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Right now I don't have a Mistress to serve, I am looking for ways to do some self denial and control. I was wanting to know what people do to set time limits and task to do? I finding it hard to think of a good way to do this and to follow it.

Thanks

I think the best thing is doing one webtease a day and stick to the instructions. You will never know when you have the next orgasm. In the end it's all a matter of selfcontrol and discipline.

Yeah to what Dark said. Do just one tease a day, or at lest one at a time--meaning if you are going to do more than one in a day, space them out by a few hours. As far as tasks, if you keep looking around you will pull ideas from people's writing in the forum, and even from teases. If you are in a tease that has stuff beyond your hard boundaries, it may have a small aspect that makes your cock twitch or be inspiration for another idea altogether. You can tuck these things away in your mind to do to yourself later, outside a tease. Plus, just keep cruising the net, there's fiction here and other places on the tease and denial topic that can be great material for ideas.

As for time limits you mentioned, it sounds lame, but you should set clear goals for yourself. Don't just start out saying "I'll go as long as I can", decide before you start how long it will be. If you are used to cumming every time you stroke, and don't usually take very long to do it, you can start with reasonable goals and build up. Before you start a stroking "session", tell yourself how long it will be and stick to it, unless the time is up and you have not yet been very tempted to go ahead and cum. The teases here are awesome, but sometimes you may just want to watch a porn movie and stroke. When you do, ALWAYS decide first if you will cum or not this session, and as I said, it's a good idea to set real goals, like "these 3 scenes" or make sure you can see a clock and tell yourself to go x amount of time. (but look at the clock as few times as you possibly can) Then just go slowly, keep your breathing slow and even, and try to keep every muscle totally relaxed. As you approach orgasm, if you pay attention, your leg muscles especially will want to be flexing, but try to focus on keeping them limp and relaxed. This will help you last longer. And when you get right to the edge, stop and just watch for a moment or 2. When you feel like you are going to iether cum or go mad and you're not close to the goal you set, hit pause and go have a sandwich or something else distracting.

another thought is to do this to a porn you don't especially like. For example, I really love to watch blowjobs. But I like the type of scene where the guy lays back, relaxes because he knows the Lady knows what she's doing, and she does her thing and gently plays with his cock in her own way and brings him along toward orgasm in her own time and has controll of his orgasm. Or else 69 is great too, as both receive pleasure. But sometimes you get ahold of blowjob scenes where the guy is holding her head and fucking her face and she's gagging, eyes watering, mascara running down her face and it ends with the guy self-jerking while she looks up at him. I hate those kinds of scenes. No doubt because I am sexually submissive to females, but also because I think it would feel better to relax and let her do her thing. So when I decide I want to do a really long session cause I know it'll end with a really powerful orgasm, I may put in one of the violent type blowjob movies I got by accident sometime, and since it's not at all exciting to me, i can stroke a long time without cumming, but since i can see naked ladies (usually), plus the physical stimulation of stroking, i am aroused during that long time, so when it's over and I put in one of my favorites and blast off, it's awesome.

As for encouragement, all I can say is that as you go along, you will learn that the more time you spend getting to and waiting for an orgasm, the more powerfull that orgasm will be. Besides, it's way more fun to watch your jizz shoot into the air, wonder for an instant if it will hit the cieling, then watch it arc over and splatter on the wall, than it is to see it just kind of ooze out, and maybe one blob fly up to your bellybutton.