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I don't know if you had read my last post about my partner not wanting any sex or to go near me at all at times or u haven't. But I thought I came up with perfect solution due to her normal dominant nature.

MALE CHASTITY.

I thought that the fact she very rarely wants sex and is always moaning at me to do this or do that, that having me in chastity would be perfect.

My reasons.

1. Because she is a dominant person by nature I would hand the the key to be that person .
2. She has been saying she doesn't trust me because I messed up with money last year and she thinks (which I havent ) that I have been seeing someone. So I thought this would show her that I have full trust in her n that she could trust me. I would be giving up my penis to her to keep.
3. With her always saying I don't do enough around the house it would give her full permission to make me do it all.
4. The fact she doesn't want sex hardly ever she would control all aspects of it. Including if or when I can touch myself.
5. For my side the fact we don't have sex would actually have a purpose, a reason to keep me going.
6. I'm not even wanting to do it for the sexual side really. It's mental I want to b her everything n show her she can trust me by giving her everything of me. With one single key to me.
7. I believe it would make us close again due to my attentiveness n how much I need to worship n adore n obey her. Which I try to do already bit she pushes me away. But with chastity she would feel the connection due to her ruling everything.
8. She doesn't like not getting her own way. This way she would get everything.
9. I can't get it out of my head to hand myself over to her. I feel it's only way she will start wanting to be near me.
10. We used to play with just a velcro strap stopping me getting hard n that lasted a day or 2 sometimes and she loved the control n how we where together yet she just can't see it now.

She thinks it's perverted and disgusting when I brought it up and caused a big argument.

I don't understand why she wouldn't want to do it when she did enjoy it on a smaller scale.

I want n need to b hers in this way. I can't stop thingies about it. My heart is pounding constantly at the thought of it. It's making my stomach turn with excitement. My legs are like jelly.

The strange thing is her saying no is making me excited. As I have found the velcro straps and been using them for a week or so now. The more dominant and degrading she is with me the more I want to serve her.

Has anyone else had this problem and if so did you resolve it and did you get the chastity you craved?

Do you know why she's saying no? You said you had an argument.. did any of you explain anything to each other? Do you know her side?

For starters, you shouldn't try to force your kink on someone who doesn't like it. Though I'm not saying she doesn't. Because I don't know her.

The key to most relationships is communication. Talk to her. Perhaps find a way to explain your need to her. Explain that she might not have to do much but to hold the key. Tell her why you want it.

Strangers really can't help you more than this.

I hope she doesn't find you annoying when you're horny. >.>

I explained my reasons n she said it's perverted n disgusting n wants nothing to do with it.

Tbh it's hard to communicate with her at times due to her having few mental issues going on.

We have spoke about it in the past n played using home made device n she really enjoyed it. But things have changed since with family problems and a few loved ones we have lost.

It's took me month's to build up the courage to ask her about it. N that's what I did mentioned it might be a good idea due to her natural dominant personality and lack of wanting sex and also she is always on at me to do stuff. (I do do plenty around the house as it is) but at the moment she is expecting everything. So that's what I have offered her. And something she enjoyed in a smaller way in the past. And normally the thought of being dominant in the bedroom doesn't do it for her until she starts then she loves it N it can last for days.

I'm just puzzled.

I thought ever women's dream was to have a man at her beck n call. Haha

mpmp wrote: Tbh it's hard to communicate with her at times due to her having few mental issues going on.

First Seek professional help, marriage counseling family counseling ..
Even if you Both feel "normal' and "not crazy' counseling is really a good way to make sure your thoughts.desires are heard.
It will alos help you understand your partners needs better.

as for Perverted, well let's be honest.. Chasity ..tease and denial is a Kink so calling it perverted is Accurate!

I was successful for several years with chastity play in my marriage and you really need to work hard at communicating, one talk..even ten talks is not enough..
I firmly believe in your case , seeking counseling is vital as regular doctor visits for physical health.
I have assisted several couples online her on milovana, and bringing tease/denial ..chastity play is something that takes a bit of time to work it into a marriage and many if not most partners do not accept the life style.

remember if you really want it, it is worth working, and even spending the money for coucnling

Thanks again sexualchoc for your words.

We have just started seeing professionals togther. N she does on her own also and has for a bit now.

She used to love it on a small scale as I've mentioned so I thought bringing up the idea again would be a safe thing to do. Yet it still took me month's to build up to asking her.

I suppose you are right it probably is perverted in a way. Just cos the idea seems normal to me I don't loom at it that way.

I've left the subject alone for now with her, I have done a lot of research over the past few months and found a good few pages written by women for women who think along the same lines as her and send her the links when we 1st started talking about it. I'm just hoping she reads them. Haha

As usual I'mgreat full for any advice and will take it all in. And I just hope she comes around to the idea.

Also I was thinking of buying the cage and slowly breaking it in my self incase she does change her mind. Or do you all think that would be stupid. .

mpmp wrote: I thought ever women's dream was to have a man at her beck n call. Haha

no, not at all .. I'm no expert, nor claim to know the inner workings of women :) lol
however, that said, in my opinion women aren't really looking for a man "at her beck n call" .. they want a man to be a "man" .. to be strong (note: not necessarily dominant), just confident, knowledgeable and such ...

You got together initially for 1 reason, there's obviously something she likes about it - but I doubt it's your kink ;) Might "suck to be you", but unfortunately you need to respect her stance in not being interested. as mentioned by others, you can't "force it" on her ..

there's two things I've learned that turn women off / piss women off faster than anything:

1) excessive begging.
2) being forced to do something they don't want.
(both of course having the obvious exceptions of a setup roleplaying scenario ;) lol )

You need to stop thinking about what you want, and more about what she wants/needs ;)
(and hopefully/likely she'll do the same .. relationships are two-way give/take setups, if one is always taking and not giving, it doesn't work).

I haven't forced it on her. I've asked her about it. And only asked in the one conversation so not begged.

We did try it a while ago on a smaller scale and I got to serve her as I need to but she also told me to not stop being me other than I had to do as she said if that makes sense.

She loved the attention as it was lik it was when we 1st got together, she loved me doing everything for her as she is naturally dominant herself. What she didn't want me to change was being the cheeky chappy I was. So I didn't get punished for being myself n answering bak in normal conversation but if she ordered me to do somethingthen I did it or then got punished and she loved it. Things have changed over he years and she doesn't seem to want anything to do with it anymore. Less of a sex drive to which I thougt would work perfect if she controlled if or when and while I was waiting I was in the frame of mind I long to be to serve her.

I appreciate your comments hough. Thanks. I just need other people's views on it to see how they think. Thanks again.

The beck and call statement was just a joke tbh. Haha

Since my last post I need to inform you all that my wife has got her dominant side back and has took me up on the chastity offer. She said once she started thinking about it and did some reading about it she thought she would try it. And now she says she won't look back and it could be a while before I get free.
I must admit I am loving it. X

Oh ye I forgot to add that she makes me look at Web teases on here and watch porn daily and loves having strangers degrade and humiliate me knowing I can't get hard. X