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There is not a lot of useful information about this anywhere that I can find so I am looking to this fine forum for some ideas or inspiration. There is a plethora of information out there to help guys last longer but I have the exact opposite problem. I really can go all night....

It literally takes me several hours of pounding to get off. This is not a bragging thing; quite the opposite, it is extremely frustrating. Whether it be me alone with some lovely ladies on the screen, me with a super-hot and energetic partner or with a long-term partner, it still takes me forever. My poor partner ends up sore, exhausted and sated while I still don't get to finish.... She also feels somehow inadequate because she cannot get me off before exhaustion. Her arms and hands are numb, every hole sore and lock-jaw setting in... and that is with me doing most of the "work". Even with a very athletic partner doing most of the "work", the results are predicable as a German train schedule (aka invariably exacting).

I was in a relationship for a very long time where sex was almost taboo. She said she felt "dirty" even with innocuous touching and any time she got off, the session was instantly over. When she was done, it was done... no joy for CH Hero.... Did this "train" me to never being able to finish?

I have tried self-pleasuring when she was not around but that still takes hours to finish. I tried with oils, lotions, creams, etc... to see if it could go any quicker. I always try for something unscented (i.e. some coconut oils, mineral oil, aloe vera, warming oils/lotions, etc...) so as not to raise any taboo suspicions in my S/O. They seemed to help bring it down to a couple of hours for finish.

It got to the point where she just avoided me all the time, even rushing to bed to fall asleep before I got there or a marathon contest to see who could stay awake longer to make it impossible for sex. We literally fought through this for over a year of absolutely no sex, no touching, no physical contact of any kind.

I have tried e-stimming (she does not know about this either as it is taboo to talk about sex), watching porn before (cannot get away with during since she feels inadequate again bringing activities to a screeching halt for weeks), vitamins, even more exercise, extended terms of abstinence, etc... and cannot find/discover something that works. Butt play is out of the question as even a "scope" for me is exceptionally painful. I have been with an above-average number of women (>70) and only a few of them were able to rock my world in under an hour. I could not decipher what they did any differently than any of the others, but they seemed to have the magic touch. It was unfortunate we had different life goals or I could have been sexually satisfied.

I once saw a comic skit by Rick Mercer for something called "On-Time-Va" ( a spoof of Viagra) for guys that don't give a crap about their partner and just want to get off fast. It was both hilarious and disheartening. If only such a product existed I would buy the stuff by the case. My local supplier would not be able to keep it on the shelves.

So... is there something I can do to get me off faster? Any helpful suggestions would be life-altering for me.

Hey, I can partially relate to your problem, because I can't get off fast when I am not horny. On the other hand, I can cum in < 1 minute when the situation is set just right. Sometimes it happens that I am not horny for more than a week and sometimes I need to cum 5 times a day for few consecutive days.

It's hard to give any useful advice based on what you have written... Firstly I thought that you can have a "death grip syndrome" (try to google it and check if you have that or not), but after year of no sex it probably won't be the case. If you have the "death grip syndrome" you can try a fleshlight to help you get rid of that (and you shouldn't press your dick too hard while masturbating). You can also boost your testosterone by some diet changes (not injecting any steroids or anything like that !!) - broccoli does that fine.

Another thing is, if it always was like that (needing hours to get off) or if it started at some particular moment. You can also consider getting your neural system checked just for sure. There can be many causes of course...

Another thing that comes to my mind is the method of "Controlled Inner Cleansing" which is using electro-acupunctural diagnosis to be able to give you the right kind of drops (this medice requires to take 2x 10 drops per dose a day), yet this is a bit far from the conventional western medicine and majority of people doesn't believe it works (I am doing it and it really helps). Problem is, that waiting period for your diagnose can be more very long (it's about 2 months in my country. Or maybe it's not available in your country at all.

And then you can opt for herbal teas (but you first need someone to diagnose you and tell you which teas you should drink and when, how to prepare them and ideally give opportunity to buy the teas from him).

Hope that helps

This definitely sounds like a neurological issue. I found this discussion rather helpful, as I got the neurological components mixed up recently:

https://www.reddit.com/r/askscience/com ... m_is_what/

I tended to have a similar problem when I was younger, able to last for hours. I enjoyed as I'm a fan of long sessions and her getting off...A LOT. But the flip side is no fun either. I know for me, getting into a mental place and imagining myself getting off helped in those situations. I also find there are sounds that get me off easier than others, so you may want to explore that side of things.

For me, I have less a problem with this now than I used to, and to some degree I think it's a better working nervous system thanks to the Chiropractors I've had over the years. That may be something for you to explore as well, as the good ones know how to address the nervous system and get things balanced out.

Thank you for the input so far! I will be looking into the above information in more detail.