgasm, although I think the orgasm hits a little different. Whereas stroking you get a sharp peak of orgasmic eruption, a vibrator orgasm is a little more paced out. You still get the same feeling but instead of being a peak it's like a mountain range and lasts a little longer. Sorry--this is probably a poor description but it's tough to put into words.
2: Funscripts. I'd known about these for a while but really underestimated how amazing they are. Regardless of your toy being a vibrator or stroker or whatever else, there's something pretty intense about feeling your porn. Whether it's an "action based" funscript where the signal is synced with the performers on screen, or it's "beat based" like a cock hero, or even just a "free style" funscript that is paired with a JOI video, etc, it's incredible to sit back with your hands behind your head and get pleasured by your favorite performers. I've thought about what makes a porn video good for a long time and I've decided that immersion is really one of the biggest factors. So roleplay videos, dirty talk, instructions / encouragement, VR videos... things that "bring me in" to the video turn my screws the most. Funscripts REALLY do that, because you're feeling what's happening, you sort of ARE part of the action. Huge mindfuck and super, super enjoyable.
3: Edging, Ruins and Denied Orgasms. I lumped these together because they're all aspects of the same thing.
3.1 Edging: Most of us here know how great edging is. Stroke yourself to the brink of orgasm, stop, throb & twitch in a moment of ecstasy, take a short breather and then go again. Needless to say, this kicks ass. Instead of being stuck in masturbation 1.0 where you build to a climax and then it's game over, with edging you can bring yourself up to 95% and experience little micro-O's over, and over, and over again. In a typical session I'll hit something like 70 edges, and with maybe 2-3 micro-twitches and delicious thobs per edge, I'm hitting probably close to 200 "micro orgasms" a day. To be clear, this is not something new--this is edging. But I wanted write that out just to make the advantage crystal clear.
3.2 Ruins: There is a next level up though, which I learned about a few years ago... ruins. When I first heard about this I couldn't understand why anyone would ever want to do this. Ruin an orgasm? The name is misleading though. A true ruined orgasm does not trigger the refractory period in men like a full orgasm does (meaning that "done" feeling where you feel super relaxed, you're no longer horny, and you have to wait anywhere from some hours to some days to go again with enthusiasm). It actually takes a little practice and failed attempts to do ruins correctly. If you correctly ruin you stay hard, stay horny, and you can continue your edging or go for more ruins. I think the most I've ever done in one sitting was 5 (I suspect you can't do them forever, but TBD). If you want to learn how to ruin: https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php? ... b43608775f
3.3 Orgasm Denial: Finally, orgasm denial. I gradually transitioned to this "goal". Again, I'd known about this forever but never understood why someone would want to do this. What is it: any time you have a session and you really, really want to cum at the end, but you don't. You go hands off, calm down, pull up your pants and go about your day. What I learned about this is that it feels magical, the hornier you are, the better. All that pent up, unreleased sexual energy? It feeds into and fuels your day. Girls on the street look hotter. Everything feels sensitive and better. You have tons of energy to put into whatever work or etc. you have to do. Again this isn't something new--you're just horny. Orgasms feel great, but you lose that electric energy (which is OK sometimes too! But just saying). And... as you go through your week with no release, it feeds back into 3.1 and 3.2. Your energy builds on itself and edges come faster, harder... those sessions get better and better etc.
Now... you put all of these things together (1 + 2 + (3.1, 3.2, 3.3)... and you get get some seriously cool benefits:
Anyone else go down a similar path?
I'm happy to chat more about my setup, tips and tricks, best practices, etc... this is definitely not something that's out of the box. It requires experimentation, practice and learning the small / subtle things to make this work. Figured I'd throw this post out first and see if anyone has interest.
Wanted to share my experience with the Lovense Gush, Funscripts, and Edging that has resulted in a massive upgrade to my overall sex life. Some quick notes before starting, I'm not affiliated with Lovense or any of that nonsense. :) Also this is written for men, but I don't see why any of this couldn't be applied to the ladies.
I'm not even sure how to start, but I've discovered a new sexual routine that has blown all of my expectations out of the water... turned my previously goal-oriented approach on it's head, unlocked some crazy new abilities like becoming multi-orgasmic, and is something I can sustainably enjoy 7 days a week, 4 weeks a month... etc. You read that correctly: extreme sexual bliss for at least 1 hour, every day without detracting from my "real" sex life or otherwise interfere with work life, personal life, etc. These are bold statements that I would have looked at pretty skeptically 6 months ago, but here we are.
The core of it combines three different things:
1. A vibrator for your penis (Lovense Gush is my current go-to)
2. Funscripts to drive the same
3. Edging control, controlled Ruins and Orgasm Denial
Each of these are awesome by themselves. Together, it's nuts.
1: The Vibrator. If you're a dude and you've never used a vibrator, I'll understand. It's only been pretty recently that legitimately good vibrators designed for men have existed. If you take nothing else from this post, I'd encourage you to try it a few times. It just hits differently... whereas stroking has a very up-down centric feel to it, the vibrator is more of a "high-low" oscillation between rumbly and buzzy, both sensations feel amazing and put together it creates it's own type of "stroke". But unlike normal jerking where a lot of the sensation is on the "outside" of your cock, the vibrator is stimulating the whole banana at once, almost like the stimulation is coming from the inside out. I think that's probably similar to E-STIM, although I haven't tried that myself so can't really compare. While being quite different from stroking, it can still bring you to orgasm, although I think the orgasm hits a little different. Whereas stroking you get a sharp peak of orgasmic eruption, a vibrator orgasm is a little more paced out. You still get the same feeling but instead of being a peak it's like a mountain range and lasts a little longer. Sorry--this is probably a poor description but it's tough to put into words.
2: Funscripts. I'd known about these for a while but really underestimated how amazing they are. Regardless of your toy being a vibrator or stroker or whatever else, there's something pretty intense about feeling your porn. Whether it's an "action based" funscript where the signal is synced with the performers on screen, or it's "beat based" like a cock hero, or even just a "free style" funscript that is paired with a JOI video, etc, it's incredible to sit back with your hands behind your head and get pleasured by your favorite performers. I've thought about what makes a porn video good for a long time and I've decided that immersion is really one of the biggest factors. So roleplay videos, dirty talk, instructions / encouragement, VR videos... things that "bring me in" to the video turn my screws the most. Funscripts REALLY do that, because you're feeling what's happening, you sort of ARE part of the action. Huge mindfuck and super, super enjoyable.
3: Edging, Ruins and Denied Orgasms. I lumped these together because they're all aspects of the same thing.
3.1 Edging: Most of us here know how great edging is. Stroke yourself to the brink of orgasm, stop, throb & twitch in a moment of ecstasy, take a short breather and then go again. Needless to say, this kicks ass. Instead of being stuck in masturbation 1.0 where you build to a climax and then it's game over, with edging you can bring yourself up to 95% and experience little micro-O's over, and over, and over again. In a typical session I'll hit something like 70 edges, and with maybe 2-3 micro-twitches and delicious thobs per edge, I'm hitting probably close to 200 "micro orgasms" a day. To be clear, this is not something new--this is edging. But I wanted write that out just to make the advantage crystal clear.
3.2 Ruins: There is a next level up though, which I learned about a few years ago... ruins. When I first heard about this I couldn't understand why anyone would ever want to do this. Ruin an orgasm? The name is misleading though. A true ruined orgasm does not trigger the refractory period in men like a full orgasm does (meaning that "done" feeling where you feel super relaxed, you're no longer horny, and you have to wait anywhere from some hours to some days to go again with enthusiasm). It actually takes a little practice and failed attempts to do ruins correctly. If you correctly ruin you stay hard, stay horny, and you can continue your edging or go for more ruins. I think the most I've ever done in one sitting was 5 (I suspect you can't do them forever, but TBD). If you want to learn how to ruin: https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php? ... b43608775f
3.3 Orgasm Denial: Finally, orgasm denial. I gradually transitioned to this "goal". Again, I'd known about this forever but never understood why someone would want to do this. What is it: any time you have a session and you really, really want to cum at the end, but you don't. You go hands off, calm down, pull up your pants and go about your day. What I learned about this is that it feels magical, the hornier you are, the better. All that pent up, unreleased sexual energy? It feeds into and fuels your day. Girls on the street look hotter. Everything feels sensitive and better. You have tons of energy to put into whatever work or etc. you have to do. Again this isn't something new--you're just horny. Orgasms feel great, but you lose that electric energy (which is OK sometimes too! But just saying). And... as you go through your week with no release, it feeds back into 3.1 and 3.2. Your energy builds on itself and edges come faster, harder... those sessions get better and better etc.
Now... you put all of these things together (1 + 2 + (3.1, 3.2, 3.3)... and you get get some seriously cool benefits:
- First and foremost, you can have intense orgasmic pleasure every single day. Enough said :) But, depending on how much time you have and what your life is like, could easily be multiple times / day. My record so far is about 425 edges in a 24 hour period. There's something... really nice about knowing that regardless of how your day goes, with the ups and downs life naturally throws your way, you can depend on reliable pleasure whenever you want or need it.
- Works WITH your actual sex life, NOT AGAINST it. I'm in a long term relationship and usually have sex 1-2 / week. In my 1.0 days it was always a balancing act for me with some risk built in. I enjoy my solo sex, but I prioritize coupled sex. Coupled sex is naturally a bit more random and spontaneous for us, so there would be times where I had chosen to go for an orgasm with solo sex, and then real sex comes up the same day or next, and I wouldn't be able to perform at the level I wanted to. With this new setup I'm edging with the goal of NOT cumming, just getting as many edges or ruins as possible. This has the two-fold benefit that I'm always "ready" for her when she's ready to go, AND, when we are together I'm at a point where I'm so excited that it's intense, to say the least.
- Multiple orgasms. Here's somethign I DID NOT see coming... but as a result of either being built up for days, learning to disassociate orgasms from being "done" via ruins, or just training my brain to experience pleasure over and over again instead of going through the buildup-then-release pattern... I have become multi-orgasmic. I'm not talking about ruins here, I am talking about full orgasms. This started happening after about 3 or so months of this practice. The first time with a solo session... I had edged myself for about a week and there had been no sex, so I decide it was time to let one loose, old-school style with my hand + lube. First climax was insane, mind-numbing bliss like you'd expect. But after I came, I slowed down but kept stroking. Something was still feeling good. And about a minute later I brought myself up to a second full orgasm! Not as "big" as the first, but almost more intense in an odd way. The first one was a peak, whereas the second was a plateau. About a week later, it happened again, this time during sex! Can't tell you how amazing this was... similar sensations but with my lady. She loved it too. Then another time I actually got 3 orgasms in one session, this one was again solo sex... each orgasm was slightly "smaller" than the last but paradoxically more intense. When the third one hit I actually vocally cried out, something I had zero control over and never do. Toe-curling, brain melting insanity.
Anyone else go down a similar path?
I'm happy to chat more about my setup, tips and tricks, best practices, etc... this is definitely not something that's out of the box. It requires experimentation, practice and learning the small / subtle things to make this work. Figured I'd throw this post out first and see if anyone has interest.
And when you combine it with the peak of physical sensation (like edging, denial) it’s just out of this world.
yeah I’m a fan.
