alchemi183 wrote:Enjoying sex, enjoying porn, and wanting to be in porn are three different things. I love sex and I love porn. But I don't want to have sex with anyone but my wife. Even if I had no qualms about that, or I were single, I still would have zero desire to be in porn. I'm much too private of a person for that. I suppose given the ideal set of circumstances, I might agree to go on a date with a pornstar, or to have sex with her, but I still would never want to be in that industry. in simple terms, I'm a voyeur, not an exhibitionist. And I doubt I'm unique in that. Does that help answer your question?
If you're having a hard time separating enjoyment found watching porn and what you perceive would be enjoyment from starring in them, all the more reason to do it, yes? Sounds to me like you're the sort of person who would like it, but no, not everyone would--of that I am certain.
Yup, I see where you're coming from. I totally understand the issue of not wanting to have sex with anyone but your wife. I don't ... uh ... I don't have a wife! Heh ... Also, the issue of being "too private" of a person. These are completely sensible comments that I can empathize with, that do make sense to me. I guess the questions that I'm raising are precisely because they didn't occur to me when left to my own devices on my own, in the first place. This still indicates that maybe I have more of an exhibitionistic or out-there-nutso streak, at least in my assumptions about discussions of what I THINK I want to do, than do a larger portion of other people, larger portion than I might at first have assumed. In other words, I'm more of an anomaly in the who-wants-to-do-porn question than I first realized? Here, without some serious investigation, we're not really able to do the real statistics, of course, so it's all anecdotal. Glad to have your perspective, though, since it's rather different from my own initial perspective and yet is still sensible and respectful etc..
I don't know if I'd characterize my own situation as "having a hard time separating enjoyment found watching porn and what you perceive would be enjoyment from starring in them." I think my situation is more, "wants to enjoy the thrill." I think it would be entirely a different experience. Getting filmed would be the public fun; watching is generally private fun. Both would be fun, but different fun.
Watching porn, I tend to stay totally alone. I've watched with some girlfriends but it's not the same thing, as when I am all alone setting up for a good watch-and-wank. Also, the idea of the cock-hero "competitions" where three or eight or ninety dudes get on-line together and "share" the whack-off to the same beat? That turns me off. It's not that I'm just overtly heterosexual, or even insecure about my sexuality. In fact, I don't think I'd want to do that whacking even if all the other competitors were females watching me. It's not about the likelihood of the other competitors being (or not being) potential sexual partners. It's about getting into the mental zone. I am glad other people find a way to enjoy themselves, I'm not judging! They can do whatever! The more the merrier! But it's not, in general, something that titillates me. Porn is private, to me. Not really "keep it private, keep it safe" like Gandalf said to Bilbo or Frodo about The One Ring. Just "this is what I do alone not with others." Doesn't BOTHER me that others might notice (well, I don't think I'd want my MOM to walk in on me ...) and I'm comfortable about sexuality enough to know (1) it's biological, fun, natural to do, so I'm allowed, and don't need to feel guilty about whacking off; (2) I might "do it" with a guy some day if he were hot enough, so I'm not worried that someone would "turn me gay" or some other myth about male-and-male porn observation. I'm OK with those potential outcomes -- they don't feel risky. But I still prefer private rather than public VIEWING of porn.
But PERFORMING in porn (of course) wouldn't be private. So, in my fantasies and my imagination, mislead as I no doubt am, I imagine that being FILMED in a porn movie would be something thrilling for a bunch of OTHER reasons. Basically ... I want to bone some of those chicks. There are about a zillion hot women whom I have seen filmed, that I want to get to have sex with, and if I could get them in "normal" mating-and-dating ways I'd be just as excited as, if I could only get them by means of getting hired to be filmed screwing them (which, getting hired to be filmed, by the way I don't think is very likely; but that's a different issue). I often wonder, why am I always meeting and dating and mating with women who don't turn me on as much as porn girls do? I know, there's the issues of make-up and lighting and carefully selected angles ... but there's also just the issues of body-fat. And so on.
So, for me, a great deal of the fantasy of performing in porn would simply be, that the sex would be enjoyable BECAUSE THE WOMEN LOOK ENJOYABLE. I of course might not find that to be the case -- they smell bad? or I'm freaked out by the cameraman and the lighting dude shoving a hot Leko in my face? or they're total bitches and have annoying sour-puss expressions on their faces about the fact that they don't want to be fucking me, whenever the camera is not on their faces? That would all suck, of course. I don't pretend that I know what the reality would be. I'm just analyzing the (seeming) motivations for why I have this fantasy.
Thus, order of magnitude one -- I want to fuck some of them -- is my reason for thinking I might want to be chosen to perform in porn. Just some thoughts. :)