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Recently my wife has been telling me I should or need to dress in women's clothing all the time at home. I pretty much always wear panties already. And from time to time have dressed up more, but never regularly even just at home, usually just for dares or games and what not. I am not completely sure on the idea yet, but she seems to be really into it. Just looking for thoughts from others on the situation to perhaps help me better decide. I have considered telling her I would be willing to try it for a week at first to see how I feel about doing it more, but that's seems a pretty big step as well. I tend to be really submissive on the occasions I do dress fully up as a girl, so maybe she likes it more when I am submissive as well. just looking for some advice or feedback on the situation.

What's the sexual element in this? Who gets more of a kick out of you dressing up?

What is the most important part of this is that even for a submissive, you have to feel comfortable with it. To me, it sounds like you are not, at least not yet. But as for all relationships communication is important. To give you specific advice we need to know her motivation for wanting to dress while you are at home.

Since you are submissive and dressing up seems to be within your limits i don't really see much of a downside in obeying her wishes. After all it should be in your interest to serve her. I am sure many guys (not me) would kill to have a partner not only accepting this kink, but actually asking you to indulge in it. At least trying it out for her would be my advice. Trying doesn't hurt. And if she is reasonable, which i assume, since she asked you to do it, not demanded, then i am sure she would understand if it is too much for you.

I have always enjoyed dressing up in private for things like dares and different games. But it's never been anywhere near all the time at home. Usually, a few hours max. As for the Sexual element, well she always seems to enjoy seeing me dressed up in women's clothes. And well when dressed up I tend to feel really submissive as well, whereas normally I am more of a switch. She does say she likes me being submissive more so that could be part of it.

I likely will be trying it out for her at least. I just like to think things through first. I am not worried about her trying to really push me to things I am uncomfortable with we have always been good at respecting each other's boundaries in that regard. I could ask her why she is suggesting this out of the blue, but sometimes with our dom/sub play, it kind of ruin the mood of it all.

Alright. So I did decide to talk to her about it more. She said she does like how submissive I become when dressed up. I agreed I would give it a try for a week starting tomorrow, then we will see if we want to continue after that. I appreciate the feedback and thoughts you all have given me on it.

Sussing out kinks in a relationship is always a 2-way street and everyone needs to be comfortable or it falls apart. Also need to have a safeword so if for some reason things get overwhelming or too much, you can both shut off and have a discussion. Or if a delivery or someone unexpectedly shows up at your place, you can duck out and she can deal with the visitor in order to avoid a problematic situation.

It's within your limits as an activity and she is giving, game, and good... But every day, all the time - these are right at the "24-7 lifestyle" edges of kink. Maybe to see how it goes, try for 2 days in a row? or 3 days a week? It's a commitment to go a full week, and though she might be really into it and worked up over it, it sounds like *you* still do need some processing time or aftercare (for lack of a better word) after a shorter period in full commitment.

After a couple or few days, having a set time to both step out of assumed roles and have a conversation about how everyone is doing, hangups, concerns, etc - pick back up if everyone's on the same page.

We have had some discussions around daily latex wear, and have gone a few days in a row, but a week presents a whole set of logistical challenges.