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I know this is primarily a Femdom board, but I was wondering if anyone knew of any good sites with teasing techniques for girls, or descriptions of female stimulation based Maledom/femsub BDSM scenes? A Mistress (or gay Master) could pretty much have a ready-made session by taking one of the TOTMs from this site and follow the instructions, replacing Her(or His) hands with the ones described in the tease, or dictating the tease instructions to their sub (ok, now give me 100 slow strokes, then thrust the air untill you calm down), or a mix of both. I'm wondering if there is anything that could be used similarly for girls out there? Changing the guy-specific commands to girl-specific commands doesn't really work as female arousal/cooldown is just plain different, and (on he physical side) there is no /exact/ female equivalent to "100 slow strokes, then thrust the air", so any kind of one-to-one mapping just isn't as effective as the original tease.

There are a lot of Maledom/femsub sites out there, but they tend to concentrate pretty much entirely on male physical enjoyment(using her for His pleasure) and female psychological enjoyment (humiliation, slave training, objectification etc).

Am I making any sense, and can anyone help me?

(Oh, and to prevent any confusion, I'm male and know my way around the female form quite well, thank you very much :P not looking for basic sex ed, just additional sources outside my own brain for tease structure)

You might want to take a look at tantalism.org, I'm not sure it is exactly what you're describing but it is a male dom oriented denial site. There are also a few teases for the ladies scattered around on Milovana you could look through.

There are a couple of blogs you might find interesting as a starting point...

http://lookintokarinsworld.blogspot.com/
http://femaleorgasmdenial.blogspot.com/

Most of the teasing that is done to guys is centered around them having an orgasm or not. Guys build the sexual climax up as the pinnacle of the experience with someone. Seeing as most girls are multi-orgasmic, the approach should be a bit different. When you're teasing a girl, you're not centering everything around making her want an orgasm. You have to make her crave sensations, and deprive her of the ones that she wants the most.

The longer a guy takes to touch me, the more I want it. It's always best to start out slow and make me want you to do something long before you get around to doing it. If a guy is on top of me, a simple brush of his thigh or knee into my crotch, with the right amount of pressure, pushes me into the mindset of wanting to be touched there. Make her think about it and wonder if and when you're going to do it. It's a delicate balance though, as you can't wait forever.

Once you've touched me all over and gotten your hands inbetween my legs...that's another situation that should be dealt with differently. I'd imagine every girl is different, but I love it when a guy goes back and forth between intense sensations, and very light touching. When he starts out very light and soft and slow, and barely inside me...then switches to fingering deep in my body, touching my clit at the same time, tracing circles aronud my nipples. Then...without warning, pulls his hands away from my vagina, pinches my nipples and makes me wait. My hips squirming around, I *need* to be touched again. Cycles like that can work up the sexual tension to the point that I just plain *need* to have an orgasm.

And contrasting sensations always work well too. Pin me down on the bed firmly, and be a little rough and aggressive with me. But...while touching me very very lightly. Or the opposite. Fingering me very deep and hard, almost rough. Ok...rough. ;) but while barely running your fingertips on my chest. In either of those situations you can take one sensation away all of a sudden, then bring it back without warning. Anything that goes back and forth or has contrasting sensations. Grab me, forcefully bring my hands behind my back and hold them there...use my hair to grab my head and bend me over...force your leg inbetween my knees to spread my legs open. Then touch me very very softly and lightly. It's inconsistencies like that which don't let me get a read on what you're doing. It just ramps up the sexual tension but I never feel like there's an oppurtune time to feel comfortable having an orgasm. Usually by the time that happens, it's simply because I can't be turned on any more without cumming. Keep me guessing as to what you want from me. Make me unsure of when you want me to cum...if you get me hot enough, i'll trust that you know what you're doing with me, and i'll hold out as long as I possibly can to see what you're going to do to make me cum. That's what you want...because once I start holding an orgasm back, you can get me in over my head by getting me close then taking it away a few times.

I'm not sure if that makes any sense. But every situation is different. That's what a guy would have to do to tease me...all sorts of contrasting sensations, and taking his time to get in my head and make me want him to do things before he does them. And, of course, getting a step ahead of me without me knowing it. Make me hold back an orgasm on purpose for a while because i'm waiting for him to settle on one consistent feeling, not jumping back and forth all the time. Then, start the real teasing...staying consistent...but just taking it all away at the last moment. ;)

-L

Long time reader, first time poster.

What you described there Lyndsey was very hot. It also gave me a few hints I might have to try out with my girlfriend .

I know this isn't the place for discussing sexual techniques and stuff, but I'm happy this one appeared, could be fun.

Thanks very much. :)