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Hi guys and girls.

I'm at that stage where i want to find a mistress online, not a pro mistress but a friendly face who is also a good mistress, but where do i do that? Im on a few sites that are themed on sexuality and made posts there (in the slave/master request areas) and i talk to a friend online who i have "played" with before for a week, but she has a BF now and isnt really interested :( she was good too :(

So where do i look?

I want someone of my age, around 20, who isnt a pro mistress, even a switch would be great as i wouldnt mind being a master every now and then even though im a slave at heart.

If anyone on here is interested then PM me and we can sort something out (girls only please!)

but does anyone have any advice where i can search online for free? Im on social networking sites too, and one adult social networking site so im pretty well out there!

Honey,

You want an online mistress- one who is female, young, and who will play with you for free....

Umm.... You can try CollarMe- but I have to say, it will be hard for you to find what you seek.

Most women who do things like this, online, charge for it. Most of the women who are not professionals seek an in-person connection/relationship.

There is also something else... you want a Mistress to tell you what to do... what will you do for her, besides obey? Why should a woman want to be your mistress?

Hmmm?

Alison

There is also something else... you want a Mistress to tell you what to do... what will you do for her, besides obey? Why should a woman want to be your mistress?

A completely fair point, I'd only want a mistress who enjoys being a mistress. The friend i mentioned did it because she thought it was funny and enjoyed teasing me and such. I think the only thing that many slaves, of any gender, can do for a Master/Mistress is to be a slave as the dom should, in theory, purely enjoy having a slave in the same way that the slave purely enjoys having a master. and i think that is the best, and primary reason for any slave/master relationship.

I think that anything you pay for will not be as good as something that is free because if youre paying for it obviously the master isnt that willing, but if they do it for free it proves they enjoy having you as a slave and so the relationship is much better.

Thats just my thoughts though!

Most women who do things like this, online, charge for it. Most of the women who are not professionals seek an in-person connection/relationship.

Also true, which is perfectly sensible, if i had the choice between a long term relationship with someone or a quick slave/mistress arrangement it would clearly have to b the long lasting relationship, even if it was fairly vanilla.

You want an online mistress- one who is female, young, and who will play with you for free....

when you put it like that you make it sound so bad! Although that is essentially what i want id also like some friendship from them, someone that i can chat to as well as have sessions with.

you want a Mistress to tell you what to do... what will you do for her, besides obey? Why should a woman want to be your mistress?

On Milovana (and probably on a lot of other free of charge sexual related sites as well) there is this 1 to 100 ratio when it comes to women versus men... hard time to convince you are the one out of hundred. Just obay will probably not be enough for most of the ladies aroun.

Another funny thing about the 1 to 100 ratio is that though this site is in general dedicated to women in charge, it can be an unfriendly place for women as well. Let's say that you write an email, and it takes you fifteen minutes to write, and it takes the lady about two minutes to read and to reply with a simple 'yes' or 'no'.
-> Result: even writing a simple 'yes' or 'no' takes the lady about three and a half hours, if she would do it to every guy who would like that.

Some of us have been looking for a dominant woman in real life for decades without success. And I like to think I look okay, but I digress...

One thing that has always stuck in my craw about this issue is that I find it hard to believe that women have less urgent sexual desires than men, and given the anonymity the internet confers, why not flock to the sites that guys frequent as well?

I'm not a sociologist, though...

I know of someone who is looking to hold as many keys as possible. If you are willing to send her a key to a cb, shell be more than willing to tease you for awhile.

I know because shes been teasing me recently.

PM me if youd like me to introduce you (pending her approval). Shell probably want a letter from you explaining who you are and why you want her to control you.

Anyway, let me know

HogtiedCowboy

Salerio wrote: women have less urgent sexual desires than men

on average, they do. it's not what we'd like to hear, but it's a fact of life

jp wrote:I know a few people that would probably strongly disagree with that. ;)

Hopefully those people wouldn't... since I said "on average". There are plenty of women out there who could tire every guy on this site out... but that's not the average.

I have a feeling if you average the amount of times a guy or a girl "wanted it" it would be surprisingly close. However since a Man biologically peaks at 18 with regards to sexual desire, and women tend to peak later in life (around 30 according to the literature I've read). Men get a reputation for desiring the sex more... I think it would make for interesting research, but not sure i would happen.

Timshel wrote:I have a feeling if you average the amount of times a guy or a girl "wanted it" it would be surprisingly close. However since a Man biologically peaks at 18 with regards to sexual desire, and women tend to peak later in life (around 30 according to the literature I've read). Men get a reputation for desiring the sex more... I think it would make for interesting research, but not sure i would happen.

I'm not so sure about that. At 18, I was needing 5-6 orgasms a day to stay sane. You don't hear about 30 year old women needing it six times every day. I'm all for gender equality but there are definite undeniable biological differences that have nothing to do with it.

First, i'd think about this and make sure it's something that you want. I think it's healthy to explore your curiousities, but i'd contemplate the consequences of becoming emotionally or sexually dependent on an online 'Mistress', or having that dynamic while you're in a relationship with someone. What if you meet a girl you quite like? Do you end the online relationship (would you)? If not, where do you draw the line as to what's acceptable, and not considered cheating? Would you start to resent your girlfriend because she doesn't do things that your online Mistress does? Would you start to condition yourself so that you could only orgasm when being told to? Would it affect your sex life outside of your online relationship?

If you think you've thought about these things enough and still want to pursue a sexual dynamic with a girl online, my advice would be to stop looking for a "Mistress". I guess I have a biased opinion, as I don't consider myself anyone's "Mistress", "Princess", ect., but like Alison mentioned above, most girls that affix that title to themselves will be looking for some sort of monetary compensation to have that sort of dynamic with you. I consider this a form of prostitution, though we won't get into that as it's caused a heated discussion more than once. ;)

You seem like an intelligent, level headed person with good intentions. I don't think you'd have an extremely difficult time finding a girl online that shares your sexual interests. There are *lots* of avenues that you can take to meet people online these days. I'd just recommend that you A) Know what you'd be getting yourself into in the long run, and B) Don't overlook potentially fantastic girls because they don't go into the dynamic with the sole intent of becoming your Mistress and/or carrying that title with them.

TheGraduate wrote: I'm not so sure about that. At 18, I was needing 5-6 orgasms a day to stay sane. You don't hear about 30 year old women needing it six times every day. I'm all for gender equality but there are definite undeniable biological differences that have nothing to do with it.

I'm 29 and there are days when I have 2, 3, or 4 orgasms. In the past few months I can count on one hand the number of days i've gone without having an orgasm in some way. I touch myself constantly, and I want sex more or less every night. My boyfriend is 30 and his sex drive is noticeably less active than mine. Come to think of it, I don't think i've ever dated a guy that wanted sex noticeably more often than me.

-L

omssx wrote:Hi guys and girls.

I'm at that stage where i want to find a mistress online, not a pro mistress but a friendly face who is also a good mistress, but where do i do that? Im on a few sites that are themed on sexuality and made posts there (in the slave/master request areas) and i talk to a friend online who i have "played" with before for a week, but she has a BF now and isnt really interested :( she was good too :(

So where do i look?

I want someone of my age, around 20, who isnt a pro mistress, even a switch would be great as i wouldnt mind being a master every now and then even though im a slave at heart.

If anyone on here is interested then PM me and we can sort something out (girls only please!)

but does anyone have any advice where i can search online for free? Im on social networking sites too, and one adult social networking site so im pretty well out there!

The million dollar question... I had this discussion in the chat room with some gabbers the other day. First, are you willing to pay at a networking site? Not for the "tease" but for the networking? I met my boy on bondage.com and alt.com used to be a good source although I haven't been there lately. Also, there is a great site called "fetlife", it is free but more for RL relationship wants.

A couple other things... women.. Mistresses or not also love to be "teased" so make sure the vibe you are putting out there is of that nature and not as someone "needy". I would much rather have someone aproach me trying to (respectfully) tease me than to beg for my affections. Also, you do not need to look for a Dominant Woman.. be open to a woman you are possibly attracted to that youl fee might have an "evil" side and possibly she will grow into a Mistress role for you.

Your comment about women who are payed by the people they tease may be true for some but it is not always the case. I know a lot of people who 100% enjoy the tease process who do get paid. They get just as much of a charge as the person being teased. My advice is don't be so quick to judge that way, it is very closed minded. For some pople it turns out that kind of D/s relationship works as they can just "roleplay" then go back to thier "real lives" with possibly less guilt attached to the relationship. I have seen this work for many people.

The person who made the age comment was pretty right on also, a lot of women get into thier mid 30's or early 40's before they even get the urge to Dominate. Finding someone your age might be a bit more tricky.

I wish you the best of luck,

Nikki

Lindsey wrote: I'm 29 and there are days when I have 2, 3, or 4 orgasms. In the past few months I can count on one hand the number of days i've gone without having an orgasm in some way. I touch myself constantly, and I want sex more or less every night. My boyfriend is 30 and his sex drive is noticeably less active than mine. Come to think of it, I don't think i've ever dated a guy that wanted sex noticeably more often than me.

-L

fucking biology. here's hoping I can still keep up at 30, then.

Thanks for the advice folks :)

A lot of very good points have come up here and ill take them all on board and have a serious think.

As i said im more into "friendly" teasing than a more serious "mistress" style teasing (if that makes any sense at all)

thanks anyway :) Ill keep looking, and ill keep thinking about what i truly want :)

And damn 30 year old women have a lot of orgasms! but then again they dont have the same down time that us guys get! Lucky buggers!