Milovana.com

I liked it. Not the first of its kind, but the writing style was good and it wasn't too hard.
I could imagine it well as a series that gets progressively harder.

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I wish it didn't specifically require a crush on Instagram, though. Having a crush, having that crush's Instagram, that being public / open to you and her then also posting pictures there is a number of requirements that are not that often met... even these days. I think diversifying to any woman you personally know and on any social media platform (or at least some selection) could improve this.

As a heads-up, consider the following post from Seraph0x, regarding this site's rules on blackmail content.

General Thoughts on BM Content

Separate from this specific tease, I wanted to share some more general thoughts which our moderators will use to make decisions about future cases of BM content:

• BM is - by definition - consensual non-consent. I.e. the submissive consents to a non-consensual situation arising in the future. In order to practice this safely and ethically, some very strict guidelines need to be followed.
  • The scope of non-consent is limited and pre-agreed. For example: I agree to give you this picture and you will use it to force me to eat my cum. You don't use the picture for any other purpose and you don't keep the picture beyond the pre-agreed duration.
  • There is an escape hatch. This is a safeword or some equivalent. BM is no different from impact play or any other BDSM practice where a situation may arise that is unexpectedly more intense, dangerous, etc. than what the sub signed up for and in such a situation there must be a way for the sub to be able to actively withdraw consent.
  • All participants consent. When you ask for (as dom) or provide (as sub) information about third parties, this is involving people who did not consent and is therefore unethical. The same goes for sending NSFW content to someone who didn't consent to receiving it or publishing it somewhere that isn't suited for such content.
  • There must be trust. As a sub, you cannot consent to be BM'ed by a dom you don't trust, because you cannot be confident that they will adhere to the rules of the game. Therefore, it is the responsibility of both sub and dom not to engage in this kink if there is no foundation of trust. (I would personally argue that you should never trust any internet stranger you've never met. However, I also understand that trust is a sacred, personal choice and therefore I refuse to impose my judgment on who you should or shouldn't trust on you.)
  • Fantasy may be extreme, reality must be moderate. You must never play with real BM information that would do significant harm to either participant or third parties. If you want to engage in this fetish despite all warnings, at least stick to information that is embarrassing or inconvenient to yourself only.
• This leads me to the following rules for BM teases on Milovana.
  • BM as a fantasy - allowed
  • BM in teases requesting information sent explicitly outside of Milovana (email, mail timer, ...) - allowed with significant caveats
    • The BM parts must be optional. I.e. there must be a way to complete the tease as a fantasy without submitting information for real.
    • We always reserve the right to remove any tease at our discretion and BM teases as a form of edge play are especially at risk of deletion. Authors should be aware of that.
    • Factors that may cause us to remove a tease (especially in combination with BM) are: findom, any kind of deception, negative experiences reported by users, negative reputation of the author, impact on non-consenting third parties, lack of defined scope, type of information collected, etc.
    • Regarding findom - as a free, non-commercial community, we are somewhat apprehensive about findom having too large of an influence on the site. This is something we are continuously monitoring. We understand that some authors are professionals and we are generally ok with them using the site as a promotional channel so long as the content they post is enjoyable by itself. We do not allow teases which are impossible to complete at all without payment and that of course includes BM teases. To comply with this rule the tease must be able to be completed without submitting BM info and without paying. To maximize the odds of a BM tease involving findom being accepted, you could charge only those users who choose to engage in interactive BM. You should charge them before they submit information. I.e. the user is paying for your time and the BM task is about something other than money.
    • We could have banned all BM content. However, the mission of this site is to encourage and educate about safe exploration of human sexuality and we believe that your personal expression of your sexuality is a sacred human right insofar as it doesn't infringe on the rights of others. Therefore, we would rather do what we can to steer people towards safer forms of BM content rather than ban it altogether and end up with BM content disguised as other content or just driving it towards other venues that are even less equipped to encourage safe practices.
    • It's impossible to foresee every possible situation which is why our policy is somewhat flexible.
    • We may adjust our policy in the future based on future cases and community discussion and feedback.
  • BM inside of Milovana using exploits (data encoded in links, sandbox escapes, ...) - never allowed
  • BM inside of Milovana via the forums or chat - typically not allowed, however moderators have discretion; also we do not moderate what you do in private messages unless we receive a complaint
  • Publishing the actual BM material (names, photos, etc.) on Milovana - never allowed
• Users should be aware that Milovana has very limited resources to police this kind of thing and no matter how good we make our security, an exploit is always possible, so all BM/humiliation content is always at your own risk and we very strongly advise against ever entering real information anywhere, including in Eos.
• Anytime you copy something from Eos and paste it anywhere outside of Eos, you are explicitly giving up the security guarantees that Eos provides. We will make this more explicitly clear to users.
• Anytime you follow an external link, you are giving up the security guarantees that Eos provides.
• We cannot predict the future. If we get multiple, credible reports that a given author is misusing information submitted to them, we will delete their teases. However, that isn't going to stop a malicious actor from appearing to play by the rules while patiently collecting information over a long period of time and then misusing all of it later.

In addition to the above, all content must of course be compliant with all relevant laws and regulations.

I think most of those are met. You probably need to include a safe word at the end of the tease, though.

The tease violates our consent rule - you're asking the viewer to send pictures of another person's social media but that person did not consent to being involved. The other person may not be ok with their pictures being shared in this type of context. Under the consent rule, a bm tease also wouldn't be allowed to threaten to contact anyone who didn't specifically agree to be part of the game. So anything like "I'll send this to your crush / wife / girlfriend / boss / etc" is not allowed under our rules unless the party in question gave prior informed consent.

We believe that everyone should be free to explore their sexuality however they want so long as it doesn't infringe on the rights of others. That means if someone wants to send you a picture of themselves and you're ok with it and they're ok with it and everyone is an adult and aware of the risks of the activity then fine. But you can't involve people who didn't consent to participating.

I'll unpublish the tease for now to give you a chance to change it if you want.

Feedback for general BM content (not just this tease);

As mentioned above, there is a real issue with exposing anything via a non-participating person.

Although this is a common trope in BM, the answer seems obvious to me; keep the fantasy here on Milo or similar themed sites.
Ask for volunteers to be moderators/viewer (either within the tease, or via forum-links) then make the game all about keeping your content away from their view.
As creator, you can lead with this into all the types of game you would naturally want to play/encourage/risk...
The aim of the overall game is the same, if you fail the BM rules, you may still be exposed for real (depending on creators loss condition).

There is a excitment-risk balance here to play with, even if it isn't fully impacting real world.
But in a game of fantasy, this hits many sweet spots between practicality and acceptability.

Hope this helps those who are excited about the topic...

Stay Sexy!