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Hi everyone, I hope you are doing well.

I'm seeking some advice. My gf and I are in a very happy long-term relationship. I've tried to introduce her to T&D and she does enjoy it - not as much as me - every now and then. Main issue preventing the next step imo is: she seems to enjoy me cumming too much, so we never go longer than 3-7 days.

Now "no nut November" is approaching and I never really paid attention to it. However I had this idea to use this as an encouragement to try a longer denial period with my gf. But I'm not sure she might think this suggestions is to extreme. I'm not exactly sure which advice I'm seeking to be honest.

But any thoughts on suggesting this to your partner, personal experiences would be welcome. :)

Thank you

Find a compromise, only ruined orgasms

to add to shimas response, here is a copied text from a blog about this. Kind of an advice how to bring the topic of ruined orgasms up in a relationship. Maybe you can draw some inspiration from it.

ARE YOU MARRIED or IN A RELATIONSHIP where she hasn’t taken control of you? Special instructions for men who are with a partner who is not interested in the benefits of a properly ruined man. (Although, no idea why they wouldn’t want to enjoy it.)

Begin telling your partner about the oversensitivity you experience on your penis. Explain that when you receive oral sex, or a handjob, she needs to go slowly and gently, that you will enjoy it more. Tell her that it gets most sensitive just before you cum, and ask her to just let it happen. She will likely enjoy watching it come out this way, anyway. If you are having intercourse, make sure that she cums as much as she wishes to - and when you are about to ejaculate, slow down and pull out, and ejaculate without any further stimulation.

On days when you do not have intimate contact with each other - ejaculate for me as instructed above. You should be ejaculating without orgasm EVERY DAY, regardless of your situation.

So you think that isn't going to work? Or, you seem to think you will be depriving her of seeing you cum all over or things of this nature… first of all: remember you’re still ejaculating for her, and she isn’t going to miss out on that at all. You’re going to make her cum over and over until she’s satisfied, and then you’re going to withdraw or take things in hand, and push yourself over the limit - but ruined completely. It’s quite easy, and you can even play it up in a porn-ish way if you want. But the goal is the same - YOU don’t orgasm, you just ruin as gently as you can. If she is stroking you - just tell her what you want her to do, in terms of letting go as you let go. Good partners listen to and respect what the other says they like and want. And she WILL still get off seeing you ejaculate and perhaps moreso because she knows you’re doing it “how you like.” Tell me anything to make it sound reasonable and wanted… whatever works for your situation. Communicate with your partner. Or hell, if she is the kinky or adventurous type - just TELL HER YOU LIKE RUINS. Ferchristsake.

Unless she is SPECIFICALLY instructing you to CUM INSIDE HER while VIGOROUSLY fucking her, there ought to be SOME WAY you can both get what you want from this scenario. If you must ejaculate inside her, at the very least, you can slow down and freeze as still as possible while you let it out... so, find a way that works. But I STRONGLY suggest if this is what you want (to give up orgasms) that you communicate with your partner more... all roads lead to MORE pleasure for her, there's really no downside here, she probably just doesn't understand. Help her understand.

Thanks for the replies.

Yes she actually does enjoy ruining me every now and then. I feel she enjoys it more than denial as she sees some kind of reaction (on my face and by ejaculating).

That could be a compromise. As always: talking will be the solution

Was just wandering if anyone approached their partners about nnn