I haven't cum in a year...

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I haven't cum in a year...

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I abstained from masturbation and orgasm for all of 2017, just to prove to myself that I could. Call it a pervert's New Years resolution for 2017 :lol:. Since I can now get back to pleasing myself, I wanted to field some opinions on some things I should hit up to break my streak of abstinence. I already have some things in mind: some erotic audios, some cock heros (Inferno II, anyone?), some videos, etc... I would love some suggestions, though! I'm mostly into vanilla things, but I do love tease and denial. I appreciate anything you can think up!
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I'd love to hear more about your experience if you don't mind. Was it difficult? Did it become easier after a certain period of time? Did you tease yourself with touching and porn throughout or did you abstain from everything completely? Did you wear a chastity device?

I would suggest erotic hypnosis, which you already mentioned. When you are really horny the feelings these can bring on are almost magical. Although, in my experience it's very trial and error to find content that really hits you in the right way.
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I have to say, I didn't have an experience like RandomStranger's in which the urge to jack off was always there. Don't get me wrong: those first few weeks were HARD. However, I have a lot of willpower. That, along with the fact that I have a stubborn tendency to go through with something I've set my mind to, allowed me to make it through. I did the challenge for no other reason than to prove I could. The conditions were thus:

1) No masturbation, whatsoever. By this I specifically mean no stroking motions. I tried to stay away from any and all pleasuring myself as possible, but in moments of weakness I did rub my dick a bit. Not enough to make me climax, but enough to make the urge go away. The important part was that I did not cum.
2) Porn was allowed; HFO porn was not. In fact, I stayed away from erotic audio because I felt it would tempt me too much.
3) No chastity belt (I don't own one and probably never will)

I think the main thing that helped me get through the challenge was the realization that I can have a fulfilling life without being sexual. Sure, sex is great, but I did tons of other stuff in 2017 that gave my life meaning besides. I worked, went to school, worked on my book, started playing an instrument, etc... I didn't do those things because I stopped masturbating, but replacing the time I spent pleasuring myself with other activities definitely helped.

Refraining from masturbation did not alter my life significantly, but there were changes. For example, my interest in talking and flirting with women increased quite a bit. I think the reasons for that are obvious. I had a little more motivation to get out of my room and do stuff. I didn't have a problem with staying in my room before 2017, but my urges to get out increased nonetheless. Also, my sexual thoughts increased a fuck ton. I was thinking about sex with damn near any women I was attracted to. It wasn't bad enough to interfere with my life, but it was noticeable. That also helped on the front to flirt with women more.

The first three months were the hardest. I think I fully got acclimated to the new change in lifestyle at around the six month mark. I basically said to myself "Wow, it's been six months. If I can do it for the first six months, then I sure as hell can do it for the last six."

Overall, if I could go back and do it again, I would. I like to get out of my comfort zone and experience new things, and the experience of complete denial from masturbation and climax was uncomfortable, but worthwhile. I think I learned some things about myself, not the least of which is how much willpower I have when I set my mind to something. Thanks for your interest -- it's nice to share, since I can't exactly discuss it with my family! I'm happy to answer any other questions you may have. For now, I'm about to put on a nice long erotic hypnosis file when the house quiets down and have an amazing time. I jerked off a little in the shower and it was HEAVEN. Can't imagine what actually cumming is going to be like.
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Fledrin wrote: Tue Jan 02, 2018 1:17 am ...
Thanks for following up! I found it interesting. You do have incredible willpower (and RandomStranger to). I imagine porn became extremely arousing for you compared to normal.
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polkadotwolf wrote: Tue Jan 02, 2018 5:41 am I imagine porn became extremely arousing for you compared to normal.
I spent 90 minutes last night listening to an erotic hypnosis file... my god was my dick sensitive. Towards the end, I was at the point where I edged from the slightest bit of stimulation. I came into a sock and it was wayyyy too much stimulation after all that time without pleasuring myself. Still an out-of-this-world orgasm, though :).
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I'm glad you choose that route. Hypnosis stuff is my favorite. I had an HFO last night after two weeks of denial (if you can call it that compared to you and others on here). I intended to go longer, but I was lying in bed not able to sleep, thinking about listening to my favorite file and I couldn't take it anymore. I had to listen to it. I barely made it 1/2 way through before succumbing.
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Dude, great job going a full year without orgasm, I envy you.

My current record is 24 days, but I can only do it following a tease or something like that, I don't have the force of will to do it by myself. Also, I find that abstaining from cumming actually makes me less productive cause stroking is all I can think of when I'm denied. Thank you for sharing ur experience.
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